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Dating in Columbus (self.Columbus)

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So I've posted a few times about moving and I'm so excited but now I'm freaking out! I want to get into a relationship so badly and I'm afraid, I intended to use tinder and bumble and match but what else? I am 26 I want to start a family soon and it hasn't happened yet. I hope Columbus is my fresh start and things are awesome but what can I do to finally find someone?!

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[–]Tittysparklekitty 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (15子コメント)

Ok, so I'm 35 year old cat lady. This is my area of expertise.

What you need to do immediately is not date until you don't want to date anymore. No really. You do not want to be vulnerable or desperate going into a dating relationship. Because in all likelihood you will get yourself into a bad situation.

Once you've achieved homeostasis- you can either date or not. And that way, you will make smart choices and be happy alone or in a couple.

Best of luck to you.

[–]Dollar_BillsGrove City 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You make too much sense for this subreddit. Getting your own shit together before bringing someone else into your shit is the only course of action people should take.

[–]Auniquename2[S] -5 ポイント-4 ポイント  (13子コメント)

But I have been wanting it for forever, I can't see that changing ever. If anything it's worse now because I'm at an age where my friends are getting engaged and pregnant and I'm like not doing any of that. I think I'm pretty well together I have a masters and a career.. I should have someone by now. Aren't you worried at 35 and being single? Don't you want a family?

[–]optiplex9000Clintonville 13 ポイント14 ポイント  (1子コメント)

You come off as completely baby crazy. No wonder you're having dating issues.

[–]EcoBuckeyeWest 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I had my first kid at 35 and I lived my life to the fullest until then - and I met my soul mate while travelling. Some folks just have different priorities.

[–]Auniquename2[S] -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Did you met your SO when you were in your 30s? I'm just afraid it won't happen, I want a family so badly

[–]EcoBuckeyeWest 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

No, I was 29. But close enough. Of course, now I'm old and my kids make me tired, so there's that.

[–]Tittysparklekitty 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I'm not worried. Like, at all. Aren't you worried that you are worried?

[–]im_not_a_grill 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

She's watched too many Disney fairy tales to care about being worried. She DESERVES a family, haven't you heard?

[–]stellar-doorHilliard 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You and /u/Tittysparklekitty are like fountains of sage wisdom and experience, and she's too busy with her hands cupped over her ears shouting, "LA LA LA CAN'T HEAR YOU I NEED ALL THE BABIES". Threads like this one make me so glad I got a vasectomy.

[–]BurningBeard24 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

just go buy a puppy and see what it turns into, better yet go buy a ton of plants and drop some acid and pretend theyre your kids

[–]Auniquename2[S] -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I don't like animals and plants have bugs and that's gross

[–]tabintheocean 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

If you can't handle a puppy, you can't handle a baby

[–]BurningBeard24 [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

who is going to change your kids diaper? who is going to nurse him when he is throwing up and diarrhea all over the bathroom. when he cuts himself are you strong enough to bandage him and play healer. what if your kid REALLLY WANTS ANIMALS, what if your kid wants to collect bugs.

dont

FUCKING

have

KIDS

[–]im_not_a_grill 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I just want to say this is the best thread to ever happen to this subreddit and I'm so disappointed it's been downvoted.

[–]Bassdropper_ 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Post pics

[–]billy_balllicker 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yea, let's make this thread the fucking personal ads, im so game.

[–]AndyGeneNew Albany 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (7子コメント)

Guys if you hook up with u/Auniquename2 make sure you use your own condoms that she hasn't poked holes in.

[–]Auniquename2[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (6子コメント)

I would never do that.

[–]AndyGeneNew Albany 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (5子コメント)

Except here you describe your plan to do just that. https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/5ll6de/can_you_have_a_relationship_with_no_sex/dbwjs1a/

[–]Auniquename2[S] -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

No?? I said I am ok with dating someone shortly and getting pregnant by them. That happens to people all the time, my friend was with her guy a month when she got pregnant (they aren't together) but it happens.

