Life purpose.

What Do You Breathe For?

What’s your purpose, your mission in life? What do you live and breath for?

David Deida wrote the book – “The Way Of The Superior Man” an incredible read. It was the first, that I know of, to really prioritize the idea of finding your life purpose.

I myself and many other people into becoming the best versions of ourselves will all agree that this is one of the most important, if not the most important book for any person, especially men to read if they are the type who wish to leave a legacy.

So yeah, first and foremost before we get started a big shout out to David Deida. Of course if you have the chance, get out there and read this book.

Being on your purpose gives you a sense of entitlement as you are doing good things in your life.

It gives you a feeling of being emptied out. What I mean by feeling emptied out is simply the fact that after a long day of work you feel drained, empty.

All your energy and effort has gone towards your purpose, you feel fulfilled and many ways proud, proud of your external accomplishments and the confidence this instills inside you.

Boundaries

As your sense of purpose increases so do your boundaries.

You realise if you want to accomplish the goals you have set for yourself you must be careful of which influences, what kind of people and the energy you surround yourself with and even more importantly your own behaviour. This could be the food you are eating, a habit of procrastinating or becoming upset over small trivial things.

These traits arise from lacking a sense of purpose or strength in the purpose you have manifested for yourself.

If you think about it, how many of your beliefs you have or day to day activities you engage in are actually a part of your own conscious decision.

What I think is that most people are closer to sponges rather than that of a human being.

If you take a positive, happy-go-lucky individual and put them in a negative environment, chances are they are going to, with time, become rather negative themselves. It’s important you understand that environment takes its toll on people.

Now you’re probably getting the zest of what I mean by ‘purpose’. The question now is so, Philip, how do I find my purpose? It seems like having a purpose can do so much good, but how can I pinpoint it. How do I know, with great certainty that I’m on the right path. This is my opinion on how to find it and it is how I found mine, now I do invite you to come up with your own opinions of course. This is what I think.

Fully Commit

There’s only really a few key areas where we have super-powers. I don’t mean super speed or the ability to fly, more so in terms of what some may call talents or gifts. We all have them, whether you believe it or not. Let’s call them super-aptitudes.

Take myself, for example, I have always had a ‘gift’ for being able to motivate others, combined this with my strong interest in weight lifting you can see how this would combine together and would work synergistically towards becoming a personal trainer.

Together your ‘gift’ and your ‘passion’ combine together and form a personal mission. With this mission you can give back some sort of VALUE in exchange for fulfillment.

Many people end up imprisoned in denial. Hiding and pushing away their super-aptitudes because of social conditioning and because they may already be doing something else something they have done for years. The answer for this scenario is self-explanatory; move towards what you know is true in your innate abilities, slowly if necessary but progress towards it.

On the other side of the spectrum, you may not have discovered the super power yet, this leads me to my next point. Before I set on this path and fully committed myself to it, I was exploring different paths.

This is what I suggest you do if you want to find this purpose quickly. You must try as many things as possible.

If you try enough, a super aptitude will make itself apparent. Once that super aptitude appears, you take it, hold on and fully commit.

You will know when this happens and maybe it has already happened, don’t doubt it. Remember, your gut is much more real than you give it credit for. It won’t be fully blossomed yet, for example, Kobe Bryant at 16 wasn’t Kobe in his prime.

Once you see that lane open up, you focus completely and go for it. Not one foot in the water and one out so you can back out one day. No, once the lane opens you just go for it.

Don’t set up barriers for yourself so you make excuses. When you see that lane open up, you just fucking do it.

Money vs. Passion

Some people say – “Follow your passion and money will come” and others say the opposite – “Follow the money and you will learn to love it.”

Two different schools of thought, both obviously have merit to them. What I’d like you to consider is that it’s a bit of both. Like I said before you want to test different lanes as you’re young, frequently. So you can find that super aptitude and expose yourself to challenges and opportunities constantly.

You must realise that if you’re living in this delusional world where you are needing to constantly go on spiritual vision quests to find yourself, that’s only doing so much.

Next week you may discover that “oh today I’ve realised it’s muffins, I love muffins, but you know now that I think about it, wait do I really love muffins? or do I love computers?” I need to go deeper.

I need to search deeper and keep digging and digging until I hit the goldmine and there it is, ah ha! My purpose, I’ve struck gold!

NO!

Too self-indulgent, too introspective. This is something I have done myself, so why is it important you don’t do this? Because time is precious. Believe it or not, you are on the clock of ego.

With every moment that passes time is slipping further away from you.

Unfortunately, this determines how long you will have a strong working career into producing something world class.

What I want you to think about is that once you brain realizes that you will benefit and get some type of value at being good at something, it will create reward circuits for doing so.

For example, right now I am writing this article and to be frank I feel pretty fucking amazing doing it. I am sick with the flu, it’s late and I’m tired but yet I feel so good doing it that I almost don’t want to stop.

There’s a book on this concept which will help you push through the periods that you don’t want to do something, whether it be writing or baking muffins. The book is called Seth Godin – The Dip, I urge you to read this.

What you’ll find is that your brain will start to reward you and once you reach this point it gets better exponentially as time goes on. So yes on one level follow your passion but indeed be a little selfish and follow the way where you will also be rewarded in fulfillment, both are complimentary.

So remember why it is important to find your purpose and realise the urgency in needing to do so, for one it gives you a sense of entitlement, empties you out and possibly most important of all it creates the gravity which sucks in the armour of personal boundaries.

One who is on their purpose has a spark in their eyes. They don’t have their face ground into the ground from the set blueprint of ‘life’.

My attempt at a motivational video on purpose.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPc46hm-FnY

Let me know what you think about this topic. I genuinely believe it is the most fundamental thing for anyone to do so that everything in their life can fall back on a higher meaning.