10 Things You Learn From Being Raised By A Strong Mother

I give my daughter what I don't get when i was young. A home that you love to live in. I lost my mom when I was 10 and my dad tried to give me and my sis another mom. He tried twice in fact. The first one divorced immediately after he came home early and found that she was abusing me. 3 yrs and I didn't say anything. The second one was an emotional abuse and finally he divorced 15 yrs later. As a family we were finally happy just the 3 of us, for 3 years and then my dad got cancer and left us. But we are thankful for that amazing 3 years. I looked for all the wrong things outside the home to get away from my stepmoms. I want my daughter to be happy at home and always feel like coming home is the best thing ever. When you go out for happiness you find love at all the wrong places.

nice jugs on that mother

I was raised by a single mother and feel blessed that it happened this way. Through my young life, I learned organically the power of women, how they should be treated, etc...

Awesome post.

Why do we have divorce rate going through the roof?
Point nr 1 summarizes it very well. I know many single mothers who “want it all” and to later realize the value of man and they wished there was a man in the house. As for the rest points, well my mother did her best and she wouldn’t fit this saintly/humanly figure portray in the article. She lost it many times although she would never admit it. Again she did her best and her steps are not to be follow. At least I warned you – inspired and happy reader.

Okay... What she really learned was 1 through 9....it's okay to go cow girl. And 10...it's okay to be the horse!!! Brahahahahahahahahahaha

Okay... What she really learned was 1 through 9....it's okay to go cow girl. And 10...it's okay to e the horse!!! Brahahahahahahahahahaha

Isn't immaculate conception a wonderful way to get preggers

BS. A feminist article Life is better when shared with another. Unless one doesn't want to marry.The joy of having and raising children. Taking care of each other, having someone who loves you unconditionally

yeah... i know one of those "strong women" calls me at 2:15 am because she never listens when told she needs to maintain her car or it will quit some winter night at 2:15 am. no matter, i'll call 'ol waylon to bring his wrecker and fix it. yeah...charming, i never will forget when i found out she was running off ladies i dated so i could be available.

Amen!! This is so true. I was raised by a strong mother. Those core values I was taught have now been passed onto my own daughter. God knows, it wasn't easy growing up, but those life's lessons have sure helped me to mature and be a very responsible woman in life. Thanks, Mom. :-)

Having done this alone, this is a beautiful article. There is no handbook with parenting and we all make mistakes. I believe this article is summarizing that of a "strong woman." We aren't all strong but we all strive to do our best. The key here is extracting the wonderful lessons learned and forgiving each other for the rest. Anger and resentment is only baggage that takes a tremendous amount of energy to maintain which could be more productive spent elsewhere on "positive" impact.

the whole idea about having it all,doing it alone ect is a lie.Oh I agree women are very capable,its not humanly possible to do "it all" for a very long period of time...sometning breaks...no,thier homes are not always clean,thier kids have troubles in school,especially boys without a dad in his life,,girls are neglected,,,moms too busy ,,working,cleaning,or is just exhausted,,,,having a husband is ultimatley the best ideal,working or not,,and usually,the kids take the blow in their lives....

My wife did not have a mother. As a three year old she and her siblings were abandoned as mom decided to look after her self rather than those precious gifts from God. Cheryl and her siblings grew up in different orphanages, mistreated, abused but mostly, and importantly, unloved. I can only imaging the enormous hole it left in her heart. And it has effected every relationship she ever had.

She was "groomed and gleaned" by a 35 year old man looking for a younger trophy. Evidently his previous wife and child had not met his expectations well enough. So he found Cheryl. And in her 17th year this child, so starved for love and affection, bore a baby child to this dispicable man.

Four years later and now with three baby girls in tow the master of the home began looking elsewhere for young love. In order to exert his masculine ness to the uttermost he waged a protracted battle for custody of "his girls".our now 21 year old mother fought ferociously, losing some, winning some, but finally the more mature entity with money won. And though the girls were the actually losers, Cheryl battled.

During the battle, and while often caring for these precious toddlers, with sheer determination she gained her high school diploma, entered University and eventually received her Psychology degree, eventually establishing a successful disability support firm. Her horrible struggles seemed to be behind.

Cheryl married a fellow educator and seemed to have escaped the horrible events of her early life. But Fate continued to rear its ugly head. Continued problems with the first partner were detrimental. A new and loving man entered her life but all was not roses. Financial burdens, joint custody difficulties and then a terminal illness blackened the potential happiness. Eventually when the new partner passed and the doom and grayness soon began to descend. For one to have gone through so much it seemed so much more was yet to come.

Over the past 16 years we have had great time and those of despair. Attitudes developed during her previous battles that left scars. What seems to be a narcissistic personality is actually deeply rooted in insecurity. The open and directness developed during younger years often come across as condescending and abrasive. And the ability of Cheryl to be public ally wrong is devistating to her. And it seems to be sliding downhill daily.

We now have the enemy of the day, or week. At any given time some has mistreated her, spoken negatively about her, or snubbed her. As husband I am recipient of the continual stories of lies, deceit and meanness people subject her to. It has migrated as well, from work colleagues, to close friends and, as of this weekend, to family.

And I personally do not know what to do. I can enable her be affirming all she thinks or does. I can encourage viciousness towards others by quietly standing aside and letting her go. Or I can attempt to get her help she so desperately needs.

