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Need your help. (self.MGTOW)

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I made the terrible mistake of falling in love, and that thing destroyed me as a person. It made me depressed, and and my mind doesn't work as before. Now I'm a mgtow , I don't give a crap about the social accepted or women, and I'm not interested in forming relationships or having sex. I have actually found and set some goals in my life that I enjoy. The only problem is that since that stupid whore started using me and broke up with me , I'm feeling constantly pain, inside my brain and don't really have the energy to fulfill my goals. I keep thinking about her , even if I don't want to, and since that cancerous meeting I noticed that I don't have the same virtuous interests, but I'm starting to act like a stupid cunt. All that started a year ago, but the pain is not stopping. What should I do? I read that many of you have similar experiences, do you happen to have any good advices too?

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[–]HIGHLORDOFSHITSTAINS 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Idk man i damn near drank my myself to death. I don't suggest you do that.

Hit the gym? Force yourself to do shit.

Everytime you think about her you gotta do 20 push ups.

Hit a punching bag.

[–]Ariesthatwatches 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Try meditating and find out why you feel like you needed her acceptance.

Maybe once you identify the underlying issue, you can constructively and intentionally reverse or mitigate the problem. Or at least identify the problem when it resurfaces from time to time and try tackling it in a productive manner where you focus your mind on something else.

To be completely honest, there is no one trick to stop the feeling what you feel. You'll have to grow as an individual in order to overcome that feeling.

I struggle with it. But I'm the type to get angry/motivated, and that motivation/anger will usually lead me into a completely different train of thought. I'll usually end up working out. That usually helps me out cause it releases endorphins which makes me feel good. After that It'll be the farthest thing from my mind. But each person is different, something else may help you out vs me.

[–]IronPimpernel 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Sure, man. She's all up in your head and you need to excise her like the damn tumor she is. I took up alcoholism for a few years, that's done the trick but I do not recommend it. Daily meditation is a great help for training your brain to toe the line. There's plenty of things to fill your life with - Reading, physical exercise, art, work, e-sports. See, the problem is that pussy is a drug and you are an addict. Having the drug taken away from you (the chick leaves) is your rehab. She's not coming back. She doesn't love you. She's the one responsible for making you feel this way, so fuck that bitch.

Here's something that helped me when I couldn't shift the funk: Spend a day in mourning. Just drink, cry, break shit, whatever you need to do - just do it alone. Then after that day is over, you will no longer have the slow-drip emotional torture that you had. Where that was, there will be nothing. Only you will remain.

[–]Rescuedbeta 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Is your house clean? Is your dishes done? Do you cook your own meals? Any projects you been wanting to do? Do your friends have any you can help with. Have a dog? Take it for a walk. Go to gym. Wash your car. Go to batting cages, gun range, driving range. Avoid porn, alcohol and probably romantic music, movies. They will make you miss pussy and wipe out any progress you make. Your body will give you energy you just have to tell your brain to fuck off. Once, you start accomplishing shit you will gain confidence, willpower, mental fortitude.

[–]byers18901 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Was she your first serious girlfriend? I know with my first serious gf when we broke up it tore me up inside for months. I loved her so incredibly much. But that's the rub. You love her. She doesn't love you. Not the same way you did her.

Now is the hard part. Letting go. It's hard. It's soul crushing. But each day will get a little bit better. Until she is just a string of memory. Ephemeral. Popping up in your consciousness from time to time. Until she drifts back into the ether.

There's a strong likelihood she'll never be fully gone. That's okay. Just try not to dwell on it.

Take it one day at a time. And just try to make each day better than the last.

As far as getting out of the funk you need to lift weights. Even if it is simple body weight resistance type stuff. Read 15 minutes a day minimum. Has to be something tangible you hold in your hand. Like a book or magazine. Aim to take a 15-20 minute walk everyday. Both of these activities are the MED to release endorphins to boost your mood. Also cultivate gratitude.

In the morning take 5 minutes and think of three things you are grateful for. Write them down so you see it. Could be your first car you ever had. A compliment you received. Your house. Waking up. A vacation you took. Your job. You get the idea.

Meditation is also a good idea. Or at least practice mindfulness. So when you feel the funk coming you can at least be cognizant of it and try to push it away. Or drop and do a pushup or more even, if you feel the darkness coming on.

R/nonzeroday - check it out. I think it will be of some help to you.

Just do the best you can. And forgive yourself if you have a bad day. We're only human.

Best of luck to you brother. We're here for you.