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[–]allis_vanity 533 ポイント534 ポイント  (102子コメント)

Where is the tried to leave but didn't have any good options column

[–]SeraphicRage 432 ポイント433 ポイント  (91子コメント)

"I'll just quit my job because I'm unhappy, I'm sure I'll find a new job in no time!"

Aaaaaand now I'm homeless

[–]checker280 195 ポイント196 ポイント  (75子コメント)

What's stopping you from staying but actively looking for a new job/ planning your leave?

[–]wngman 100 ポイント101 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is the correct route

[–]eazolan 112 ポイント113 ポイント  (42子コメント)

Trying to stay sane and civil at your current job leaves you drained of energy, and the dehumanizing effect makes you believe you can't do better.

[–]TheKocsis 41 ポイント42 ポイント  (9子コメント)

i can somewhat understand that, but when i started planning my next place, that was the only thing that kept me going pretty much. when i worked at the bad place, kept looking around on the web that what i will be doing differently and it made me excited

[–]Tickerbug 21 ポイント22 ポイント  (4子コメント)

I wish I could be so excited but instead I just feel scared. Where will I go, what job will I find, how will I further my life? Maybe the prospect of finding those answers is fun to some but I just worry the answer will be "I dont know" forever.

Guess I need to get motivated, eh?

[–]dudeguymanthesecond 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Don't forget your job helmet!

[–]MsStJohnIfYouNasty 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Just remember, you were looking for a job when you found this one. It'll happen.

[–]Scroatyb 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Make it fun, or interesting, or challenging or anything. Instead of making it scary and building it up, make yourself scary and build yourself up. Attitude is everything.

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    [–]mglyptostroboides 13 ポイント14 ポイント  (2子コメント)

    Fuck this is hitting close to home right now. :(

    [–]eazolan 14 ポイント15 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I've ended up like this several times. One of two things are going to happen.

    1. You stay at the job you hate forever.

    2. You're going to get fired. Because the agony will effect your job performance, and then you need to run around and find a new job.

    So, ideally, you don't want 1. And you want to skip the panic search of #2.

    [–]121gigawhatevs 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (8子コメント)

    I don't know about this one. Shit or get off the pot my man

    [–]BehavioralSink 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    Got that right now, and the place I'm at is a great place to work. I'm just overqualified for what I'm doing, and underpaid for what I could be doing.

    [–]eazolan 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    You actually sound like the easiest one to find a job.

    I have no idea what I'm qualified for. I work in IT. I just get "IT jobs".

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      [–]Knight_of_autumn 30 ポイント31 ポイント  (3子コメント)

      The best time to get a new job is when you already have one.

      Example: I was looking for a job after a layoff for a while. I had almost no responses except through friend referrals. I eventually accepted a job offer and almost immediately started receiving unsolicited emails from recruiters at least twice a week.

      I applied to 32 places. Eventually around 12 got back to me. Most of them said "sorry but we chose someone else." Three gave me an offer and I chose one. It has been two months and I have over a dozen emails asking me for interest in positions from companies I never applied to.

      If you dislike your job, keep working, but start looking.

      [–]_AlreadyTaken_ 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (1子コメント)

      Agreed. The panic that comes as you run out of money if you don't have a job while hunting for one will eventually force you to take anything.

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        [–]BadMrFrosty_ 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Sometimes staying at a job with a toxic environment and a cantankerous manager can be detrimental to your health. I almost took the leap of faith at one point, but miraculously found a job at the last minute.

        [–]allis_vanity 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        One can actively look and still have nothing better or equivalent to find

        [–]Fohnzii 43 ポイント44 ポイント  (6子コメント)

        Lazy people really do not want to hear this.

        [–]pakoskareddit 29 ポイント30 ポイント  (2子コメント)

        Can confirm. Am lazy

        [–]staystoic 26 ポイント27 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        Would confirm but I'm too lazy to bother.

        [–]siliconsmiley 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        If I was less lethargic, I would be more apathetic.

        [–]humansarenothreat 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Here I sit here at work thinking I should leave (or do things I need to do to get to move up) and agreeing with this comic. Still, haven't moved from this here chair at work and/or from Reddit.

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          [–]my_name_is_gato 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

          I did this once, but it is very challenging in a smaller professional community. I couldn't risk using a current employer for a reference because the consequence of them learning I'm leaving would be disastrous.

          [–]megloface 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          I also did this. It was also challenging to find reasons to suddenly be gone for an hour mid afternoon every other week while being slightly more dressed up than normal.

          [–]Thopski 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

          What if you're dead-broke working a dead-end job and can't afford to spend $50k to go back to school and study for 4 years in order to be employable doing something you'd actually enjoy?

          [–]Collucin 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          I was in the same boat a few years ago. I found a cheap state college nearby and spent ~$16k on my bachelor's degree.

          [–]lawnguy1988 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          Seriously, this is a concept that many people don't understand.

          Others: "Today really sucked, here's an idea I could give up having a stable income and MAYBE find a better option LATER."

          Me: "Today really sucked, good thing I got 3 interviews this week and PTO!"

          [–]SeraphicRage 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (2子コメント)

          Nothing, but that's not what the comic says. Being highly specialized has benefits and detriments. I'm pretty much secure in my position, but at the same time it's very hard to find a job at another company.

          [–]jihiggs 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (1子コメント)

          the comic says nothing about leaving before you get another job. thats just common sense.

          [–]nobody2000 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          Exactly. No one fucking realizes it doesn't literally mean "walk out the door today." It means "Work to build the options you might not currently have."

          [–]eternal_septuagint 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

          If you have two part time jobs at minimum wage that keep you from having a normal schedule and taking interviews ... yes, whom indeed.

          [–]iranoutofwittynames 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

          I've been in there: two part time jobs with a painful schedule. No degree but student loan payments. Slightly more stable job and part-time again now. What I will say is: don't give up! It is easy for an Internet stranger to say without any knowledge of the nuances of your situation, but just know that this random guy has been there, and is rooting for you.

