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Red Pill TheoryWhy wives spend all your money (self.TheRedPill)

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The other day a customer was complaining about his wife who spends all his money, regardless on how much he makes. She just spent 150 on scented candles and wanted another 250 for a new vacuum cleaner. She was disappointed when the husband said she'll have to wait until next week. He couldn't understand how could she be so demanding. He makes about double a medium salary, and about 4x a minimum salary. Still, they barely make it to the end of the month.

The guy was out of his mind about this. Why can't we save some of that money? It should make sense to have some money for rainy days, isn't it? But no, she spends it all, and more.

That made me think. There has to be a reason for this behavior.

From what I learned about evolution and red pill theory, there is a reason. She wants your money tied up to her. All surplus has to be spent by her and her children. She can't risk that your extra wealth is used to start a new relationship. Even if all her needs are met and she doesn't really need the scented candles, this way she makes sure it doesn't benefit a potential rival. She risks maybe not having money in a time of need, but that time hasn't come yet and she may find a better option than you when shit hits the fan. And she still may sell the candles, diamonds, jewelry, car and all expensive gifts you bought for her.

The whole economy is based on women spending their husbands' money on useless crap. Ever wondered why? This may be the real reason.

So, working hard to "earn" her respect does nothing. It doesn't matter how hard your wheels are spinning, her demands will always be higher than what you can provide. It's up to you to stop her demands and use the money to benefit you. Even if you only use it to save it for rainy days, don't think that she will listen to reason. Control the money, for your sake, and hers. Edit: and, of course, never marry.

Tl;dr: The more you make, the more they spend.

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[–]Endorsed Contributorstonepimpletilists 144 ポイント145 ポイント  (33子コメント)

They do this because guys forgot how to say no, and own it.

No commercial, no persuasion beats a man who says no.

[–]1Popeman79 59 ポイント60 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Both your and OP's reason are valid. Women spend all your money because:

1- they have the evolutionary urge to use up all your resources so that they don't fall in the hands of a potential genetic rival (great point by OP), and

2- because you don't have the balls to say no

[–]OlanValesco 27 ポイント28 ポイント  (12子コメント)

That explains why they can do it, not why they're driven to do it.

[–]Endorsed Contributorstonepimpletilists 29 ポイント30 ポイント  (10子コメント)

Dont care why, too easy to lose frame when you ponder

[–]scissor_me_timbers00 18 ポイント19 ポイント  (4子コメント)

On a meta level, unrelated to this specific post, maybe this explains why I have no frame- cuz I ponder the shiiiiit out of everything.

[–]ColdIceZero 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Pondering matters like cause, effect, and influential factors is fine, so long as you act when the time comes.

Like when it's raining outside. It's fine to ponder heat, pressure, and the water cycle and how they affect when it rains. But when you're standing in the middle of a down pour, get a fucking umbrella or find cover. Don't just stand there getting soaked while you think about the water cycle.

Frame is the same thing. We come here to learn about cause and effect when interacting with people. The goal is to learn about the signs so that we can be prepared to act appropriately when the time comes. Training to maintain frame is like training to pull out an umbrella when it rains. At some point when the water starts coming down, you're going to have to make a decision to act in a particular way without whipping out your mental protractor to further analyze the situation mid pour.

Remember, women are attracted to strong men. It's better to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission. It's better to be strong and wrong than it is to be weak and correct.

In the heat of the moment, you need to quickly come to a conclusion or decide on a course of action and stick to it, come hell or high water. Then, after the moment passes, re-evaluate to see how accurate your conclusion was. Then, make the necessary adjustments accordingly.

[–]tekneqz 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I was thinking the same thing, I think way too much

[–]TyrannyVengeance 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

It's impossible to think too much.

[–]tekneqz 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Whys that, I think being in our heads to much is a detriment. You start thinking of all the different angles to things instead of just acting. Sometimes you lose sense of what reality is.

[–]MarauderFH 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Lol. I don't know why this post makes me laugh so much. I can't even tell if it's sarcastic.

[–]Endorsed Contributorstonepimpletilists 18 ポイント19 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Im serious. Why in the fuck would you spend all day dissecting woman brain? Just dont buy the damned purse and go have a bath woman!

