20 I have a department of women’s health whereas men have no such department.
21 My gender enjoys more government spending on health issues than males do.
22 My gender consumes the lioness’ share of entitlement programs while men contribute the lion’s share of taxes. – on these items, my opinion is more likely to be of the “limit the gov’t” than the “protect the gender” mentality. That just gets into politics, and ain’t nobody got time for that right now.
23 If I rape or molest a child… To be fair, anyone can sue anyone for anything. But you are correct in your recognition of the absence of justice in this area.
24 When I divorce my husband I will most likely obtain custody of my children unless I am deemed to be extraordinarily unfit. – Less and less accurate. Most likely is that there will be joint custody – equal unless one or the other partner is unfit and usually depends on the past history of who the children have been living with. A man who wants his children, is more likely to have the resources to fight for them.
25 If a man calls me a slut it will probably hurt his reputation more than it hurts mine, but at any rate the damage will be small and localized. However, if I call him a creep it can severely hurt his reputation. – This is 2 parts, the first is true now, but wasn’t 10-15 years ago. The second is not really accurate, imho. An insult flung at an indivudal like that doesn’t really have staying power, except that the person who receives the insult internalizes it and is hurt.
26 I may have the luxury of staying home and being a housewife while a male who does the same thing is likely to be called deadbeat loser and tell her to leave him. – True less and less. A woman who stays at home is almost always raising the children. Before children, and after they are in school, she is usually expected to be working. Even though this is a decision that should only ever be between the partners involved in a couple, you should see the discomfort of the faces of women who say they are stay-at-home moms, and how they feel that they have to justify it to others, even other women.
Similarly, it is amazing how I have attended professional events, in my field, with my husband who is in the same field, and have had my elbow grabbed by men who assume that I am only there as the spouse, and of course I just want to be shown where the other wives are so I can talk about girl things. And thus I am shunted out of the conversation with the other professionals.
27 the rules of “masculine clothing” are not set in stone and are difficult to understand. A t-shirt and jeans is not currently considered “masculine” clothing, but unisex. If a woman wore a man’s cut suit in to work, however, she would most certainly be subject to the same social penalty as a man who wore a woman’s cut suit in to work. Additionally, a fat man in a men’s cut suit has no problem looking like he belongs, whereas a woman’s “professional” clothing options are almost always additionally designed to make her look “sexy”, because that is what society says that all women should be. So a fat woman in a traditionally cut women’s suit looks sloppy or just awful.
28 In good part the standards of “beauty” for men and women are so very disparate. Actually, if a woman doesn’t use make-up, do her hair, etc. – using a lot of time and products which put a serious dent into finances, she is judged and there is social stigma. A man who comes into work in the same suit every day without makeup and with a very short haircut which requires no time and very little maintenance is “professional” whereas a woman who did the same thing would be looked at oddly, told she needed to spend more time on her professional appearance and wardrobe, and considered unprofessional.
29 I can choose my job based on satisfaction, flexibility of hours, and working conditions and then claim that I should make as much as the males working nights, out in the rain and cold or working overtime. – Well, anyone can claim anything, but my experience is that this is not at all accurate.
30 If I abuse my husband and physically assault him and the police arrive it is almost guaranteed he will go to jail. – This is true. And is unacceptable. But I think that society is starting to recognize that domestic violence goes both ways. It’s almost an odd shift from the rule of thumb, which used to be the law that a man could beat his wife if the object he used was no wider than his thumb.
31 If I am in an abusive relationship there are a multitude of social organizations and resources to help me get away from him. There are few if any for men in the same position. – seems accurate. Given that men usually earn more money, and that they are more likely to be the financial earner for a family or couple, that the man would have the financial resources to up and leave more easily. This is probably an unfair situation, though.
32 In the event of a natural disaster or other emergency that requires evacuation I can expect to be evacuated before males. This includes male doctors, humanitarians, politicians, captains of industry, billionaires, and religious leaders. I will receive no social penalty if all of those people died because I was evacuated first. However, should they manage to get evacuated before women and those women died they will all suffer a social penalty. – Although almost always when someone survives a natural disaster like that, they have lost so many of their friends, family, belongings, that they endure survivor’s guilt and are so consumed with grief and financial devastation that whatever imagined “social penalty” you are thinking about here is not even a big deal.
33 I may denounce the concept of a dowry, however, I still expect a man to give me an engagement ring when he asks me to marry him. - A holdover from times when women were property. And is being denounced by feminists as a mark that a woman is owned, whereas a man wears no such mark during the engagement period. Is legally supposed to be a symbol of the contract to wed, so that whoever breaks the contract gives up their claim on the bauble. Most of the couples that I know well (not just people that are acquaintances) had a serious discussion about the rings (both engagement and wedding) and many of them made it a joint purchase, forwent it altogether, or did their very own thing.
Point being, this is a couple’s decision. And while, there are some societal expectations, I think they are sliding, and that when an outsider to a relationship starts to make judgments about who is owed what inside of that relationship, well, it seems likely that the outsider needs to butt right out.
34 Anyone who does nothing, not even call for help, when another person is being assaulted, is deserving of, and frequently the recipient of degradation and insults. Disparate physical strength between the avg. man and avg. woman accounts for some of the difference in expectations of physical response.
Although, this is more traditionally rooted in the extremely restrictive clothing and lifestyle that women/ladies were subjected to that would have made them physically incapable of responding with any effective force… not just in the moment but due to a lifetime of wearing clothes that limited breathing and activity, of being told not to exert themselves beyond walking, of their bodies being drained of their resources by bearing children from approx. the age of 16 or 17 until they died in childbirth, in marriages that they didn’t get to choose, usually to much older men, because they didn’t own themselves and weren’t allowed to own any property so they were basically sold like chattel for alliances, favors, etc. So sure, women get a little lag on not being expected to perform in certain ways in social situations due to tradition, even though the reasons for those traditions have faded. I’m not sure that this one is fair, but I’m not sure it’s one that’s worth declaring as a gross unfair condition.
35 If I’m uncomfortable exercising around men I can demand a female only gym be made for women. If any male only gyms exist I can demand membership under threat of lawsuit. Female safe spaces are viewed as allowable, while male safe spaces are not. – which is ridiculous. Likewise, the idea that the boy scouts should have to include girls is ridiculous. Likewise, the idea that any private organization should not be allowed to restrict its membership to persons who fit a specific description is ridiculous. But in that vein, any group who restricts its membership or participation based on race, or gender, or height, or whatever, (while it should be allowed), should understand that the consequences of doing that (labeled as racist, misogynistic, misandrist, etc.) are likely accurate and deserved.
36 Anyone who is inebriated is incapable of legal consent. Likewise, anyone who does not have full mental capacity (mentally impaired) cannot give consent. So my brother with Down’s syndrome could not legally consent to have sex.
37 A man can get angry and intimidate a woman into doing something she otherwise might not have. And the threat of physical force that might come from an avg. man is much more substantial than the threat of physical force that comes from an avg. woman. There is evidence to suggest that tears are a female’s natural emotion default when under stress and in exactly the same way anger is a man’s natural emotion default. When paired with the standard difference in physical capacity, it is intimidating and the tears triggering a sympathy response in a potentially angry, stronger person seems like a decent balance of powers.
38 People are more likely to view me positively or as more benevolent soley on the basis of my sex. – In the same way, a man is more likely to be viewed as competent, particularly as regards something technical or mechanical. Stereotypes exist in both directions.