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My prosthetic leg and women (need advice). (self.MGTOW)

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Hey guys, thank you for proving perspective on this. I look forward to your opinions and suggestions.

I am 35 y/o, never married, no kids, great job. I have my shit together. However, I have a prosthetic leg (lost it in combat [Army] in Iraq in ’03). Aside from that, I am in excellent shape. I workout, eat well, etc. I have a great life. I credit that to being MGTOW for such a long period of time. No female drama to derail my fragile early 20’s where, like most of us, I already had my head up my ass to deal with (with one leg at that).

Related to this, I have come across a pattern that I need help digesting. As I am sure you can imagine, I have been rejected, a lot, due to my injury. Some women genuinely don’t care but they are few and far in-between. However, the vast majority of women are not interested in me because of my injury and I believe I have objective reasoning to support that claim (I list some examples later on).

On the occasion that I do meet a woman that does not care about my leg, an interesting subject of debate inevitably comes up: “why have you been single so long,” or, I get a shit test like “I bet you have a bunch of other women running around.” I generally reply telling them that my leg is often a barrier in dating and I couldn’t have a stable of women, even if I wanted to (I don’t believe I am being beta here. I say this very directly and often use their reaction a sort of “shit-test jujitsu” to reveal their true character).

Every single woman (whether I am dating them or not) has had a negative visceral reaction to me telling them that my leg has been a barrier in dating. I can literally see their faces crunch up while the hamster is at near heart-attack pace, scrambling to come up with some other narrative. Not only that, the vast majority of them are so incredibly uncomfortable with this claim that they imply, or outright tell me, that I am just making that up in my head; that women wouldn’t discriminate based on my injury. I have had a few tell me that no one would be so shallow and that these women are probably not interested in me for other reasons.

This is where I generally present the evidence. I am going to give you the short of it but keep in mind that I provide many more examples:

I. I have been on dating websites where being contacted (or positive response to my contact) is dependent on whether I talk about, or post a picture of my leg. When I first suspected this, I decided to run a proper experiment. The results showed a high correlation of posting pictures of my leg and a lack of positive response.

II. When I didn’t post a picture of my leg, women who I did decided to meet up with did not react well to learning about my injury when they found out. I have even had women immediately leave or get pissed and tell me that I should be honest on my profile. The hilarity of that one in particular was that I did mention my leg/ injury in the text of my profile proving she didn’t read it.

III. When I was in my 20’s, wearing shorts was a good way to be left alone at bars (just women, men would often by me beers). My friends would joke that I was looking for ass when I went out w/ pants on. I clearly remember my friend and I bringing 2 women home from the bar one night (pants night). The 4 of us were in the middle of bull-shitting in the kitchen when I sat on the counter and noticed the woman I was with notice my leg (pants lifted up revealing my prosthetic foot). After much whispering to her friend, both of them left in a hurry giving some bullshit response that I cannot recall now. My friend confirmed that he saw it go down the same way I did. I did actually mean to tell her earlier in the night but forgot (beer).

IV. I have had women tell me directly that they don’t want to date someone with a disability.

As I am sure many of you have guessed, the evidence does nothing to change their position. So, why am I posting this? No pity parties. I have a great life, I enjoy being MGTOW and the future looks bright for me. The reason I am posting this is that I cannot tell why women react so badly to hearing that other women don't want to date me because of my leg. What do you guys make of this? Also, I know this will come up again with other women and I don't know what to say to them anymore. What do you guys think about mentioning it at all? I had high hopes of finding a woman that would at least hear me out (ability to acknowledge evidence = good partner).

Anyways, thank you all for reading this, I hope it was entertaining/ interesting at the minimum.

Best,

T

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[–]Sol_Install 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Hmmm.... If women are rejecting you because of your leg, then it makes sense that other women reject you too. I mean, women will flock to one man and fight over him if they deem him worthy. So have a failure track record works against you. They may see you as less of a man. And it's possible you lack the mentality stemming from confidence and experience to counter and overcome it. TheRedPill preaches abundance mentality. Always look like you have something to do. Other women on reserve and so on. And of course, if women reject you simply NEXT her. As in "Okay, bye." Cut contact.

By revealing that women reject you because of your leg, I am assuming that in their eyes, you don't have the means to compensate. That spells disaster.

As for what to do about your leg in future interactions, don't mention it. Don't mention women rejecting you at all. You know how it's going to play out. If you keep feeding your rejection, it may eventually break you. Knowing what to expect works to your advantage. I.e it leads to not giving a fuck. If you enjoy being MGTOW and your future looks good, keep on track for that goal.

I work out and am considered a big guy. I'm not very attractive nor do I have respectable wealth. When women call my name, it's to always do something for them. Yes, it hurt to realize that women see me as beneath them and don't find me attractive. As time when on, I got over it. I do what I want and act how I want. I get called weird and so on but I don't care. Fuck em.

It is quite possible that you may never get the woman that you want. You have to realize and internalize that. But first of all you need to stop caring.

[–]SamCasey98 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

First, thank you for your service and keeping us safe. We can never repay the debt we owe you.

The women are reacting that way because of the impact on their desirability quotient. Women focus on their desirability quotient. There desirability quotient can be influenced in two ways. First, the number of males desirable by other women attracted to them. Second, the number of reasonable men they can blow off. By admitting your disability is undesirable to other women, you actually have a negative impact to their desirability quotient. You must be a pretty good looker because usually they go screaming into the night, literally, upon that realization.

It has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is the women's relationship manipulation.

[–]JosefDerArbeiter [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

On average, many women are simply attracted to men who have the ability, skills, looks, status, and communication to attract many women at once. In other terms, women aren't attracted to a man who can only attract one niche of women, but who can attract all sorts of women.

Why does your prosthetic leg specifically cause you trouble with women? Well, I think somehow they attribute that due to you being clumsy, lame, fragile, etc. This is due to the stigma around disabled people being sickly, fragile.