          [–]Early_ 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          "I'll just stay at my unhappy job and look for a better one"

          "Oh no, someone at work found out and now im jobless"

          "Oh look im homeless"

          [–]LiveOnSteak 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          Don't know what I want to do instead. I haven't completely given up hope that I would like my job at the right company, but that's a slim chance.

          [–]harpoonguild 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          See parent post

          [–]romanticheart 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          Because I'm looking to move out of state within a year and it would be stupid to waste time and energy on a new job here when I will need to do it all over again when I move.

          [–]KNBeaArthur 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

          i'm a year deep into this strategy.

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            [–]kingcho 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (3子コメント)

            Just quit my job because I was unhappy without a new job to go to. Not homeless yet. Will report back.

            [–]guinness_blaine 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            This comic was originally posted the first Monday after I left my job, without a next job lined up.

            Still have a home, and things are looking positive for getting an offer in the next few business days.

            [–]SJWs_can_SMD 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            Did the same, been about 3 months now. Starting to sweat.

            [–]SeraphicRage 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            You can do it!

            [–]Arclite83 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            I know so many people who do this kind of idiotic thing. You should always be looking for options, but weigh them dispassionately.

            Example: 'starving artist' acquaintance of mine landed a steady job after months of barely paying bills. 2 months later he quits because they were "stifling his creativity", and is right back to not making ends meet, having to move to a smaller/cheaper place, etc. Maybe the job was secretly having him design Nazi propaganda, I don't know, but there aren't a lot of reasons to bail without a backup plan after you just scraped to get something steady.

            [–]mf_dk43 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            really?

            [–]vonFelty 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            Actually I regret leaving my home town to move to a big city.

            Sure the nightlife, sex life, and pay was better, but now that I am older I miss my quiet job at a local shop that a local business person ran instead of working for a corporation

            I only got paid $7.50 an hour but the work was meaningful, honest, and I was happy doing it.

            Now that I spent most of my adult life working for corporations, I wonder if I would have been happier if I stuck it out there.

            Sure I might always wonder what it would be like to live in a big city, but now that I know, I know it's not really that great.

            [–]Darth_Raj_Raj 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

            I did that.... 6 weeks later and I've got an interview in 20 hours! :) thanks emergency fund for carrying me through.... Had 1300 of car repairs this month.... Figures. Moving to a new place had to buy hundreds of dollars of household necessities... Figures.

            It's okay as long as you've got an emergency fund.

            [–]SeraphicRage 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            Nice! I also have a fair amount in my emergency fund, but I'm just too much of a "play-it-safe"r that I can't bring myself to pull the trigger before I find something concrete

            [–]guinness_blaine 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            Hey, we left our jobs around the same time!

            [–]geallen1 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

            Been looking for a job for 3 months. Not homeless but certainly wondering if I should have stayed until another option was lined up.

            [–]PM-ME-YOUR-DOGPICS 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

            Don't let go of the first vine without grabbing onto another first

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              [–]januarykim76 18 ポイント19 ポイント  (0子コメント)

              The left...the "should have stayed" column.

              [–]llbad 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

              Oh, this is referring to jobs? I was applying it to my relationships

              EDIT: except all the checkmarks are on the right side

              [–]guinness_blaine 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

              It's general enough to apply to a lot of things. It made me think of jobs and relationships, but mostly jobs because it was the first xkcd after I left mine.

              [–]OneAttentionPlease 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

              Non-existant.

              [–]nobody2000 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

              It's on the right. Options don't find you, YOU find options. This is /r/getmotivated not /r/excuses or /r/notenoughoptions

              God - everyone's a fucking defeatist on this cesspool of a sub.

              [–]icamefromamonkey 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

              They're not posting in /r/getmotivated. It's called survivorship bias, and it's the reason there are lots of people cheering you on to chase your unlikely dreams. Uhhh... on second thought, maybe I shouldn't be in this sub.

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                [–]HanSoloCupFiller 81 ポイント82 ポイント  (31子コメント)

                Can confirm, was in a manipulative relationship, thought I was going to settle for being sorta happy. Broke up a few weeks ago and now I'm happier than ever. I can finally do what I want to again :')

                [–]brazzbrazz 32 ポイント33 ポイント  (8子コメント)

                I'm in the process of leaving an manipulative/abusive/dishonest/ cheating woman. I hope to be where you are soon buddy.

                [–]Djr291 23 ポイント24 ポイント  (3子コメント)

                Me too.. let's fuck shit up this year boys!

                [–]brazzbrazz 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                Lol, I appreciate the sentiment. I'll get to that point eventually.

                [–]DonNHillary4-20-2017 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                NO, NOW!

                DUMP THE BITCH, WE'RE GOING STREAKING ACROSS THE QUAD TO THE GYMNASIUM!

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                  [–]HanSoloCupFiller 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  I hope the process goes as smooth as it can mate

                  [–]RealWorldRoadRuler 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                  You have to leave her on your terms. I was in a similar situation, and ended up doing something stupid out of frustration of the endless betrayal. All I did was give her a solid excuse for claiming to be the victim, and made it so she never spoke to me again.

                  Problem was I didn't do what I did to leave her or get rid of her.. I was just upset. Which made it feel like the betrayal was 10x worse, when she left me.

                  And no, I didn't hurt her in any physical way.

                  [–]guinness_blaine 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  Good luck! You're better than your situation!

                  [–]ThePathGuy 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  congrats, i know those feels. Welcome back to the new you :)

                  [–]0asq 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (19子コメント)

                  I'm in a relationship where I'm happy but I have some doubts about it.

                  She loves me, treats me well, but I'm not sure I can trust her because I once caught her having an emotional affair with this guy over texts.

                  It's also little things like seeing that while I'm in the room she's playing Xbox, and while I'm gone she seems to be on her phone. But when I see her she's just swiping, not texting. It's not like I don't look at things on my phone that SHE doesn't like, and maybe I'm just projecting...