[–]OlanValesco 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Knowledge is power. If you're a casual observer of gravity, you can use what you see to throw a ball to your friend. If you're intimate with the laws of gravity, you can slingshot a spaceship around the Earth and land on Mars.

[–]Endorsed Contributorstonepimpletilists 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm giving you the keys to turn off the aspie tendancies. They dry out the woman like the Sahara, they lead to rationalizations, instead of observations, and one will get mired in self doubt.

When you're at a point where you max out on Chad/Gronk, then you can start adding the warrior poet to the mix. Right now, guys here have a lack of masculine alpha qualities, it's easy to ponder, once you've been 'doing' for long enough to have the experience to know when your brain is sabotaging you, or when it's arriving at a revelation.

Knowledge is power? Knowledge isn't gained from inside your head, it comes from learning about the world. The best way to learn about a thing is to play with it, not read it's technical manual

[–]LordThunderbolt 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

They do it because they can. There are many women out there who know how to save money and aren't retarded with demanding money for nonsense. I like to believe that it comes from immaturity, those that but spend money shamelessly. They're impulse buyers, they think short term. Money exists to be spent so let's spend it. That's how they think. "If u have it, spend it, you have a job [right now] so you'll always have money coming in, so spend it"- is how they think. It's not that deep man.

OP is looking way too deep into it.

[–]5850s 19 ポイント20 ポイント  (6子コメント)

A friend of mine told an anecdote about a hot 22 year old who frequents his local watering hole. He had seen her go home with several different guys, but things changed recently and she is exclusive to an older, 35 year old guy. He asked her why she settled down with him despite being desired by every guy in town, and she was like "Well, I don't know". He pressed, and said "It's because he tells you 'No' isn't it?". She replied "Yeah, now that you mention it, he does, and I like that"

[–]landon042 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

i have a similar story m8, it was in class we had groups

these girls i barely talked to but we've talked before, were in mine, i forgot what the thing was about but we had to come up with ideas, it was in english so i assume its some story, but that's not the point.

these were both 7+. other could have been high 8.
so one says an idea and the other kind of agrees,

I simply say no, there face was priceless like a child, their face lit up but they had that look like they've never been told that and they got giggly.

then they say something else, i say no, and "it's horrible"

did this for the lolz, everyone should try it haha

[–]Goateeki 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

The same way you'd tell a child no.

[–]Oz70NYC 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Mirrors my present situation. I'm currently involved with an HB9 Dominican gal. 27 years old, smoking hot body, gorgeous face, clear almond brown skin, long jet black hair. The kind of woman used to attention and having men wrapped around her finger. When I first started talking to her it was actually while she was surrounded by orbiters vying for her attention. I'd scoped her out weeks before and decided to make my play.

Long story short, she pre-selected me from go and was merely waiting for me to make said move. (I'd established social proof in previous weeks at the bar.) Set up a meet. 3 days later, and I she gave me the punany from the jump. In the proceeding weeks she decided she wanted more of what I had to offer. "I feel like you're the kind of man who's a leader, not a follower" is the words she used. So I decided to indulge her little daddy fantasy.

So we spend some time with each other, just outside of a full blown relationship. I have the sense that's what she wants...to lock me down...but I'm 3 years removed from a 7 year marriage and not really interested in settling down again...yet. I'm 36 and hitting my stride professionally...and I know that's part of the appeal I have to her. A guy almost 10 years her senior with his shit together, who makes decent coin and fucks her like a wild animal.

So we've been "dating" for close to 4 months now, and I lead her around like a the alpha I am. Dare I say I've got her trained to cater to me...and she loves it. She'll occasionally throw a shit test my way, but I hold frame and shut it down. She'll sulk and pout about not getting her way, but then I put my hand on the back of her neck, look her directly in the eyes and plant one on her...and she melts in my hands. Not only do I establish mental dominance, but physical as well. And she falls right back in line.

So on I continue with her, interested to see how it lasts, and if maybe I can mold her into a RP woman. The potential is there, just have to see how far I can take it.

[–]FuckboyChriz 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (2子コメント)

She's Dominican she is more Redpill than you will ever be. Take it from a fellow Dominican she's just playing the game you are beta bux all the way to her. She has had to deal with Dominican men all her life we are a different breed. Very macho very sexist and we are womanizers. I'm sorry man but I don't think it's gonna work. Just a warning.

