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PSA/REMINDER: DO NOT SEXUALIZE PROGRESS PICS (self.keto)

nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[M] が 投稿

I understand a lot of you are new here and maybe you haven't paid close attention to the rules in the sidebar, but one of them is

Please do not sexualize progress posts.

Some examples of what is considered sexualizing:

  • I'd hit that
  • 10/10 would do
  • wow you got hot
  • I'll be in my bunk
  • /r/gonewild
  • can you send me nudes
  • I want to ___ you
  • you're lucky you kept your ____

Some things that relate to physicality that are not sexualizing:

  • I can see a big difference in your ____
  • we've got similar starting stats, it's nice to see what weight loss could look like
  • you've really changed the shape of your ___
  • Have you been working out along with keto?
  • great progress
  • have you noticed a big difference in your ____

Someone posting progress pictures is sharing their accomplishment, not asking how attractive you did/do think they are. If you would like people to respond to your progress in that way, you can always post on /r/ketogonewild or any of the other subs dedicated to that sort of interaction.

you can congratulate someone on their progress without commenting on how attractive you think they are/were/will become

Ladies - if you're concerned how your breasts will change in weight loss, it's really hard to make a guess, but asking questions on /r/xxketo and /r/abrathatfits is always a great idea for other women's experiences or expertise dealing with weight loss and changes in breast size/shape. If you'd like to ask a specific user about changes in their breast size here, do so with respect.

If you see comments sexualizing progress pictures, or any other comment you think doesn't belong on /r/keto, please make use of the report button so the mods can take action. This is something that can/will result in a ban. This rule is not up for discussion - there are many places on reddit where that kind of comment is perfectly ok, but this is not one of them.

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[–]ju2tinM, 42, 5'8" | SW:229 | CW:165 | GW:151 | Since 4 Mar 2015 88 ポイント89 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I can see a big difference in your sentence structure. You've really changed the shape of your paragraphs.

[–]Intern_Detective 31 ポイント32 ポイント  (2子コメント)

10/10, I'd publish that.

[–]TheOffTopicBuffalo 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'll be at my writing desk

[–]greatestNothing30/M/6'2" | SW 320 | CW 235 | GW 190 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

/r/me_irl

[–]_ihateeverything 98 ポイント99 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Well written, would hit.

[–]in_sight 50 ポイント51 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Please don't sexualize the PSAs.

[–]TexWonderwood 14 ポイント15 ポイント  (0子コメント)

The PSAs are very young, we try not to sexualize them

[–]Ohthere530 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

r/writwild

[–]y4my4m 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I can see it already now:

Have you noticed a big difference in your boobs.

[–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S,M] 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (2子コメント)

and sometimes that comment is appropriate, it depends on context and delivery (for example, it's something I'd say to a friend (especially during pregnancy) but would feel uncomfortable saying to a stranger, or if a random man made the comment). If the context of the post says "10 inches gone, 3 from my bust!" then making a comment about that change isn't necessarily sexualization. I would argue that "chest" or "bust" is more appropriate than "boobs", but then it's arguing syntax.

In general, if it's a comment you could make regardless of gender, then it's likely not going to be a problem (men experience huge changes in their chest during weight loss too, including smaller manboobs)

[–]tynennM 26 6'1'' (restart) SW 344 CW 305 GW 10%BFP SD 9/27/16 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I wouldn't mind the comment or find it sexualizing if someone made it towards me about my boobs shrinking. I think it'd be totally appropriate.

[–]asuka_is_my_co-pilot 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think it's the general idea of not letting the sub turn into a place to gawk at half naked fit people.

And they pretty much said complementing boobs has its place in the sub, and the right context.

[–]_Learn_To_Swim_F/27/5'6'' Start:1/07/2017 SW:180 CW:172 GW:145 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Thanks for gonewild lol

[–]alleks8828/M/6'2" | SW: 447 | CW: 425 | GW: 264 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Now I am sad since this sub is empty

[–]Kotyaer 13 ポイント14 ポイント  (0子コメント)

TIL rule 34 extends to keto

[–]dashard50/M/6'1" | SW: 342 | CW: 241 | GW: 200 | SD: 08/11/2015 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thanks for the list. Picked up a few new comments!