She refuses to see there is a problem with her or her attitudes or actions. Those who say "enough" and minimize or end contact become betrayer so and enof emday the ies. Those to attempt to help are ignorant, mean and destructive.

I do not know what to do. My own longtime friends have slowly exited as Cheryl's behaviour becomes more contentious. My family choose to avoid conflict, and ultimately, avoid me.

Cheryl did not have a mother. What do I do now?

I am so sorry for all of you who were hurt by your mothers. I also hope that my sons never find (for a wife) some of you based on your abrasive language. By the way, my mother did some abuse to me, but at some point, I said that the buck stops with me and decided to be responsible for how I treat others including my self. Perhaps give Christ a change. He showed love and gives love and is an example like the time the people were going to stone the woman caught in adultery. By all means, please don't pass on the bad behavior. If you need help, get it and deal with it. Then move on to make a positive difference on someones life.

This says it all, even if we did not give all these messages they should have been conveyed, but eventually they were given and understood. I learned and hopefully, I taught them.

Will you all just shut the f*** up!!!!?? My daughter sent this to me about her and i. She is 20 and I am 43. I had a shitty growing up too, but you don't see me on here ranting for a pitty party nor do I let that define me as I became a mother. This is about inner strength that you can get from your mother and realizing all that she has gone thru internally to make your life better. Which I do for my children. Some people have good moms, others, not so much. Sorry you don't. Mine was alcoholic, I get it. But shut up and let the mothers who got this in their mailbox from their kids as a I love you or as a thank you for being a great mom, enjoy it. I have spent a life time building my children up emotionally and physically so they can be strong capable people. The fact that it was recognized and appreciated is endearing to me. Sorry it isn't for you. But if I were your mom, I would tell you that "less is more and sometimes its okay to be happy for other people, even if that doesn't include you."

The only thing I learned from my mother was #6: how to create my own happiness. My mother was a good mother, but she was emotionally vacant for me from a very early age. As I grew older, she and I became rivals. We didn't really like each other very much. My relationship with her didn't improve until I was in my late 30's and 40's. She didn't acknowledge my goodness until her death bed. At least I got that.

As someone with a shitty mother who complains about how hard having kids is, I doubt having a good mother changes anything. Well, maybe if I didn't grow up getting told how I'm a mistake and how I should kill myself by my own mother, I wouldn't be who I am today. I'm 12, so I kinda just have to ignore it, but ya, fuck her.

To 1, are you saying I need a good mom to know I'm able to take care of myself and I don't need a man? Uhhmmm, I'm pretty sure having a good mom has nothing to do with that.

Feminists on this article, please shut up. Feminists are fat old sexists who can't get a boyfriend amirite? And malefeminists are whiteknights. As white as snow. Oh, and if you don't understand that last thing I wrote, then I suppose you need to browse 4chan more or something. I dunnoo

Love them all except number 2. Number 2 is straight up number 2. I don't always have a smile on my face and I do complain sometimes. Because I'm a fucking human being, this shit is hard, and I'm not a robot. Come on. Be realistic. I don't know a single single parent that never complains or always has a smile on their face. That's impossible. Other than that, well done.

Beautiful article, I believe the author hit all the nails on the head. Thank you, lovely article once again. xo

OMFG to all the ridiculous comments. This is a pretty simple article about being raised by a strong mother. This is not about needing a father, not needing a father, not having a father, feminism, man-hatred, God, or any of the crap people are projecting because they're feeling extra touchy today. If you want to read an article about being raised by a strong father, go read one. I'm sure it's out there.

Ok, Idk who raised the author of this article but ummmm... I did not learn these things necessarily from being raised by a strong mother. I learned the value of independence definitely (one of my most treasured lessons from her), and maybe #10. The rest of them are continuously being learned out here in the world <3

Mother is no doubt blessing of GOD

There seems to be some confusion about what this article is talking about, judging by some of the comments beneath it. This is not a pro-feminist article (& I am an English teacher, specialising in Comprehension & Analysis). This title refers to being raised by a strong mother. On reading it, it was clear to me that it's talking about women who, like myself, did not choose to bring their children up alone. It was simply the situation that I found myself in when my ex-husband left when my children were very small (he never made any financial contributions, sent the children birthday cards etc). Even when you're a middle-class graduate living in one of the UK's wealthiest, most educated cities, it's tough and isolating to successfully bring children up on your own - I've often said that no-one in their right mind would choose to do so. My children (now adults - a son & a daughter) adore their grandfather, uncles, godfathers & male family friends and recognise the support we got from them so they certainly haven't been brought up to be anti-men. I would have loved to have met a new partner but it just didn't happen - possibly because I was always working so hard and didn't have the time or the finances for a social life. Stereotypes have no place in intelligent debate and I strongly believe credit should be given where credit is due. That is what this article is doing.

but this is how men are used...to make the child then they are forced out of the childs life because the feminism of the hatred towards men......its a culture of hate

A strong father is much more beneficial, especially as a child enters their teens.
The reason the black community is so fucked up is because 70% of them are raised by single mothers.

Good list, except for #7. That's insinuating dependence on an imaginary male figure who will make everything all right. We've had to make it on our own.