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Need a bit of advice (self.badwomensanatomy)

the_gaming_princess が 投稿

I could go on a rant, but TL;DR I have conservative parents that I can't go to for any "female" issues. I'm especially upset about it now because I started what seems like a period (cramps and all, not just bleeding) after just having had one at the end of December, with no history of them being that close together. I should be able to go to my mom and tell her what's wrong, and ask if it's normal, but I have to keep hush-hush. Maybe it's just teenage girl overworrying (I'm 15), but because of this kind of stuff being taboo, there's no real way I can stop worrying. The whole stigma against menstruation/tampons/pads is a huge badwomensanatomy issue that could potentially be endangering my life. Sorry if posts like mine aren't really acceptable, there's probably better subs for issues like mine.

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[–]cnotesayswhat 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (6子コメント)

For what it's worth, at 15 it's pretty normal for your cycle to be a little hinky. It doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong.

Even so, I'd suggest talking with the school nurse, or a friend's mom if you're close to one. You could also contact your local Planned Parenthood and explain the situation and see if they have any advice for you.

[–]the_gaming_princess[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (5子コメント)

I'm so scared to reach out, I know that realistically nothing bad will happen, but there's such a stigma there. I once went almost a whole school day with TP in my undies instead of a pad/tampon because I was too scared to ask for one. I don't even know if there's a Planned Parenthood near me (misleading name for a place that's not just abortions), and if my parents found out that I contacted one, I'd be in for a (verbal) beating. My parents aren't abusive in the slightest, but they're scared of me getting older, and they're the type of christians that use the word "fornication" to describe sexual activity. God forbid they find out that I've been questioning my sexuality for a good few months (they think I'm straight).

[–]cnotesayswhat 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Oh boy. Yeah, in that case, Planned Parenthood might not be the best solution, unless you can contact them from outside of your home.

I know it can feel really shameful to discuss something so personal, but you deserve to get the medical care you need, and you deserve to be able to use proper pads and tampons instead of wadded up toilet paper. If you really can't talk to your parents about it without fear of backlash, do you maybe have a friend's mom or even a female teacher you're close with who you could turn to?

Also, there's absolutely nothing wrong with questioning your sexuality, regardless of what your orientation turns out to be. But I think you're smart to keep it to yourself for now, if only to make your home life as comfortable as possible.

[–]the_gaming_princess[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

The TP incident was a one-time thing because I forgot to bring an extra tampon to school, and I'm so used to staying quiet that I guess I need internet strangers to make me say something.

[–]cnotesayswhat 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Please don't feel badly about it. You're doing the best you can with what sounds like really limited resources and parental support on your side.

[–]not_just_amwac 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I live in a part of the world where abortions are (comparably) easily accessible and gay marriage has been legalised twice (and overturned by federal government...). This stuff is still kept quiet about.

Periods are bizarre at the best of time. Chances are it's nothing, but if you're worried, ask your mum to get you to a doctor to ask.

[–]Constant Vagina Bonerlila_liechtenstein 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

if my parents found out that I contacted one, I'd be in for a (verbal) beating

Hey there! What you describe is abuse. Emotional abuse is a thing, it doesn't have to be physical, and to make you so afraid of them that you can't talk about your normal bodily functions is abusive. Also, medical neglect counts as abuse.

Do you have a school nurse? Because those usually carry tampons/pads for emergencies. Also, get your hands on a pack of tampons/pads and store them in your school bag. I never leave the house without my little 3-tampon-case, it's a life saver - for me, or a friend.

And: Get medical attention. Cramps and irregular periods are, in principle, nothing unusual at your age, but there's always the possibility that something is out of the ordinary. Try to ask your mum to take you to the OBGYN, you should be looked at, it's imperative. And never forget: you are a product of their fornication :P

[–]DircusPeanut 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You may be able to call a gynocologist's office to talk to a nurse. I've called my gyno's office a few times to do that. I'm not sure if you'd be able to if you aren't a patient there, but it could help! I'm sorry about your situation, I hope you figure everything out!

[–]Iza_ 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

r/TwoXchromosomes is a great place to ask questions about being a girl so I'd suggest you ask there as well.