[–]European_Soccer 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'll be in my bunk

But, but...the Hero of Canton.

[–]lfod14 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

The 10/10 comment is not "sexual" in any way, that's just getting stupid. Not a person alive that wouldn't want that comment thrown their way.

[–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

it's the "would do" aspect of the comment that's problematic. Hence why it's not just "10/10"

And, as I've said

If you would like people to respond to your progress in that way, you can always post on /r/ketogonewild

It doesn't matter if the person is wanting that sort of attention or not, this is not the place for it.

[–]seventyeightmm 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Grow the fuck up.

[–]JoshuaKevinPerry368 SW GW 340 -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I can solve this list in one rule:

If you can't emotionally withstand Internet comments, don't post.

[–]DrakkoZW -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Because that mentality is totally how you build a strong, welcoming online community.

[–]JoshuaKevinPerry368 SW GW 340 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's how you build a free-speaking community.

[–]x_driven_x32/M/5'9" MaxWt:272 SW:266 CW:251 GW:189 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I want to be like you.

[–]melvinscam -4 ポイント-3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

but, what if i need to fill my macros and that ass is fat?

[–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S] 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I know you're trying to be funny but honestly the joke is old and really not helping with the point.

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    [–]LilyMe 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (3子コメント)

    That wasn't what the reminder was. It was for people responding to the posted pics.

    [–]balisane36/F/5'1" | PCOS | HW: 273 | SW 7/20/15: 191 | CW: 158 | GW: 135 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I think the joke was written too off-the-cuff/read wrong: I was referring to rude commenters, not posters.

    [–]Nichole615 -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    I agree that those posting pics have a responsibility as well to keep it appropriate.

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    I'm not talking about anything that's shown in a picture, I'm talking about the comments made about the pictures. If you think a picture is inappropriate, please flag it for the mods to evaluate, but chances are pictures will not be removed so long as they are functioning as progress pictures.

    [–]balisane36/F/5'1" | PCOS | HW: 273 | SW 7/20/15: 191 | CW: 158 | GW: 135 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I think the joke was written too off-the-cuff/read wrong: I was referring to rude commenters, not posters.

    [–]Nichole615 -17 ポイント-16 ポイント  (4子コメント)

    Comments aside, some of the photos themselves are being sexualized. I've recently seen photos recently that are borderline..

    Really not necessary to show half your tit while covering the other half with your hand to show you've lost weight. But perhaps, the OP are looking for that sort of attention..

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S,M] 23 ポイント24 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    But perhaps, the OP are looking for that sort of attention

    No. If they are, they will post in a sub that allows for that sort of attention. It doesn't matter how much skin is showing, if you can't make a respectful/appropriate comment, don't comment at all.

    [–]jjawssF/31/5'5" S:230 C:143 12 ポイント13 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I don't want to argue, but I can walk around NYC topless. Showing half a boob on /r/keto while already half dressed shouldn't really be an issue. It's a boob.

    Ed: regret opening with "I don't want to argue" because I totally would.

    [–]Tyrantt_4725/M/5'9" | SW: 195 | CW: 179 | GW: 150 -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    I'm ready to board the downvote train as well, but I agree. I'm a lurker on here and see a lot of what I would consider pictures that are grabbing for more attention than showing progress. And based off title of this post, i also thought it was going to reference the sexualized pictures.

    Think about it, if you got a comment on how hot or sexy you look, then that right there is more of a confidence booster than someone saying "great job/progress"

    I really don't care if it's sexualized or not, but I have noticed it a few times and had to double check what sub I was looking at while on my front page.

    There's no reason to show progress in a sexualized way. Lacy underwear, certain poses, side boobs. This is what you would find in /r/gonewild.

    If you want to show progress, then show it, don't sexualize it.

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S,M] 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    As I've said multiple times now, if someone does want that sort of boost/attention, this is not the place for them to find it.

    I'm also going to point out, again, that it doesn't matter how much/what skin is showing, assume the purpose is showing progress and not sexualization. Most progress pics showing skin are tagged nsfw (feel free to report if it's not), so you're welcome to skip those posts if you can't handle them.