[–]Tittysparklekitty 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Dating someone short term and getting pregnant is not a good plan. So you are desperate to have a baby- I think we've all picked up on that. Now think about the baby and not just what you want. What's that? Yes. It's. not. Fair. To. The. Baby. Part of being a good parent starts long before the idea of having a child even occurs. You need to be stable financially. Hopefully in a good long term relationship. And on and on.

[–]billy_balllicker 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Holy shit this thread reads like Liz Lemon's life story.

[–]BurningBeard24 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

i cant even believe people are like this, completely fuckin mental. tbh imo fam i now realize im failing at life without college and a family i feel bad now... im gonna aimlessly go through college in hopes a strong independant woman comes along and gives me her riches, but they wont love me, im gonna have to poke a hole in a condom and entrap her

[–]optiplex9000Clintonville [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

For even more entertainment, check out her post history

[–]rockdrummersrock 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I have some single friends. PM me and we'll set you up on a blind date with them.

[–]SeaBusCBusGahanna 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (16子コメント)

I have a very strong feeling you are a dude.

[–]discretion 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

There's nothing different about meeting people in Columbus versus ANY place else.

[–]AndyGeneNew Albany 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (8子コメント)

I think is what you need is BOB (battery operated boyfriend). Go to the Lions Den. The clerk there will hook you up with something that will make you feel way less lonely.

Acting on the feelings you have now are the reason why people get divorced at such high rates. Seriously, read what you written on Reddit. you aren't looking for a life partner. You are looking for a sperm doner.

Side note, are you a member of some sort of culty religion? I'm 32. While several of my friends are married only one has kids.

[–]Auniquename2[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (7子コメント)

I feel gross using toys it's like embarrassing to me as if I can't get someone but then I feel guilty if I have sex with someone who isn't dating me. I'm a mess. I'm not part of a crazy religion lol I am a Christian but not like super strict. lol I guess I just have to move and see how it goes

[–]AndyGeneNew Albany 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (6子コメント)

You have to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else. If toys scare you, you should try your fingers. Or maybe a vegetable.

[–]billy_balllicker 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Or maybe a vegetable.

Spaghetti squash

[–]Auniquename2[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

lol toys don't scare me, just masturbating in general makes me feel bad which is weird. It makes me feel like I am a loser which is weird I know. I think I love myself but I think I'm a better person in a relationship

[–]AndyGeneNew Albany 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (3子コメント)

How do you feel about butt stuff? Like what if the guy you meet won't give you babies unless you are into that. I think you should be prepared if you really want to be in a relationship.

[–]Auniquename2[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Once I'm in a relationship I'll do whatever

[–]deadrepublicanheroes 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

oh lawdy jaysus

[–]diamondsealtdWorthington 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Whatever can mean an awful lot of things.

[–]TrivaleGrove City 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (9子コメント)

If you rush it, it isn't going to happen. If you aren't a tall, beautiful, and successful man, or a very humble woman, online dating isn't going to happen. The trouble with online dating is that the women have their choice of men, and are waiting for the perfect one. Are you going to be it?

I was desperate once, as well, and tried all of that stuff, and in the end, I met the woman of my dreams at a gas station. I wasn't even looking for her. Relax, be yourself. Start with having some good friends.

[–]mg85Galloway 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Why humble versus confident?

[–]TrivaleGrove City 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I wasn't aware that they were mutually exclusive.

[–]mg85Galloway -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm trying to understand why she needs to be humble.

[–]TrivaleGrove City -3 ポイント-2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

She's going to have droves of desperate guys throwing themselves at her for attention with online dating. Some will be crude, some downright disgusting. A bit of humility could go a long way toward wading through that mess.

[–]sixnerReynoldsburg 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Really similar situation here.. had been single for quite a while, was using a couple different online options to meet women. Decided "meh, I'd take any new friends really..." so I posted a craft beer buddy ad on Craigslist. Had a few guys message me about meet ups, and one random girl. Met up for a platonic couple beers [she had a BF], had a great time chatting... now she's my wife.

Funny how it's when you stop looking at try to move on with other things that you actually meet the person you're looking for. I think it helps that you're not looking for "dating" but rather looking for "hobby buddies" or something similar where things can just happen.