                  So I'm at a difficult place. I love her and she loves me, but there's some trust issues. I'm painfully shy and starting over again would suck. She's pushing me towards marriage.

                  I don't know what to do. Occasionally it's gotten bad and we've talked about breaking up, but we can't do it because of the feels.

                  Any advice? Beyond Reddit standard "bro you deserve better" advice which doesn't seem to acknowledge the complexity. Anyone been there before?

                  [–]Tinystrawberry 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (6子コメント)

                  I feel exactly the same in my current relationship. My boyfriend had been in contact with a girl for a few weeks, just messaging, getting to know each other, that sort of stuff. Met up too. Lied into my face about it all. I love him a lot and I don't know what I would do without him but I feel so shitty about it all the time. Don't know what to do.

                  So yeah, me too. Dont know what to say. You're not alone I guess.

                  [–]Thorquel 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  Here is what I found in my last relationship before I stopped settling and left: What we want from love (many of us) is for the other person to unconditionally love us. To want to be around us, think of and be fully devoted, do caring things that show they're thinking of us as we are them. (in a healthy relationship people want to do things for one another to show they care.) If you don't have those things, then you don't have the relationship you deserve. You can love someone and still have them not be the right fit for you. You both can try counseling to work through these issues; but if these people don't show up for you in those ways, then what are you trying to salvage? Find the person who WANTS to be around you and would never want to see you hurt. Because they are out there and they will think you're the bee knees. :) Don't be afraid to start over, don't settle!

                  [–]HanSoloCupFiller 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                  If he lied about it, that's not ok. #1 most important thing in a relationship is trust, and if you don't have that, or it was broken, it's very very hard to mend it. My advice is if there's another lie from his end, don't put up with it. You deserve better even if you don't think so. Also, read my comment above, there is some helpful advice in there

                  [–]0asq 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                  Yeah, on one hand I feel that if you see the tip of an iceberg, you should be convinced there's a whole iceberg there.

                  She regularly cheated on her last husband, but he kind of put up with it because they were in a dead marriage. They didn't want to divorce for cultural reasons and he didn't seem to care about life. So maybe that was different.

                  She's also left that life behind her. We've all done stupid shit in our twenties. Today she's kind, hardworking and responsible.

                  But I can't help but fear that I'm going to just be like that old husband if I marry her. It may have been okay for him, but not for me.

                  It would be okay if I could just hang around for another few years and see what happens, but her clock is ticking. Also she wants kids.

                  I can't just leave. She's my home. She's my best friend. We've been through so much together. And when I've tried to walk away we've both broken down in tears because we love each other so much.

                  How do I just walk away from that? How do I sit and have these fights that pop up every three months about marriage?

                  Every so often I feel she's cheating on me and I feel my intuition is good. We've moved recently and she's made an effort to be better, and I can sense that she's not. But who's to say the old patterns won't just keep repeating themselves, at a greater magnitude in the future?

                  [–]thismightgetbumpy29 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  Woah man, she cheated on her exHUSBAND. Does she feel any remorse? What's her explanation for this? It doesn't matter if it was a dead marriage. She's trying to rationalize her behavior. So if there's a rough time she resorts to cheating? That sounds like her explanation of her behavior.

                  Past cheaters are a huge red flag, especially if they don't feel remorse about what they did. Their "barrier to entry" has been suppressed and they are far more likely to act that way again. Cheating once is one thing. Cheating multiple times is another.

                  Like I said above my friend, I made this same mistake. Your gut is yelling at you and trying to protect you. You really need to listen to it. I have my breakup story on /r/relationships and I used to think we were the perfect couple.

                  Feel free to message me privately if you need to talk about this. I was in your shoes once.

                  [–]ThinkRadical 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                  If you both love one another, then voice your concerns compassionately. "I feel this way, because of x, y, z." And if she loves you and you love her, you can both work on making one another feel secure and happy. Relationships are work. Lots of work. But they're worth it if the only issue is a slight blip on the radar. Communication is where it's at.

                  If you both aren't constructive with your communication style, I would just suggest a session with a relationship counsellor to work on communication techniques. It doesn't need to be seen as a bad step (to seek professional help), instead it can help propel you guys into a more happy/secure place.

                  Good luck!

                  [–]0asq 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                  We have done that, and she's gotten much better. But I can't be sure that it's a permanent change. There's a part of me that suspects it would get far worse if we were married. And that's the problem.

                  [–]Thorquel 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                  Here is what I found in my last relationship before I stopped settling and left: What we want from love (many of us) is for the other person to unconditionally love us. To want to be around us, think of and be fully devoted, do caring things that show they're thinking of us as we are them. (in a healthy relationship people want to do things for one another to show they care.) If you don't have those things, then you don't have the relationship you deserve. You can love someone and still have them not be the right fit for you. You both can try counseling to work through these issues; but if these people don't show up for you in those ways, then what are you trying to salvage? Find the person who WANTS to be around you and would never want to see you hurt. Because they are out there and they will think you're the bee knees. :) Don't be afraid to start over, don't settle!

                  [–]0asq 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                  She's better about doing those sorts of things for me than I am for her. She does make me feel loved.

                  On the other hand, every so often she stays out until 2 AM without warning and doesn't text me, coming back drunk, which reminds me of past instances when the fidelity was questionable.

                  [–]HanSoloCupFiller 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                  The best advice I can give is don't let paranoi have a place in your relationship. Yes it would suck if you caught her cheating, but it's not worth worrying about it before its even happened.

                  Talking about whether or not you are really happy, or just making yourself believe you are (something I struggled with), make sure to give yourself some time alone to reflect on your relationship, and talk to some people you trust in your life to give you some advice. Don't take their words as perfect, but it helps you reflect more on your current situation. Also r/relationshipadvice is a great place to post your relationship issues and get more opinions on it.

