Summary:

Soft nexting is the best tool a TRP man can utilize. Veterans understand how powerful it really is. To a degree so did I however I used a soft next to initiate sex with a woman I'd never had sex with before.

The circumstance:

I had gotten myself into beta orbiter territory with a HB 8.5 (low n count), my friends called me a womanizer to her in an effort to steer her away from me (beta competition tactic), and I had several large mistakes, such as losing frame and engaging shit tests directly which is a big no no -- however her shit tests were relentless-- I found myself to be a stand-in boyfriend, one unfinished blowjob, lots of kissing and sleep overs that never ended in sex even with high escalation.

Basically step above beta orbiter but with scraps. I thought I had lost, and sex was NEVER going to happen, I was growing resentful like most men do in this situation and you can tell in my daily conversation with her (another red flag, talking daily). I decided I needed to stop wasting my time and focus on new/plates that do put out. It seems like for a lot of men ignoring a sexy woman is hard, and it is. I soft nexted her for 2 days without warning. She could see me interact with others on social media and see me active online but no matter what she said I ignored it until the two days were up.

Let me preface this by saying if you soft next a non-lover you should be prepared for her to leave entirely and not speak again for months if ever.

-However-

Upon rengaging like nothing happened, what happened next was magical --the shit tests nearly dropped entirely-- her attitude shifted from bitchy tease to pleasing femininity. She invited me over that night, sucked and fucked me like an animal.

I had successfully reestablished my original image that I had tarnished.

A few quick points on why I believe it worked the way it did:

-I always presented myself as a man with options

-I had social proof

-I'm in great shape, well groomed and well dressed

-By ignoring her, it showed her that I can value myself and my time first and won't be goaded by cheap emotions i.e. stoicism

Soft nexting works brilliantly and it worked with a dice roll to my advantage this time.