Why were relationships in the 1950s so consistent? Why was the nuclear family so bonded in the past, but in a complete abysmal state now? We can say well, "Feminism" or something similar, but it all boils down to one simple principle: Leverage.
Leverage in a general sense is the ability to bargain to get your needs met. For example, if you were the ONLY employee that specializes in what your company needs, and there are no easy replacement candidates, you have leverage. With leverage, you can make demands or expect certain needs to be met. Your boss is more likely to hear your needs and meet them because it's preferable to the suffering of having to find a new candidate.
The problem with modern relationships is that women have all the leverage and men, generally speaking, have none. If you're dating a woman who's even remotely attractive(6+), she can find a replacement for you within days (or minutes). All she has to do is go on Tinder and send 10 messages in 30 seconds asking for dick and she will get every single one delivered that day. In fact unlike the boss analogy above, finding a new candidate is hassle free and probably easier than conforming to any demands you might have.
The severe lack of leverage you have bleeds through in your ability to bargain in relationships. Lots of men on "PUA" or "Red Pill" sites say "Threaten to walk away from her, that'll do it". Yes, I'm sure she is terrified of you walking away. Who knows when she'll meet another guy? Could be years! Or like we said earlier, seconds with virtually zero effort and investment. Maybe she will meet your demands (leverage) if she is emotionally connected to you and has low self-esteem, but that will only be temporary until she monkey branches. (because the energy of meeting any demand on her will eventually exhaust her).
You have no leverage in dating if the woman has any degree of above average attractiveness and uses social media.
Now if you get married, you once again have no leverage, and even negative leverage. Yeah lets use that game of leverage again. Wife cheating on you? Threaten to leave her! Oh wait, if you leave her she wins. You make a threat in which she gets half of your shit, your kids and gets to bang chad guilt free now while you move into your shitty studio apartment. OR stay with her and she fucks chad anyway and you live a life with zero self respect and drink yourself to sleep at night. OR ask her nicely to stop cheating, but when she realizes she can do it anyway with gaining benefits, why would she stop?
All it comes down to is that men have NO leverage. Relationships in the 50's worked because men had leverage. I.E women were shamed for slutting and getting divorced (leverage). Women didn't get big cash and prizes (leverage). What leverage do men have? The only leverage is not getting involved other than a few bangs here and there.
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