                  The only person you are guaranteed to live the rest of your life with is yourself. I made the mistake of being fairly selfless, and staying with my girlfriend because she needed someone to talk to in her life, and she was going through a lot. But looking back on it, she was using me as an emotional pillow to cry into, and never cared as much about my issues.

                  Goodluck out there

                  [–]0asq 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  Thank you. So far all of this advice has been far better than the standard /r/relationship_advice stuff.

                  One thing that I found that helps is when I get paranoid, I just need to not share it with her for a little while, reflect upon it, and process it. If I bring it up immediately of course it's an awful fight, but if I think about it I usually realize I don't have any case against her.

                  It's a change for me because I'm the kind of guy who is virtually incapable of hiding anything and it goes against my intuitions about being honest, but I think it's for the better.

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                        [–]howispellit 67 ポイント68 ポイント  (25子コメント)

                        I'm at the sixth month point at my job. I've had a "I don't think i'm gonna be good at this" vibe since week one, but everything was so new I thought I was just making excuses. I still feel that way. Reading this kind of helped reinforce my decision to start looking for another job.

                        [–]Threetreethee 19 ポイント20 ポイント  (8子コメント)

                        I'm in month three of the job and I hate it as well. For me there's nothing to do all day and I'm so bored everyday. Was planning on being a teacher. Got my application ready and everything but only thing holding me back are the horror stories!

                        [–]ThePathGuy 36 ポイント37 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                        go be a teacher you god damn dreamer, think of the children.

                        [–]Robotic_Pedant 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                        I turned down a very lucrative career because of the horror stories I heard from one person I knew in that field personally. I took another party and regretted it because it turns out that guy was just one of those people who will always be unhappy.

                        [–]ExodusRaven 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        I'm going to tell you, as a son of a teacher, as a nephew of several teachers, as someone who spent a lot of time around my parent's coworkers because you have to when you went to the school your parent taught at... And this is a city school, mind you, not a class of 12 in the country...

                        Teaching is just a job that's prone to horror stories. And most of them are probably true. There are a scary number of college students who, after finishing student teaching, nope the fuck right out of that career line. It's underpaid, and there's a lot of shit that gets thrown at you from students and parents that don't care, and from higher ups who don't understand what you're dealing with day to day. That said, all the best teachers I've known stay because they love what they do enough to put up with it all. No other job let's you actively shape the young minds that DO care, and it makes a difference. If teaching is something you're really passionate about, go for it.

                        [–]alchemyprime 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        I've had horror stories about teaching, about writing and about making games. Realized that the teaching wasn't my calling, the writing and games are. If teaching is your calling, ignore them. I legit had the worst class my principal ever saw as my first class. You will be fine. Go. Fight. Win!

                        [–]lesbian_sourfruit 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        There are few jobs as challenging and few jobs as rewarding as teaching. I watch my contemporaries searching for a sense of purpose and fulfillment in their lives, and as a teacher I know I will never experience that. It's exhausting. The pay rate is not commensurate with the amount of effort or education. If you are American, you will feel that most of society undervalues you. But for a few special kids, you will make all the difference in the world and that, I promise you, is worth it.

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                          [–]Deborah_Jadore 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                          I'm at month three in my new job after being fired from my last job for not being competent, in their opinion. I love my new job, I love my new co-workers, and even though it is hard to learn everything new I'm so much happier. I feel like I'm good at this job and I have good suggestions and experience that are relevant. So def if you are unhappy with a job look for a new one asap.

                          [–]DonNHillary4-20-2017 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                          This sub has never been so real for me. I need to get the fuck out of my job, I hate humans. Where can I find a job without any other humans?

                          [–]lazarus870 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (5子コメント)

                          Started a new job 9 months ago. I still get the "Sunday night blues" when I have to drink to cope with going back.
                          I felt like the dumbest person who was ever hired. I felt like they made a mistake by hiring me.
                          I feel like every mistake is a dagger through my self esteem, and every accomplishment is a fluke or just an easy accomplishment.

                          [–]121gigawhatevs 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                          .. It doesn't sound like the job is the issue. It sounds like you're very hard on yourself

                          [–]lazarus870 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                          You're right. I am taking steps to fix it. But it's a difficult road to climb.
                          I keep going into these jobs with a lot of discretion, and I worry that somebody else won't like my decisions.

                          [–]DonNHillary4-20-2017 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                          Doesn't mean the job isn't the issue. Maybe he'd be better suited to an environment where the bosses are highly encouraging and uplifting. That exists, right?

                          [–]robotsandpizza 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                          I feel the same way often. It is called, "Imposter Syndrome". I have it. It's ruined my last relationship of ten years and has ruined my professional development in some ways.

                          I've been combating this with a more structured daily routine and have been working hard on professional development. It's working. I feel more confident in what I can accomplish.

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                            [–]Thats_a_lot 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            I got that feeling after 6 months in my current job.

                            I have retained that feeling for the subsequent 2 years. I've spent a reasonable amount of time job hunting, but it's getting to the point where I am tempted to take a noticeable pay cut and try something I'm not sure about, so that I can get into something different.

                            My advice is to start the job hunt process now, but itemising what you like and don't like, and what you're good at and bad at, and the environment you want to work in, and the environments you don't.

                            The 'What colour is your parachute' book isn't a bad place to start, though it won't provide a magic answer.

                            [–]DonNHillary4-20-2017 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            I have retained that feeling for the subsequent 2 years. I've spent a reasonable amount of time job hunting, but it's getting to the point where I am tempted to take a noticeable pay cut and try something I'm not sure about, so that I can get into something different.

                            Dude, same as fuck. It'll be two years in April. Last April I said "shit, it's been A year, time for a new job" but then I got my Colorado Red Card....

                            [–]Deborah_Jadore 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Don't go taking a huge pay cut. You may end up hating the next job just as much and making 1/3rd what you did spending the same time being miserable! Take a little pay cut...