[–]Oz70NYC 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Seeing as I'm a black guy...we're not all that different from Dominican men, so I wouldn't be to sure 'bout that. Pretty much common knowledge that Black guys are about as RP by default of all races. We're not the ones who get played.

[–]FuckboyChriz 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It all depends if she was born here or there good luck to yah bro. Dominican women are notorious for locking down beta bux with ease just keep your guard up.

[–]Popular-Culture 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Agreed. The guy who sets firm boundaries going into a relationship doesn't have this problem. Nothing to do with competition.

[–]beginner_ 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Saying "no" is one thing. Giving her access to an account that has enough money to buy this shit is another thing. Debit vs credit card, account that can't go below 0 and so forth. opportunity makes the thief.

[–]MUTHAFATHAGENTLEMAN 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Give her an allowance. You're the leader here, not her.

She's the most responsible teenager in the house who you are ALLOWING to take on some jobs. And if those jobs aren't done, then there's a problem.

[–]squidracer 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (6子コメント)

It's probably easier to say no when your not married.

[–]Endorsed Contributorstonepimpletilists 12 ポイント13 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Maybe, but its called hard mode for a reason.

Regardless, you dont owe her shit

[–]JackGoldsteinWrites 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Not really if you put in the ground work.

By the time you're married, you should already be in charge of the funds and spending decisions. I actually give my fiancé an allowance out of our combined incomes, and it fluctuates on what other pressing items require funds (repairs, clothes, etc.)

Her disposable is about 20-30% of her take home. She can spend it on whatever she wants, I don't ask and I don't care.

For bigger items, she puts in a request and I take it under advisement. I often say no. Last winter, she wanted a $500 Dyson heater because it doesn't dry air and she was getting nosebleeds at night. Request approved.

The rest goes to paying bills and savings. She can ask for the books at any time to see what my allocations are (she rarely does).

FWIW, I treat myself the same way (I take out 10% of my pay for disposable). Sometimes, I will spend it on her as a gift for good behavior.

She says that it's a huge weight off her back not to "decide" how money gets spent, and its nice for her to have freedom to spend some money without constantly being questioned.

It also helps that we have a shared goal of retiring as early as possible; this makes saying NO a lot easier. "I can say yes to this, but you're going to have to work another 5 months...".

[–]squidracer 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I actually give my fiance

So in other words your not married yet?? Good luck thinking you'll be in charge after

[–]JackGoldsteinWrites 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Im actually never going to get "married" according to the letter of the law's default parameters which are not man-friendly, though I suppose that's another discussion - how to actually get married properly.

[–]squidracer 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Then you just taking about cohabitation.. different ballgame.

[–]Iguessthisismynameno 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This does not explain why they behave this way, but rather how they're able to.

[–]Goateeki 28 ポイント29 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Separate bank accounts. If you're living together, she pays half and you pay half. When she can't or won't pay half, end it. Don't ever become another person's supporter.

I know plenty of guys who insist that their wives work and pay half. Professionals -- doctors, lawyers. I've also heard plenty of older men say that a key to long term happiness is separate finances. I'm a big, big believer in this.

Also, it's a great way to avoid conflating money with affection. If you have separate finances, she'll never be able to say "if you love me, you'd buy this for me." You can legitimately respond with "you have the money to buy it."

Irresponsibility with money was one of the major reasons I divorced my wife. I was able to get the alimony down to a very, very low number, I kept the house and have the kids half the time. And even with the alimony, I still come out way ahead every month. For me, divorcing my wife was a positive economic benefit -- it was like getting a raise.

I use Quicken and as you'll all know, it tracks purchases beautifully. Shortly before I pulled the plug, I saw that she went to Starbucks 11 times in a five day period. I don't even know how someone could manage that. That's twice a day every day for five days, plus a third trip on one of those days. I'd speak rationally about these things with her and she'd act as if she understood it, but then she'd continue to buy all kinds of useless crap. She would always have a justification for it, too.

