As a former incel, I can truly feel no sympathy for them

Babbit_B · 1日前

I think it's worth considering that as someone who got sucked into a destructive movement and made it out the other side, you're potentially in a really strong position to sway others who haven't (yet) been able to muster the same fortitude. You understand what it's like to feel lonely and unwanted, and have experienced firsthand how that can progress into bitterness. But you're also clear-sighted enough to have recognised that you were going down a really bad path.

Perhaps you can reach out to others who don't subscribe to the more disgusting elements of inceldom and associated movements and help them to see how unproductive it is? You'd better believe the alt-right are recruiting young men who are specifically gathered together because they think nobody wants or values them. My god, they couldn't ask for easier pickings. "We want you. We value you. You're right - the world is out to get you, but we're on your side." You could be a voice that opposes that, you know?

That said, I of course wouldn't encourage you to engage with that kind of rhetoric again, even in opposition to it, unless you feel strong and confident enough. It's not an easy thing to do, and you might not be there just yet (which is nothing to feel bad about at all), but it's something you could consider in the future.

Regardless, I'm really happy you've managed to break away from a poisonous mindset. I think you'll find it makes you much happier in the long run :-)

AngryDM · 1日前

You sound a bit like an ex-smoker who particularly hates smoking.

Which is a good thing.

Hopefully you can reach some incels, somehow, and pull them out of the shit swamp they're wallowing in and drinking like fish.

uptotwentycharacters · 9時間前

I'd probably qualify as an incel myself - definitely to a greater extent than those who are only "celibate" because they're unwilling to date anyone who isn't an 8+/10 virgin - but I've never felt part of the incel community, and found several of the attitudes that are common in that community to be ridiculous. They seem to have this obsession on height for example, some going as far as saying that anyone shorter than 6 feet isn't going to be romantically successful. A lot of them also have this redpill/MGTOW mentality that basically says "women are denying men sex by being promiscuous", which is obvious doublethink. Basically they're complaining that women are now free to choose their partners (or to avoid entering a monogamous relationship at all, if that's what they want), and aren't choosing them. They're unwilling to take responsibility for their own lives, and have this attitude that if romantic success isn't being handed to them on a silver platter, then society is unjust, never realizing that "normies" have to work for success to. That seems to be the dividing line between incels and unattractive normies, this sense of romantic entitlement. Normies either decide that they want to be romantically successful, and so decide to work at it and avoid being discouraged by failures, or decide that romantic success isn't that important to them and focus on other things. The incel community on the other hand seems to insist that romantic success is the be-all and end-all of everything, yet think that having to put in effort for it is some sort of great injustice.

ASigIAm213 · 13時間前

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LipstickPaper · 9時間前

You should do a AMA as a former incel! That would be cool.

mokoneko_ · 1日前

this isn't totally on topic but I don't know if I understand what it means to "be" incel? it feels like the moment you adopt a title like that it's no longer very involuntary. maybe I'm missing something, or maybe it's all just nonsense and I give it all way too much thought

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HeadfulOfHollow · 4時間前

I don't really understand the incel movement, or MGTOW either. I'm celibate, but that's mostly by choice - I've had opportunities to have sex. In my case, I have a whole heap of personal problems I'd like to fix before getting into a relationship (depression, social anxiety etc) and think it'd be unfair to burden a partner with that. So the problem lies with me. I don't see why you would hate or blame every other women in the entire world. Do I sometimes feel sad or lonely, or even angry? Sure, but to hate an entire gender of people because of it is very silly and seems a rather poisonous mindset which could only lead to further bitterness, hatred and resentment.

I don't know, all this nonsense, I never see it outside of the internet. Go for a walk, people are generally okay.

SurfaceProne · 17時間前

*Check history*

18

Dude you were never an incel. Calling yourself an incel before you're even in your 20s is a little premature.

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