[–]Auniquename2[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I'm a woman, I'm cute I think lol I don't know anyone in Columbus so I don't know where I would go or who I would go with

[–]Tittysparklekitty 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yeah, but how cute are you on the cute to crazy ratio? You have to be cuter than you are crazy, kwim?

God made me pretty cute because I'm fucking insane and he knew it was my only shot at love. #blessed

[–]stellar-doorHilliard 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You're now tagged as "wisecrackin' cat lady" in my RES. Thanks for making me laugh throughout this thread.

[–]Demonsspawn 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You'll get plenty of pipe babe ignore the haters

[–]failuer101 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Isn't that the question?

[–]McLargepants 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

So as a contrary opinion to others, I met my fiancee on Tinder. Stuff just happens. I also met a few weirdos but that's why you always meet in a public place. And you never know you might hit a gold mine of awesome. (and for those wondering, I don't have a great job and I'm average in terms of looks, I just threw my interests out there and I got extremely lucky.) I probably had more luck with finding normal people on OKCupid so I would highly recommend giving that a shot too.

[–]shnus 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Now this is a crazy person!

[–]buckette19 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (7子コメント)

I'm married so I don't have any experience dating in Columbus in the last 5 years or so, but the best way to get a boyfriend is stop being so desperate to get a boyfriend. Meet new people, make friends, if you're into any of them as more than just friends let him know, but don't be pushy.

[–]Auniquename2[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (6子コメント)

I work with all women, like I literally know maybe 2 people in Cbus that I haven't talked to in years. Who will I go with to make friends? Like I don't want to have to go to bars alone

[–]buckette19 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (4子コメント)

You don't have to go to bars. That's probably the worst place to meet people. What kind of stuff are you into? Take a cooking class or join a book club. Join a hiking group or a rock climbing class. Go to the art museum or to the conservatory. There are a TON of things to do in Columbus and you can meet all sorts of nice people. And once you meet one or two people, if you're nice and fun they'll introduce you to their other friends.

[–]Auniquename2[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I'm just going to try everything I really really hope I meet someone. This is affecting every part of my life

[–]im_not_a_grill 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

OK honey boo boo, let's say you meet a dude and you crank out a couple fart factories. Then what?

[–]Auniquename2[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I have no idea, be a happy wife and mommy. I want like 4 kids close together so?? Idk

[–]im_not_a_grill 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You know what, at first I was a dickhole but I can appreciate your candor. I sincerely hope you find someone for you and when you two have kids, you both raise them to be good persons.

If I knew any single dudes, I'd hook you up.

[–]Kicker774North 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

r/Columbussocial usually has weekly bar meetups

You could also hit up r/Ohior4r (watch out for dick pics, you will get dick pics)

[–]diymatt 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'd say make a OkCupid profile with everything you said in your opening statement. Watch the gentleman come rolling in.

[–]Auniquename2[S] -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'll leave out the marriage and babies. I think I'm just going to try all the dating sites and hopefully I'll meet someone quickly.

[–]Uberpwnyexpress23 [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Jesus Christ this is insanity. Your moving to a new city you don't know anyone and your first thought is you want to start dating and start a family soon. Something is wrong with you. Who is gonna want to enter into that kind of relationship with you?? You're 26 years old for Christ sakes what's the hurry. Cause you have friends who are getting married and pregnant you feel you should too??? That's psycho level shit. Kids aren't something to want on a depression induced whim.

[–]gwenstefannypackClintonville [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

  • Your worth as a woman (and as a human being, for that matter) is not determined by whether or not you are in a relationship or even married by a certain age.
  • If what you truly want is to get married and start a family, you just need to be patient. It will happen in its own time.
  • You're 26, the same age as me-- far from old. People these days don't really settle down until they're in their 30s. Hell, there are plenty of women who have babies well into their 40s.
  • Say, hypothetically, you don't find the love of your life until you're past child-bearing age. There are plenty of children in the foster care system who would be grateful to have parents who care for them.
  • Furthermore, would you rather be in a totally mediocre relationship right now and end up being absolutely miserable later on down the road or would you prefer to find your soulmate later in life?

This is just my take on it, and you can do with it as you wish.

[–]kingrichard336 -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Have you checked out Xenos?