My girlfriend and I have separate residences but spend a huge amount of time together. Our lives are pretty well integrated. Neither of us has an intention to give up our own residences though we've talked about getting a third place together and probably will some day. We've already talked about money a lot and we both knew that we'll maintain separate finances. I don't want anything from her and I don't want her wanting anything from me. In fact, one of the major reasons the relationship works so well is that neither of us wants anything from the other except good conversation, a modicum of emotional support and sex.

Granted, we're not having children together and she doesn't have to work. Others will have to ask how practical separate finances would be for their situation. But, like I said, I know many men who mandate that their women work. Skin in the game, as they say.

Women are bred by nature to use men for their resources. Parasites, every one of them.

[–]rhuffq 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I second that. I'll tell my story. I was once engaged to a woman with no real discernible skills and no prospects for a well paying job. But her goal was to be a stay at home Mom which I supported. However maintaining a single income family requires strict financial discipline and budgeting. I told her we were going to do three bank accounts. One was hers, one was mine, and one was a household account. Each month we'd both get a small allowance into our individual ones based on a percentage of the remaining money after household expenses and we could save up and buy whatever we wanted without checking with the other so long as it didn't have a recurring cost. I thought it was a good idea but she was livid about it. She basically felt that if I loved her I should be willing to share all my money. I didn't budge and she eventually called off the engagement.

I felt like I dodged a major bullet and fast forward to today and I am still unmarried, have tons of money, and no worries. And from what I've been told she's now married and is currently well in to the process of ruining that guy's life.

The moral I learned is that most women are children when it comes to money. If you set fair boundaries and she accepts them then proceed, but always stay firm. If she refuses to live by them then either just plate her for fun or leave. But don't tie your money to her, she'll just take what you've worked for and squander it.

[–]Goateeki 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

My parents had a long and happy marriage. My dad told me that one reason was separation of finances. Before my mother worked (while we kids were young), my dad had his own individual bank account and one joint account. He moved into the joint account only what was needed to pay bills and my mother couldn't touch the rest. When my mother began to work, she opened an individual account and contributed her share to the joint account, too.

My mother is responsible and doesn't spend a dime she doesn't have to. But even with a woman like that, my father wouldn't take an unnecessary financial risk.

The women who are parasitic -- which is 95% of them -- depend on "nice guys" being unwilling to talk about money. I remember how I'd speak calmly to my ex wife about utterly frivolous purchases she'd made, and she'd nearly have a nervous breakdown because she had to confront math. I hear guys tell stories about how divorce impoverishes them -- I swear to you I got the equivalent of a huge raise because I don't have a wife shopping all day long for expensive children's clothes the kids will wear once or twice.

Ever notice how ads on TV feature almost exclusively women? It's because women buy stuff while men produce. And right now, my ex wife is completely destitute. She depends on hand outs from her parents.

[–]CWRUW4 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Validated- my spouse and I have separate accounts. This way, all the monthly shit that needs paid for gets done, and it's because we have to be sensible about it. In our marriage, one of us is paid a moderate amount more, so the mortgage defaults to that spouse, and the other is able to pay the utility bill and for all groceries and necessities for house/child (TP, diapers) because they don't require one massive payment. Two separate Roth IRAs were created in addition to our social security from our job. This way it creates balance and we both know what we are ultimately responsible for. That leaves fun projects like building a new deck wide open for both of us to contribute what we can without blowing open a hole in our rainy day savings. Which, speaking of rainy day savings, I have my own and spouse has their own and neither of us know how much the other has, and now that I think of it, neither of us cares.

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    [–]TrumpRules2016 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (7子コメント)

    All great points. I cringed when I heard that a friend of mine who has a girlfriend that he's living with now, got a joint bank account with her. While it's only for groceries, so much can go wrong.

    I'm a very private person when it comes to finances, so I would NEVER share a bank account with anyone.

    [–]Endorsed Contributorstonepimpletilists 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (3子コメント)

    Tbats the only way to do it.

    A separate account you both put communal expenses into. Its there asna dmz of your finances

    [–]bloodshot_eyes 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    The atrocious thing is that once you've married someone, her choices become your responsibility. If she doesn't think that you give her "enough" money, she'll simply open up a new credit card and max it out. She is under no obligation to inform you of this, and yet that debt belongs to you both. Since you are the only wage earner, it becomes all your responsibility to pay it off. Lather, rinse, repeat.

