My observation was inspired by this:

So transgenderism takes over their whole lives and its just like an addiction, needing more and more,

You have it backwards, in my opinion. The reason transwomen are a bottomless pit of need, is because the thing they are eating to fill their pit, isn't the thing which will ever fill it. Imagine someone who is thirsty for water yet keeps eating only salted popcorn. That's not an addiction to popcorn, that's a failure to properly recognize what they do need while making their need worse.

Deep abiding shame (that they don't have x), coupled with a profound sense of ownership (that they should have x), plus an overwhelming entitlement that they shouldn't need to work (to earn x), are actually the three pillars which create narcissism.

In order to genuinely fix their narcissism, they would have to work on all three of those. So with transwomen, they continually insist on an ever increasing amount of "validation" that they are women regardless of how much effort they put into "passing". (Which of course doesn't work because nothing will ever turn them into a human with a normal functioning female reproductive system; and deep down, they know this.) So what they really need to do instead, is work on their own internalized toxic masculinity which says that only women are allowed to be pretty or wear dresses or whatever the fuck it is that they want to do, AND also work on their own internalized belief that they shouldn't have to challenge patriarchy when it comes to the idea that real men can't do whatever, and lastly, that they actually need to do this work themselves instead of expecting or coercing women to do it for them. Honestly, this is truly a situation where liberal feminists trying to do this work for transwomen WILL BACKFIRE EVERY FUCKING TIME SINCE LIBERALS DON'T WANT TO UNDERSTAND THE UNDERLYING PATHOLOGY OF NARCISSISM and in particular, also require the practice and theory of enabling EXPLAINED TO THEM THEN THEY ARE MAKING THINGS WORSE.

Remember the three pillars. One of them is the expectation that they don't have to do the work themselves. Doing this work for them (or even merely trying to protect their feelings from reality) is just you reinforcing their belief that you exist for their free labor and this enabling behavior of liberal feminists helps to keep them perpetually stuck. At most, feminists can remind them of the work that they need to do on toxic masculinity, while issuing the occasional warning when their work begins that fatal slide yet again into mra/misogyny territory, which of course tends to happen constantly. But anybody who gives a narcissist what they want, is merely acting as food -- as the narcissistic supply which makes them grow.

And when you think about it like that, it explains why the demands for compliance are becoming more strident inside the cult of transgenderism even while peak trans is growing outside the cult. Our media saturated culture, big pharma, and liberals all keep giving them validation that they're "women" which is narcissistic supply.

Discuss, or not. These are my thoughts, and your opportunity to correct any wrong thinking on my part.