                            [–]0asq 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            Don't leave only because it's challenging, though. Try to rise to the work.

                            If they're working you like a dog and you're miserable, though, it may be time.

                            [–]howispellit 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            The problem I have is with the amount of training I got. One guy owns two resturants, an apartment complex, and is leasing out a building. There are three people doing the paperwork (accounts payable/receivable, HR, Payroll etc.). I came in knowing how to do Accounts Receivable, I got thrown into the rest. And both of the women who do all the work were pretty bad trainers. One couldn't stay focused on what she was teaching me (teaching me payroll, but would stop to check and answer e-mails in between). The other is just a major piece of work and I try to avoid her at all costs. In a three person office.

                            And everyone involved in these companies is either in the family or has been working there for years, so they haven't had to explain how things work in a long time. I got told "Well, everyone knows that." 6 times on my first day of work.

                            Add into the fact the boss man can make the women who does most of his work cry out of frustration, we didn't get any days off for the holidays, and when I make a mistake I don't get told . . . it all leads to an unsatisfying workplace.

                            [–]0asq 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            That sounds tough. My girlfriend is in that kind of job right now. Very demanding, not clear about expectations, poor communication from management.

                            I would still advise sticking around for at least a year, if only for the sake of your resume. But you may find that once you start to actually learn what you're doing, and establish relationships with people in your office, it's not so bad.

                            One thing I found in my job is not to silently suffer when I don't know something, but actively seek out people's help.

                            [–]yfwdbwdso 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            This is me right now too.

                            [–]0000010000000101 91 ポイント92 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            You rehosted a screenshot of xkcd on imgur, you lose 5 internets.

                            [–]oddloveolive 66 ポイント67 ポイント  (32子コメント)

                            Does this count for college too? Because man I'm hella not happy haha

                            [–]BoundlessSkies 40 ポイント41 ポイント  (8子コメント)

                            Got depressed at university. Took a gap year on the basis of mental health. During the year, I spent about 3 months starting to feel better (as soon as those deadlines and the social pressure is off it feels like a relief) and the last 9 months living in Portland OR for an adventure (I'm from the UK). Went back to uni feeling refreshed and ready to give it another crack. Only downside was my friends were all a year ahead now and had their living situations sorted before I got back so I kind of started from scratch a bit socially. All in all, gap year > dropping out.

                            [–]cassiopeiae_j 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (4子コメント)

                            I've been thinking i should do this. Was it difficult getting back into the swing of things? My course is physics and maths based so I'm worried it'll be more difficult to get back to it, even though I'm really not able to cope with the stress of university right now...

                            [–]BoundlessSkies 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (3子コメント)

                            Hmm... I would say, not for me in the humanities as each module is kind of new material. I can't speak for sciences. What I can say from a friend's experience ahem is your roommates start looking at you real funny after they hear you spent a night in a police cell on suicide watch.

                            I definitely think that taking a bit of time out to travel before you're at the clinically depressed stage (if you're not) is a good idea. Ignore the initial feelings of burnout at your own peril. And it's good to travel when you're young. I also managed to save some money during the year and spend less of my government loan as a result.

                            [–]cassiopeiae_j 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            I would imagine. I hope things are better for you. I think the biggest factor stopping me is disappointment from family / myself but I definitely don't want to let myself get worse here...

                            [–]BoundlessSkies 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Things are ok for me, thanks. Like, I had a breakdown at 15, spent time in hospital, police cell at uni, but I have also lived in the US and Australia and visited Indonesia and Egypt and passed my degree. I don't make much money (I'm 30) and I still struggle with depression but I'm not in crisis mode anymore and I've learned to have adventures despite the blues as it is often transformative to my mood for long periods of time to be in a new place and have lots of new experiences.

                            Yeah, things have never been the same with my family since I was hospitalised, really. I guess that's why I'm keen on responding to uni students who are considering taking time out to firmly encourage the idea. I mean you've been in education for probably 18 years straight, anyone would need a break before taking on maths and physics degrees + intense social pressure. Better to be a sensible son/daughter who makes a decision for their own good than the son/daughter with the history of hospitalisations etc. But I appreciate it isn't that serious for everyone. :)

                            [–]BoundlessSkies 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            I would assume that with physics and maths, it's possible you might get a bit rusty over the year but also, if you're not at your best it's presumably pretty tricky to get your head around new material. So you should weigh being a bit out of practice with feeling unhappy and overwhelmed to consider which would make you less efficient. There's certainly nothing to stop you taking a gap year, getting a job and studying the upcoming modules independently so that when you go back you smash it. :)

                            Edit: brainfart.

                            [–]lMYMl 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            Sounds expensive.

                            [–]BoundlessSkies 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Not really. Uni was a loan from the government, before the UK govt. were assholes. There is no fee to defer for a year and loans don't kick in until you graduate. I saved the £700 plus some safety money in the three months I lived at home working minimum wage in a bar (I was 21) and bought a one way flight to the US. I have a US passport as my father is American so there were no visa fees. I stayed with a friend who didn't ask me for rent until I got a job. I got a job and paid mate's rates to share a room for the rest of the time. Saved enough money to fly home plus some to take back to uni... Travel isn't as expensive as people think it is. I tend to take working holidays, travelling to places I can legally work for long periods of time, which is much cheaper than a two week holiday in a resort location eating out all the time. shrug

                            [–]aaddeerraall 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            That's awesome, and definitely what I was thinking would help me best if I ever got too stressed out in college.

                            [–]checker280 34 ポイント35 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            Yes. See above. Stay until you have a path out.

                            [–]SonOf2Pac 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Hold on tight. Unless you have big plans, wait it out.

                            [–]ozebb 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            Anecdotal, but I bailed on college after a year (would've graduated 2008 or 2009 probably), and I really enjoy my life right now -- I've been debt-free for a long time now, I have a good career in web development, and I have some pretty cool sidelines (I'm a jazz guitar player semi-professionally).