    It's shocking that any man would voluntarily make himself so vulnerable, particularly to a selfish overly-emotional accountability-phobe like a woman.

    [–]TrumpRules2016 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Yeah seriously. I'm someone who while not making a lot of money, I'm pretty damn good when it comes to finances. Budgeting, spending less than I make, cook my own food instead of eating out all the time, etc.

    No way I would risk my current and future financial situation for love.

    [–]privacythrowaway2003 -3 ポイント-2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Its there asna dmz of your finances

    You could say it's there ASA DMZ.

    *Badum tss.

    [–]beginner_ 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

    I have such an account as well. What can go wrong? I mean you put in as much (or as little) as needed so that it doesn't build up. The only thing she can do is take all the money and then dump me. I accept that risk for convenience.

    Of course the account can't be overdrawn and no credit card, only debit card. So the risk is minimal unless I'm missing something.

    [–]TrumpRules2016 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    There are overdraft fees that you have to be careful of, if she's financially irresponsible. I don't see why it's necessary when there are things like Venmo, which make it easy to send money to other people. All bank accounts can be overdrawn. It's not worth it. You are entering her frame when you share finances

    [–]beginner_ 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    All bank accounts can be overdrawn

    Not here and this one doesn't allow it. So if the account contains $100 and you go to the ATM and demand $200, you won't get it. Same paying with debit card.

    [–]TomFoo 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    It makes sense in jobs too. Corporate buyer? Mostly women. Sales? Mostly men.

    [–]uniquevoid 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Both my mother and father work and my mother is the one constantly telling my dad to stop buying useless shit. and he makes 4x what she makes

    Guess what? my father was poor in his childhood. It comes from immaturity and lack of rather than 'just wanting to spend all your money cause evolution'

    [–]bigredchewinggum 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Sounds like you're overanalyzing it.

    What this guy's wife is doing is simply pushing boundaries like any ordinary human would do. Think about your first job you had as a teenager. If your manager didn't enforce the rules to a T, you would naturally keep pushing the limits to see what you can get away with. Goofing off and talking to coworkers on the clock, being lazy on the job, calling in sick to go to your friend's party etc.. Not because you're acting maliciously, but because it just happens. It's natural to act that way because sometimes following the rules interferes with our own personal MO.

    On the east coast in America, jaywalkers are very rarely-if ever punished. I hear you get a ticket for jay walking in San Francisco. Where do you think you're more likely to find jaywalkers?

    It's simply just a matter of enforcing the rules. This guy lets his wife walk all over him and spend $150 because he's not laying down the law with her. He just acts like that "OK guy" meme (the one that kinda looks like forever alone) and continues to allow her to abuse the system for her own benefit.

    Obviously if you make a lot of money your woman/wife is going to want fancy dresses and dinners. But you can manage that and prevent it from snowballing out of control. In fact, you shouldn't be giving her any of that shit UNLESS YOU WANT TO

    [–]OneInAZillion 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    Why can't we save some of that money? It should make sense to have some money for rainy days, isn't it? But no, she spends it all, and more.

    Why the fuck does he pretty much need her permission to save his own money?

    [–]NimbleStorm 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Because he fucked up an got married.

    [–]Procrastin8n 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I remember hearing an interesting theory about this - being that women have evolved to be the "gatherer" in our hunter - gatherer past. A successful gatherer hoards food - the more the better. A big hoard of food equals safety for the woman and the experience of going shopping brings out that gatherer instinct and can cause women to buy (gather) more than they need. This is why it this kind of spending tends to be more of a problem for women. Feeling unsafe can make it worse. The best way to tackle the issue is to make her aware of it - set some clear and firm boundaries about spending - being firm and in control of the situation will conversely help her to feel safer and therefor less likely to hoard/spend subconsciously.

    [–]TheRedStoic 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Not if you simply say no.

    Done. Simple. Just say no.

    [–]DoubleTappp 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Meh, good initiative, bad judgement.

    This isn't necessarily a women thing as much as it is a people thing.

    People in general are terrible with money. They do not save. They do not plan. They have zero consideration for the future.

    Ask a millennial what his financial goals are (Bonus points if he actually has some.) The answer they give is strikingly different from what a man his age would have said 50 years ago.

