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Suporting The Next Generation of Alphas (self.askMRP)

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So I got thinking, I am making all of this progress in my personal life which is extending into my family life. However, I am concerned about my son. I understand my frame should extended to him and he should see that as an example. However, are there any books or reading material others have seen that covers the rearing of male offspring from a slight RP perspective? Honestly, if someone had given me some of these tactics as a young man I would be much more confident, able to shut down shit tests, and not be 10 years behind in my understanding of what women need. I know MRP development is fairly new, but we almost need a Children Red Pill to ensure our sons grow up to be the alphas we know they can.

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[–]saint_chalet 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

You're missing a big part of the point.

-Act-

He will see how you act, especially around your wife, and follow.

Be an active part of his development. Put your phone away when you get home from work and engage him. Teach him what you know by showing him what you know.

Above all, for you, stop lamenting the fact you're just learning this stuff now.

[–]InvincibleKraken 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I read Raising Men by Eric Davis and thought it was decent. Supposedly Navy SEAL lessons applied to fatherhood. He emphasizes teaching your kids about risk and letting be responsible early.

I just got Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax. Recommended by the Boy Scouts, and haven't started yet, but it supposedly includes a mentoring program to lead boys to men as they develop.

I've found the concept of Extreme Ownership, especially the chapter about leading up and down (it is your responsibility to make sure those under you completely understand instructions and are equipped to succeed), to be useful as I think about parenting.

Basically, I focus on teaching my son to be responsible, to control his emotions, to think highly of himself and work to be better and not give up.

[–]saint_chalet 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

to think highly of himself

these are really powerful words. Given the number of females influencing these young men (teachers @ school, swimming, etc) and leading them to believe they're not doing it right, reinforcing the idea that they're good, valuable people is quite important. Thanks for the reminder.

[–]atlhart 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I can't speak more highly of the Boy Scouts as a great program for boys to learn to be men.

BUT, you, the father, must be involved. The design of Boy Scouts is amazing, but the execution can be a Beta factory. Strong male role models are needed to make sure your son learns the proper lessons and follows the proper examples.

Most male adults I'm around are pretty worthless when you it comes to anything that's outside their comfort zone, or that doesn't go according to The Plan (as defined by the joker). I'm always johnny on the spot of how to adjust and keep things moving, and I attribute a lot of it to skills I learned in becoming an Eagle Scout.

Even simple stuff like making a fire. The number of grown ass men that I know that can't make a fire is embarrassing.

[–]LewisCross 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Most male adults I'm around are pretty worthless when you it comes to anything that's outside their comfort zone, or that doesn't go according to The Plan (as defined by the joker). I'm always johnny on the spot of how to adjust and keep things moving, and I attribute a lot of it to skills I learned in becoming an Eagle Scout.

Even simple stuff like making a fire. The number of grown ass men that I know that can't make a fire is embarrassing.

This.

Can't build a fire. Can't read an instruction manual for an appliance. Can't do the repairs/troubleshooting that is in that manual. Can't order a part for the appliance and replace it. Can't do even the most basic home repairs. Can't do a rudimentary diagnosis on a car's problem. Don't have the slightest idea how an automobile works. Cant even put air in the tires.

Can't think critically. Can't observe a set of facts and reach a conclusion supported by those facts. Can't articulate a paragraph or sentence to support, defend or attack a position.

[–]wally592[🍰] 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

r/redpillfatherhood/

Not much content flying around on that sub. But it's there, and some people are starting the engage on this level.

[–]alphabeta49Red Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Others have said it, showing him your actions and being really honest about your successes and failures, especially as he gets into pre-teens and teen years, is going to do the most good.

Resources are out there, but scarce. I'm not far along the journey enough to be an expert on the topic, but wouldn't it be helpful to be able to say more than "son, don't do what I did"?

I'm a mod at r/redpillfatherhood. There's not much there, not for lack of interest, but my time is stretched right now. As new as red pill is for single guys, you can imaging how fertile the fields are for a fatherhood revival. As you come across resources, ideas, epiphanies, etc feel free to post them over there. Maybe xpost them back to here for traffic.