                            Can't know the life I would've lived had I stayed, but I'm happy with my choices. Not finishing college hasn't felt like an impediment to me so far, but I've also worked my ass off to educate myself outside the school context and to get experience that shows (in ways other than a diploma) that I'm an intelligent and capable person.

                            [–]AirFell85 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            Not to nay-say, just want to counterbalance your argument because life is about the choices you make... on your own...

                            I skipped college and ended up homeless for several years. It took the death of my best friend to make me wake up and see whats going on and how useless I became. Went back to college at 26. 31 now and have never been happier. I'm pretty much 10 years behind where most people my age are in their careers, but at the same time I'm grateful and appreciative of what I have.

                            I will agree that experience is the most important thing though. I excel not just because of my drive, but also because if where I've been and what I've learned. Experience gives you inherent resources be it something directly applicable like a skill or ability to problem solve ect... or reference on how different situations can be handled or insight others may not have.

                            [–]Nalarean 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Oh i'm in the same boat as you mate.

                            [–]HalfAPairOfWings 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (7子コメント)

                            Hopefully you're not too far in, but sometimes it's your major that needs changing. Just changed mine away from engineering to CS and I couldn't be happier. Though, now I have to wait a full extra year and a half to graduate. Sometimes it's worth it.

                            Edit: CS - Computer science

                            [–]_HighPole-eloPhgiH_ 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (3子コメント)

                            Don't worry about graduating later. I had the same problem - went into a major I was bad at, switched to CS. You might be in school for longer, but there are part time opportunities that you can explore while in school that will still get you ahead. I just moved from one part time CS job to another part time CS job that pays more - you can still build your career while you wait.

                            [–]HalfAPairOfWings 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            That's good to know. Should I be looking for a part time job after I get a couple of programming languages under my belt? Right now I've got Python and c.

                            [–]aaddeerraall 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            What is CS?

                            [–]HelloIAmACorndog 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Computer science

                            [–]HalfAPairOfWings 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Computer science, sorry should've clarified.

                            [–]121gigawhatevs 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                            Berkeley?

                            [–]bagelhunts 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            You know you can change your major right? Not everyone gets it right on their first try.

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                              [–]deathofyouandme 41 ポイント42 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                              Relevant XKCD

                              [–]xkcd_transcriber 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              Image

                              Mobile

                              Title: Settling

                              Title-text: Of course, "Number of times I've gotten to make a decision twice to know for sure how it would have turned out" is still at 0.

                              Comic Explanation

                              Stats: This comic has been referenced 45 times, representing 0.0315% of referenced xkcds.

                              xkcd.com | xkcd sub | Problems/Bugs? | Statistics | Stop Replying | Delete

                              [–]dla26 135 ポイント136 ポイント  (4子コメント)

                              Downvoted for not linking directly to the webcomic.

                              [–]drtonmeister 83 ポイント84 ポイント  (3子コメント)

                              https://xkcd.com/1768/

                              [–]xkcd_transcriber 31 ポイント32 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                              Image

                              Mobile

                              Title: Settling

                              Title-text: Of course, "Number of times I've gotten to make a decision twice to know for sure how it would have turned out" is still at 0.

                              Comic Explanation

                              Stats: This comic has been referenced 46 times, representing 0.0322% of referenced xkcds.

                              xkcd.com | xkcd sub | Problems/Bugs? | Statistics | Stop Replying | Delete

                              [–]Shoduck 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              This is a great bot, and exactly what I expect from an XKCD bot

                              [–]dla26 15 ポイント16 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              Upvoted for linking directly to the webcomic.

                              [–]boarhog 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              Please link to the original source

                              https://xkcd.com/1768/

                              [–]SixReasons 18 ポイント19 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                              OP at least give credit to the creator: https://xkcd.com/1768/

                              And I am not just saying this, this is actually part of the reddiquette:

                              Look for the original source of content, and submit that. Often, a blog will reference another blog, which references another, and so on with everyone displaying ads along the way. Dig through those references and submit a link to the creator, who actually deserves the traffic.

                              [–]xkcd_transcriber 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              Image

                              Mobile

                              Title: Settling

                              Title-text: Of course, "Number of times I've gotten to make a decision twice to know for sure how it would have turned out" is still at 0.

                              Comic Explanation

                              Stats: This comic has been referenced 47 times, representing 0.0329% of referenced xkcds.

                              xkcd.com | xkcd sub | Problems/Bugs? | Statistics | Stop Replying | Delete

                              [–]Harvey_BirdmanESQ 56 ポイント57 ポイント  (15子コメント)

                              While I normally find that XKCD has many insightful and brilliant observations about life, this one fucking totally misses the mark for me.

                              People try to fool themselves into thinking that a dream, or any worthwhile endeavor, is always going to be sun and roses. If you love what you do, you'll never work a day in your life. That there will never be any truly hard or difficult challenges that make your life miserable in something that you love. That's absolute bullshit. In any endeavor, in any worthwhile effort, there will always be periods where you want to just give up and run away.: School, Marriage, Owning a House, Children, Dream Jobs, Your own Business, Working out, Losing Weight, Changing careers, Love, and others just to name a few. Nothing in this life worth having comes easy, and if we all quit when we were down or felt unhappy then nothing would ever get done.

                              This also flies in the face of so many things that people who have been through the fire have said and "Don't Quit".

                              Muhammad Ali - Don't Quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.

                              George S Patton Jr - The test of success is not what you do when you are on top, Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.

                              Lailah Gifty Akita - Perseverance, Endurance, and patience are the three greatest survival skills.

                              Michael Jordan - If you quit ONCE it becomes a habit. Never Quit.

                              Norman Peale - It's always too soon to quit.