    Point being, this "phenomenon" of poor money management is not limited to ze feeemales. Your roommate is bad at it. Your dad is bad at it. And most likely you suck at it as well.

    Sorry to interrupt the circle jerk.

    [–]mdcrubengonza 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I remember right before I ghosted on a plate, one of the last things she asked me was when I got paid. She was counting on my income to surplus her entertainment. No bitch, that shits mine.

    [–]EssencialToLife 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    It's up to you to stop her demands .. save it for rainy days

    Control the money, for your sake, and hers.

    True words. I have never allowed my wife to control my money. Separation of goods, separation of accounts, separation of bills. She pays her telephone, clothes, hobbies, and i pay mine. I pay the house and car because i want to and i decide which house it is and which car it is. If she wants fancy candles she pays them with her work. If she wants a new sofa she pays it (We have no fancy candles and an old sofa). If she wants fancy holidays she pays her half, but if she is nice i might invite her to the place i want to go.

    If i had a common account i would be broke and divorced. Instead, i am wealthy, and she is poor, and i intend to keep it that way. Money is pure SMV.

    [–]Senior Contributorexit_sandman 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    To simplicistic, albeit what you're presenting might be an underlying additional reason for that behavior (though blowing money on useless shit is idiotic - if you want to tie up your partner's ressources, just have another kid instead; that way the money is at least spent on something worthwhile).

    However, I have four alternative factors I want to see mentioned here.

    • being "badly trained": what most others were saying here - she isn't used to the partner saying "no"; and he never disabused her of that notion.
    • being spoiled: she's used to having more money at her disposal (possibly from a wealthy background) and will resent you if you don't achieve a similar wealth (i.e. either way you're paying).
    • being terrible with money, immature, irresponsible. Also very important.
    • being frustrated: she isn't happy with her life and her marriage, and blowing money for stupid shit is her outlet.

    I think this is a huge factor when comes to vetting any potential partner. So, if a woman behaves like that, do a double check: Is her demand on how to spend your money reasonable and you refusing her would be irrational and/or needlessly stingy? Because if this doesn't apply, you can bet that one or more of the above does; and you don't want to date a woman who is guilty of any of the above.

    That's why I love women who insist on you blowing 4k for a diamond engagement ring - it's basically them waving a huge red flag for everyone to see.

    [–]XanderS311 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I have a good friend whose wife "punishes" him by spending copious amounts of his money on useless shit every time he does something that she doesn't like, like daring to hang out with his male friends. She sits on her arse in the house that he is paying for watching mind-numbing TV shows and spending his money online whilst he has built a very successful business. WTF is she contributing to his life? I have no idea why hasn't just told her to fuck off.

    [–]segagaga 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    This is why in the modern relationship, no joint accounts is a must.

    [–]mikesteane 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Simpler explanation: because he lets her.

    [–]revengeofthecrazy 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I bought new LED lights for my car (500+). The old ones were weak and I don't have the best vision in darkness in winter and so on.

    27 year old: "Nice to know where your priorities are..."

    Really meaning: "I don't respect you as much anymore, so fuck your safety, your priorities, your life, become my beta cash machine you bitch, you should be spending your cash on pleasing me materially because I can't and don't want to take care of myself."

    [–]writewhereileftoff 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Interesting analysis. Spending his money ensures his money is invested in her instead of a rival female. I never looked at it like that.

    [–]Yashugan00 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I think you're onto something, evolutionary. Women have natural consumer mindset, they are resource acquisition terminators

    [–]GenghisKhanSpermShot 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

    This is dumb, guys are just as bad at spending. I sucked at saving and my wife is the one that showed me better ways of saving and not spending money. Guys may spend different, like on car mods or entertainment or whatever but we waste money too.

    [–]ElectricDruid 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

    I believe the statistics show that the wife spends 80% of the household income. Sure your situation may be different but in the average household that's what occurs.

    [–]NakedAndBehindYou 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    There has to be a reason for this behavior.

    Behind most addicts is an enabler. He is enabling her spending habits by providing the money. All he has to do is grow a spine and say no.

    From what I learned about evolution and red pill theory, there is a reason. She wants your money tied up to her. All surplus has to be spent by her and her children. She can't risk that your extra wealth is used to start a new relationship.

