I don't believe in marriage anymore. As you can see from my post history, I caught my ex-wife cheating on me at the end of 2015. This bitch was literally shopping for a bigger house with me during the day, and then sucking someone else's dick at night, and then kissing me on the mouth about it. She was acting like a spoiled entitled cunt, putting me off from wanting to "hang out" with her by being shitty to our kids and yelling/berating me for bullshit... basically her problem with me was that she felt ignored. She left evidence out in the open, which led me to flash her phone and discover a fucking treasure trove of infidelity, including pictures. Because this stupid bitch left pictures out for me to find, I was able to get 50/50 custody with my kids with no child support payments. And guess what? This cunt met some fucking 38 year old dumb asshole back in October that's a project manager at a hospital. He probably makes close to 6 figures on his own, owns a big house, and has no idea what happened. This cunt literally lies to herself - I left her and moved out, but she said "this is why I left you," as if I didn't catch her cheating the other day... at first I was like, "wtf are you talking about?" and now I realize that she's lying to this dude. Not my problem - the truth always comes out, and I'm not going to tell him. But my ex is a hoe - she's known this chuckle head since Mid October and she's already about 16 weeks pregnant with his kid. They got married on Jan 21st... after knowing each other 6 weeks, because she's preg, and moved one town over. I'm annoyed at this, because I got a condo down the street from the house this cunt made me buy and fought me to keep, so that everything involving the kids would be nice and easy for the both of us. Now I'm shlepping an hour in the car back and fourth an hour every other day. I'm thinking that this marriage will implode - it's come back to me that she's told this clown that I was abusive to her. Untrue. All I did was find out that she is a lying whore.

So I met another girl, we'll call her Rebecca. She's a great girl in the sense that she's kind, and has a good heart. I actually do love her. But, there's baggage here. She's got an autistic son. At first I was really mad at the world about her predicament - I'm spinning my wheels doing everything that I can in order to provide for shit head who is fucking around and not appreciating anything that I'm doing for her, and this sweet lady gets knocked up by her fiance who bails on her and leaves her. People are fucked up man. So I reached out to her on some "the world is fucked up," type shit, and we connected. She's in love with me, wants to get married... but I have two kids, and there's an issue that I didn't see with her until recently.

She comes over with her son for entire weekends and mooches off of me like I can't believe. She does like 40 bucks worth of laundry at a time, eats my food, and doesn't really contribute much. I work from home, and sometimes she's here with her son while I"m doing so, and she does NOTHING the entire day. Her son is autistic, as stated, but there is another glaring issue here that is creating a lot of resentment on my side of the fence. She doesn't follow through with him. This kid is almost 5 years old and he's still in diapers. Behavior that should not be excused under any circumstances is written off as "he's autistic," and she likes to bring him over because I get him to act right. The kid's problem is like 5 percent autism (he's high functioning, kid whoops ass at video games.) and about 95 percent lazy mom. I've pointed out this before and she immediately reverted to "you're being a bully," and stuff. Her kid would be fine if she gave him discipline, but she's so lacking in this department that I'm baffled. When I first started getting involved with her I really didn't see this coming. The other thing is that she's on disability. She's able bodied, but she had an abuse in her past that she used as a catalyst to get onto the program. Her apartment is subsidized, and I don't know wtf she does when I'm not around, but it isn't bettering herself. She's a super talented musician, but she only works in the context of "buy studio time" or if I'm willing to be there to do all of the work for her. I work 60 hour work weeks to kill off this marital debt that I was left with (Only about 25K out of the 50K to go, so don't get me started there... that's how I was able to also negotiate the no child support payments aspect of the situation.) But she's making me feel like I"m walking into a trap.

I've broken up with her twice, both times she kinda over reacted, and I'm like "I want to stay friends," and we end up "back together." I don't want to do this horse shit anymore. I don't want to end up with a potential 40 year dependent that I'm solely responsible for disciplining. Something I'm learning is that, it's a great feeling to be in love, but it's just like drugs. It leaves you feeling empty and with a whole new set of problems that you're not really wanting to get into. I just want to work and enjoy my creative arts and earn my masters and be a super dad to MY two kids when I have them. Yes - I love Rebecca... but so the fuck what? I had a vasectomy and don't want anymore kids. I just want to be happy. She does it momentarily, but then I see this lack of ambition and laziness, coupled with these excuses for these problems, and I don't know what to do. I can't just excuse this shit because it'll make another divorce. And every-time I address these issues with her she just excuses herself. I'm busting my ass going to school full-time online, and work, and I'm not doing it just so I can take care of someone... unless it's my own kids.

I've drank the cool-aid and now realize that women are not partners. They expect to be taken care of. They don't add much to your life other than to make you work for them. They enslave you, and when things start to not be what they envisioned, they do whatever they can for themselves without caring about how anyone else feels about it. However I don't believe in being a mean dick about this. I just want to end it. I watched my father cheat on my mom, and then enslave himself. The dude is almost 70, working to pay for a 500,000 dollar house, and is taking care of about 4 children that are not his. Yea, love, whatever... I'm not fucking doing it. Her son is a great kid, he has a lot of potential, but I can't be the thing that saves the day here. Having a 12 year old in diapers who freaks out about random baloney, while having the perspective of "everything should be catered to me," it's just not how the world works. Autism isn't much of a problem if the parents jump on it early and do something about it (depending on severity) but my issue isn't that he's autistic, it's that I'm expected to be the catalyst to help him move forward. THIS SHOULD BE HAPPENING REGARDLESS OF MY INVOLVEMENT. If she said something to me like "I have to take a weekend with my son," I would be over the moon. But she keeps putting ME first over him, and I don't like it. I can't be making 100K a year while someone does the welfare camp at my home that I pay for and then expects me to clean and do the dishes.

How can I get out of this relationship for good?

TL;DR - Ex wife is a whore that cheated, new girlfriend is lazy and too dependent with an undisciplined autistic son - how can I end this peaceably?