                              Douglas MacArthur - Age Wrinkles the Body, quitting wrinkles the soul

                              Doug Cooper - "I'm learning quickly, once you quit the one thing, it gets easier and easier just to leave situations rather than deal with shit"

                              Yes, there are perfectly good reasons as to why someone should give up - Abusive relationship, dangerous situations, etc,. But saying, "Well...I'm not really happy here" and using that as a basis for dropping your dreams is a really shitty mindset. You can't always be happy, just like you can't always be sad. There will ALWAYS be obstacles and villains in your way. There will always be problems and complications that come down the pipe. There will always - ALWAYS - be something out there ready to make your dream, your goal, or whatever you want miserable and unhappy. It's not a question of "If", it's a question of "When"...and when that moment happens, when you are in the dark and unhappy and you think to yourself that this is the best it can get....get off your fucking ass, climb that mountain, conquer that problem, destroy that barrier, and get yourself back into the light, into the happy.

                              Q - If you can't take a little bloody nose, perhaps you should go home and crawl back under your bed. It's not safe out here. It's wondrous. With treasures to satiate desires both subtle and gross. But it's not for the timid.

                              [–]spacemoses 18 ポイント19 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                              On a side note, there is the saying "The temptation to quit will be greatest right before you succeed.". I've always thought that was a bullshit quote to keep people dredging along on a death march.

                              [–]tiatel 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              When I decide whether or not to buy a lottery ticket I poll 10 people who won the lottery

                              [–]Sphinxion 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              I'd like to just say they are still rather insightful if you read the scroll over text in the link a few spots up. It's one of the few times someone has given the somewhat cliched advice of moving on to bigger and better things and following your dreams with "but in all honesty we just don't know if it will be or was better." That said I agree with everything else you said.

                              [–]0asq 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                              I think you shouldn't chase after happiness. You should chase after meaning.

                              Not all bold choices will make you happier. If you lived in NYC for a year, it could be an awful and alienating experience.

                              But do it anyway, because it will give you a broader understanding and appreciation of life. It will help you discover who you are and what you want.

                              Anything is better than staying stuck, wondering how things might have been.

                              I left a well paying corporate job to live in Hawaii. It wasn't always easy and I'm considerably poorer than I'd be otherwise, but I don't regret it for a second. Because if I hadn't I'd still be doing nothing with my life except earning a paycheck.

                              [–]Citrinelle 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              Seconding this a lot. In my experience, happiness is something abstract, rather a state of mind than a destination. Finding the meaning in something is what generates it. There will always be occasional moments, things, events that are more or less annoying, disappointing, sad etc. These are all experience. Experience is how we grow. However, when you've found the meaning, none of it will really seem that bad and will slide by more easily.

                              [–]steamprocessing 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              In my personal experience there has been a difference between pursuing what I love and what I don't. There are hard times involved with both, of course.

                              But when I encounter hard times while pursuing what I love, I can remind myself that I am suffering temporarily for a future payoff. That helps me get through the hard times, and in retrospect it all seems worth it.

                              When I encounter hard times while pursuing something I don't care much about, or that doesn't seem worthwhile, then I can't rationalize it the same way. In that case I think it's reasonable to ask yourself why you continue to put up with it, and if no valid reason comes up, then it is better to focus on pursuits you care about instead of hanging in there for no reason at all.

                              However it may be wise not to quit until you've identified an alternate and reasonable course of action.

                              [–]CumInTheCunt 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              Well, OP presented his perspective and you presented another. I don't see a problem here.

                              [–]joshg8 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              You interpreted this comic in a very different way than I did. If anything, I'd say that this comic encourages you to work hard at your dreams. If you feel comfortable, you're not pushing to improve. "Maybe this is the best I can do" is complacency. Saying "I should've left sooner" is like "moving on would bring me closer to my goals and if I'd done it sooner than I did I'd be even closer to reaching them. Sometimes staying where you are is quitting.

                              I think this time it's you that totally fucking missed the mark, not the comic.

                              [–]icamefromamonkey 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              Michael Jordan - If you quit ONCE it becomes a habit. Never Quit.

                              You counter-point to the comic is great. But as bonus, I think you just set up the most perfect illustration of survivorship bias! Compare these quotes:

                              If you quit ONCE it becomes a habit. Never Quit.

                              ~Michael Jordan, NBA (1984-2003)

                              vs

                              If you quit ONCE it becomes a habit. Never Quit.

                              ~Michael Jordan, Minor League Baseball (1994-1994)

                              It's easy to alternately plaster "NEVER QUIT" or "CHASE YOUR DREAMS" all over pictures of people who are already successful... but without the benefit of hindsight, both are seriously terrible advice.

                              [–]pappytinkles 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              Spend a few hours with my ex wife and come back and talk to me.

                              [–]DonNHillary4-20-2017 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                              So never quit a job full of abusive shitty humans? Just stay til death do us part because quitting wrinkles my soul?

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                                [–]mapleboy 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                I know the point on this little webcomic, and I would also like to say it's super important to learn to tell the difference between, "this is hard and I won't leave because I want to stick it through", and, "I don't know anything else besides this so I won't leave even though I'm unhappy".

                                Don't delude yourself into either, kids.

                                [–]FresnoBob9000 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                😔 so much wasted time now the opportunities gone

                                [–]jbz45 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                I'm on month 6 at my job as a temporary employee. I applied to move offices to become permanent (receiving benefits, higher pay, perks, etc.) And did not land it. So I am still a temp, not hating it. Just feel very stuck and don't know if I will ever get to become permanent, will the opportunity arise again? Do I stay and hope for another opening to interview for? Do I find other employment? The benefits once permanent are worth staying...but I don't know if it'll come.

                                [–]ThePathGuy 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                weigh your options, look for a job and go for interviews, go and give it your best. Doing those things gives you options and doesn't necessarily mean you have to leave right away.

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                                  [–]motorsizzle 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                  Tell us the story?

                                  [–]Darth_Raj_Raj 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I should hope so... That was only 4 days ago.