    This type of theory crafting is why evolutionary psychology is a joke form of science. It's all theory, no empiricism. The more obvious answer is that some people are just stupid, greedy, and narcissistic and spend whatever money they can get their hands on.

    [–]scissor_me_timbers00 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    They do it cuz they're driven to make their lives look like a fuckin magazine, cuz that's what their self esteem derives from.

    [–]yomo86 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    They behave like government agencies. The budget you don't spend will result in a further reduced budget. A woman is totally aware of how much she spent like a child is aware that their allowance for the month ran out. But you know what? The more they complain about not getting enough - eventually their allowance is raised.

    This was what my first gf's mom told me as a joke in a more feminine way. "She has to spent because otherwise life will just be pragmatic".

    [–]ChinatownSavage 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    This is not 100 percent true.Many women just love to spend money on dumb shit. Its like its somehow ingrained in their DNA.. I have many female family members that were single, but still found a way to spend money in useless and dumb shit.

    [–]ChinatownSavage 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    This is not 100 percent true.Many women just love to spend money on dumb shit. Its like its somehow ingrained in their DNA.. I have many female family members that were single, but still found a way to spend money in useless and dumb shit.

    [–]TALzFGxawb 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    this was one of my saving graces even in my heaviest blue pill days. one of the feminist things i took to heart was that it's creepy to buy women dinner and gifts, so i basically never paid for anything

    [–]badchad_isglad 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Simple solution to this problem:

    1. Don't get married

    Or if married

    1. Separate bank accounts. Give her an allowance that you adjust according to her behavior.

    [–]CallMeHaseo 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I'm surprised more men don't take advantage of the word "no"

    [–]Mckallidon 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Why Wives Spend All Your Money....

    If your wife spends all your money then you're an idiot. If she is smart enough to find your money if you know what you're doing, then her dad probably has more than you anyways.

    [–]Insydeinformation 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    The beta male has evolved to be the slave to woman. His complaints are meaningless

    [–]ecosci 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Sometimes you gotta let things go to shit like lights being turned off or utilities it creates drama and wakes her up to the real world now of course you go crash at your friends with a smirk on your face while she panics to her friends thats why women love unstable men it gives her tingles plus she gets to be the victim so get your own bank acct asap she cant be trusted with $.

    [–]butter_coffee 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    It's female solipsism. They only care about themselves and have never had to work for anything in their life, so they don't know the hard work that goes into making money. Why be frugal when you can use your husbands money and give into instant gratification?

    [–]Entropy-7 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Here are three types of women.

    1) Top tier women who support you and your family. They take care of the house, the kids and social agenda so you are free to make shit loads of money and gain status. I have not figured out the odds of them turning against you once you "make it"

    2) There are the place holders who do the minimum to take care of the kids and keep the house,

    3) the silver diggers who nag you to work to the bone to provide.

    There are gold diggers and a bunch of others but these seem to be the most prevalent types in married-with-kids contexts.

    [–]valdirtheblue 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Not so much about evolution, rather economics. My last and only LTR cost me everything I had because I WAS willing to pay my unicorn's way through life. Personally, I won't be cohabiting with a woman, marrying, nor sharing any funds with her in the future. Luckily, I'm only 24 and got burnt young. Lesson learned. Each to their own.

    [–]TrumpRules2016 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    $150 on scented candles? I'm a guy who likes scented candles and you can find some good ones for like a tenth of that price.

    [–]ryeFL -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    It's not about any evolutionary psychology. It's about economics: she has money to spend and you give her access. Look up "moral hazard" ( hint it has nothing to do with metaethics )

    [–]MrAnderzon -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Your suppose to let them know how much you really make

    [–]TACTICALBLONDEBIMBO -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    If I ever do get married, with the kind of girls I like, I expect my wife to probably be one of those fashionista types who likes heels, and shit that cost a thousand or more a pair. Is what it is. Know what kind of upbringing and what she likes before you marry the girl. Pretty simple. If she comes from a ver wealthy or even upper middle class upbringing. Yeah you're wife is going to want alot of expensive things.

    [–]ArkAngelEV -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    They do this because they are vipers and moths. Unbridled and unrestrained consumption is all they understand