    [–]bigliketexas26/m/5'11" - SW:224 - CW:186 - GW:180 -4 ポイント-3 ポイント  (7子コメント)

    Uh.. feel free to say anything you want about any of my photos in a private message since we can't openly share in comments. Is there an age limit coming soon, too?

    The support is beneficial, regardless of how crass it may seem. As with anything; people are free to ignore what they want. Unfortunately, restricting speech is a terrible way to shape anything.. community, self-esteem, etc.

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S] 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (6子コメント)

    if you want that sort of attention, post on a sub designed for that sort of attention.

    [–]bigliketexas26/m/5'11" - SW:224 - CW:186 - GW:180 -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (5子コメント)

    Or; I could accept any attention in a medium you have no basis for control of.. like a private message.

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S] -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

    you're right, I have no control over it, but if you post in your progress pictures looking for that sort of attention, the submissions are likely to be removed, so you might have better luck through another sub.

    [–]bigliketexas26/m/5'11" - SW:224 - CW:186 - GW:180 -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (3子コメント)

    I've not yet tackled the task of perceiving the type of attention someone is hoping for when posting a progress picture.. what are some clues someone is wanting that type of attention?

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S] -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

    If your post specifically says "if you have something dirty to say, send it in a private message so it won't get deleted" or, you know

    Uh.. feel free to say anything you want about any of my photos in a private message since we can't openly share in comments

    then it will be removed with or without a recommendation to post in /r/ketogonewild or another likeminded sub

    [–]bigliketexas26/m/5'11" - SW:224 - CW:186 - GW:180 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    Yeah, I have not encountered a progression post with that format.

    I would like to point out, that ketogonewild, is not the same as telling a semi-clothed person "damn, you fine" or whatever.

    Im not into it for nudity. Im into expressing my positive intentions to people on the same journey as I am.

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    if you can't express your appreciation for the hard work someone has put in for their progress without making it sexual, then don't express it in the sub. That's the rule, that's what is going to be enforced. If you break that rule, you're likely to find yourself banned.

    [–]rash_decision -33 ポイント-32 ポイント  (8子コメント)

    Why is this an issue? If r/r/keto participants choose to make themselves look a certain way when they're showing off progress then there really should be no issue when people comment as such.

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S,M] 19 ポイント20 ポイント  (7子コメント)

    No. Just because someone is sharing a picture of their body for one purpose (showing their progress) does not mean that it's open season for another purpose (your sexual gratification). If they do want that sort of attention, there's lots of places on reddit (and the rest of the internet) they can go for that. If you find someone attractive, you can keep it to yourself.

    This is not a gonewild/pickup/nsfw/sexual sub. Those sorts of comments don't belong here.

    [–]rash_decision -10 ポイント-9 ポイント  (6子コメント)

    I appreciate your perspective, however, I disagree on the specifics. There's definitely a line that can be crossed in terms of propriety that will vary highly from person to person. Your perspective doesn't necessarily represent the overall community. I'd be more cautious in the approch, and recommend reaching out to posters as to their expectations rather than enforcing your own.

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S,M] 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (5子コメント)

    You're welcome to disagree, but this is the stance the moderation team has taken for the entire time I've been part of this sub, so how you think it should be handled is a bit irrelevant. If posters want sexual attention, they can get that on other subs, they will not get it here, and commenters giving that sort of attention will have their comments removed and may end up banned.

    This rule is not up for discussion

    [–]rash_decision -3 ポイント-2 ポイント  (4子コメント)

    The opinions of the moderation team doesn't necessarily.reflect that of the participants in this sub. That extends past the mods deciding that a rule is not 'discussable'.

    [–]nothingtoseehere28made of awesome[S] 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Yes, well, reddit is not a democracy. If you don't like the rules, you're welcome to not participate. You're also welcome to send a message through modmail, but I don't see this changing any time soon. I'm saying the rule is not up for discussion because this was a psa/reminder post not a "hey guys, what do you think of this rule? should we change it?" post. The rule was in place before the post was made, I'm just bringing attention to it so hopefully I don't need to remove as many comments next week.

    [–]mvsr990 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    In which case, you're welcome to start /r/TRPketo and if the masses of participants follow you, you'll be proven correct.

    [–]Abdul_Marx -3 ポイント-2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Some things that relate to physicality that are not sexualizing:

    I can see a big difference in your ____

    tits