                                  [–]DemureCynosure 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Question for the Mods: why doesn't the sub allow posting links from XKCD? Re-hosting an image on Imgur robs XKCD of the traffic and, hence, revenue for their copyrighted work. Thanks.

                                  [–]BuffaloHammer 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                  I have to say, based on the past couple of years in the infosec industry, there is a lot of crap out there. I give every job 3 months to filter through the bs, if it doesn't feel right, I walk. I have walked 3 times this year. There is a lot of junk technology out there with really bad management. Fortunately, I work in an industry where my skills are in high demand and I have a great reputation. Not one of the companies that I walked away from would have paid off, they all are either falling apart or have completely gone out of business.

                                  I would encourage anyone to walk out on a company that doesn't at a minimum teach you how to improve your skills. There is no point in learning how to work with assholes or how to sell snake oil. I'd rather suffer financially a little and work as a greeter at Walmart until I find the next potentiality good thing.

                                  [–]Darth_Raj_Raj 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  For info sec, what certifications do you have? I'm about to embark on an journey for cc ent, comp tia a+ and finally a CcNA. Do I know what those entail? Not exactly. But I'm wondering how many more I'd need to be in a position like you. Thanks for any help.

                                  [–]bonkerplonker 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  There should be "Glad I stayed" and "Glad I left" columns!

                                  [–]_AlreadyTaken_ 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Don't be too quick to give up though. Sometimes there is just a hump to get over.

                                  [–]sayitlikeyoumemeit 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  But what if this is one of those two times?????!

                                  [–]tiluh 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  This one hit me right where I needed it today.

                                  [–]shardro 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  FREEBOOTER

                                  [–]LamZeppelin 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Wow. I needed this today, I just had an anxiety attack and more or less quit my family's business.

                                  [–]ShelfordPrefect 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  What if the "should have stayed" were great long term relationships and the "should have left sooner" were boring parties or insurance providers or whatever?

                                  [–]TimmyB_ 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Life sucks. Which column to check for that?

                                  [–]uabroacirebuctityphe 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  One of those "left too early" for me was when my two female roommates had a threesome with my other roommate. So, yeah, it kind of negates ALL the other ones on the right.

                                  [–]Dead_standards 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                  At least link directly to the author instead of uploading someone else's work to imgur and posting your link.

                                  [–]xkcd_transcriber 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

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                                  Title: Settling

                                  Title-text: Of course, "Number of times I've gotten to make a decision twice to know for sure how it would have turned out" is still at 0.

                                  Comic Explanation

                                  Stats: This comic has been referenced 48 times, representing 0.0336% of referenced xkcds.

                                  xkcd.com | xkcd sub | Problems/Bugs? | Statistics | Stop Replying | Delete

                                  [–]SpaceGhost1992 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  College, but here's hoping.

                                  [–]babymoonbeam 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  So true,SO TRUE!!!!

                                  [–]dinosorority 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I thought this was /r/depression and now I'm really sad.

                                  [–]haleyjane04 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  👏🏻👏🏻

                                  [–]spacemoses 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  One time I "left sooner" and embarked on a year long shit life detour. Take this with a grain of salt.

                                  [–]Dor333 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Been trying to leave but never could....

                                  Yay shitty job market and adult responsibilities!...

                                  [–]purpleaddler 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I cut and run at the first sign of trouble. Not sure if that's a good thing. I have no deep relationships.

                                  [–]iplayjazzsometimes 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Woah I am so happy to see this. I have just made the decision to not continue working on my Master's degree because I hate it. This is exactly how I've been feeling

                                  [–]cyncount 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  When I lost my job I promised myself that a year from then I'd look back and say it was the best thing that could have happened. Hurt like hell, but it's a year today and it's one of the best things that ever happened to me!

                                  [–]keanex 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I have been in this scenario many times. I should print this out and leave it in my wallet or something.

                                  [–]FloridaTraffic 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Damn I can really relate here. Been working at this job almost 5 yrs and about to start school again. I don't care if I make less money in this field, I want to do something fulfilling for once.

                                  [–]entropy413 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  "Of course, Number of times I've gotten to make a decision twice to know for sure how it would have turned out is still at 0."

                                  --Randall Munroe

                                  [–]tonehammer 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I needed this now. Thanks.

                                  [–]toktome 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I was really confused by the sub this is on, as I read "being here" in terms of "being alive at all"

                                  [–]dragonbearisreal 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  This is for like 70% of r/relationships

                                  [–]dogbreath101 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  if i go there will be trouble

                                  if stay it will be double

                                  [–]One_eyed_parrot 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Relevant XKCD: http://imgur.com/3DAiGFg

                                  [–]RegeneratingGiant 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  As someone going through the final throes of marriage counseling, this is the opposite of motivating. :(

                                  [–]jestecs 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  This works for jobs, relationships, and really any circumstance that you've made an excuse for sticking to something only for the sake of sticking to it.

                                  [–]Gsteel11 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  Hard to exactly say for sure you should have left sooner. It could have turned out worse. Timing can be a funny thing.

                                  [–]mdaon12 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  False dichotomy - both options stem from external fulfillment orientation.

                                  How about, "Took responsibility for the quality of my experience and created an unforgettable night."

                                  Don't forget your power to create a good time!

                                  [–]ABaumers 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I quit a job of 3.5 years because I was so unhappy. No backup plan, nothing. Unemployed living off savings for most of 2016. Best decision ever and now working for a way better company that respects me. Being unemployed sucked but I was still a happier person than at that shit job.

                                  [–]rurikloderr 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I'm in the "I really not happy here, but I know all alternatives are objectively worse so I'll trudge through it while doing whatever I can to work towards the eventual goal of not being here, primarily through bettering myself while I have the time for such things."

                                  Would love to have some options I could regret..

                                  [–]AboutToCr4sh 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  this is like... 3 weeks old, max? how does this get so heavily upvoted?

                                  [–]NotGurk 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I'm quitting my job ASAP

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