https://www.reddit.com/r/Christianity/comments/5qhyov/does_god_want_me_to_get_married_again/

"Background: Divorced at 23 back when I was a non-Christian. Left a hole in my heart and leaves me very distrustful of women in general. I was cheated upon multiple times throughout that relationship, and I finally had enough, and my parents didn’t support that relationship so it died, and I divorced without real world consequences.

Fast-forward to 2014, I met a girl in a bipolar depression support group. We both have some problems, dating goes well until she gets mad at me for something I perceive to be very small (talking to my Mom while she cooks dinner). She said she felt abandoned at the stove we were both cooking on when I decided to call my mother. Ok so this is a major red flag for me that she can get mad at something so small. We continue to date on and off, and the off’s were mostly caused by her ultimatum’s about marriage. I’ve been married before and it didn’t work out, and I’m afraid it won’t work out again. Also she has no job, I have a job as a computer programmer so I would have to support her + a child probably. Anyway… God has kept her close to me. We did an Alpha like course together, got baptized together, and had a lot of on and off’s in the relationship, from me thinking I would be better off alone. She’s never been married, and I’m just afraid she’ll nag me and get bored of me for whatever reason. I also had one dream from God, where he says “My house is made for marriage.” Before I wake up.

Currently we are on an ON season and it seems she really wants to get married. It would be hard, but I could probably barely right now and better in the future be able to support both of us and maybe 1 child. We’d probably have to rent when we are first living together. She said that she’s had a hard time moving on from me, that when her group prayed for her I unblocked her on my phone and sort of came back into her life. My therapist thinks I should just move on at this point. I’m also afraid of the possibility of the big “D” with alimony or child support. I’d probably be caring for her almost as if she was a second child if I married her, except she can cook and do fun activities with. We both have separate therapists but might need a marriage therapist for things to be ok.

We are both recently Christian and recently baptized (June last year), so maybe God sees something that I don’t? I feel that I shouldn’t really be involved with someone I have so much doubt about, but she does have some upsides like (recently Christian, mostly good personality, smart, can cook, attractive).

Help?"