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Lazy or Overreacting? (self.Parenting)

donovizzle が 投稿

So i just took a 10 day vacation from work, we did not go anywhere, just hung out with the family (11 yo daughter, 9 yo son) at home over the holidays. For some reason when I go on vacation like this I get all these goals or ideas in my head of all the things I think I am going to accomplish, i.e. - go to gym everyday, make home spotless, hike everyday, etc. (exaggerating..kind of). Then none of these things are ever really done. We all usually just kick back, wake up around 9am, play video games, maybe get out and do a couple things with family.

My question is should I be worried about this being "laziness" that may somehow affect my children? I really do not know if I am overthinking this as my parents were workaholics. Also, I have always struggled with how I think I "should" be living vs. how I "actually" am living. Any thoughts appreciated.

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[–]waterbuffalo750 24 ポイント25 ポイント  (2子コメント)

You were on vacation. Would you feel the same if you had went somewhere? Would you feel guilty about being unproductive if you were sitting on a beach somewhere?

[–]donovizzle[S] 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Excellent point, thanks. For some reason I stress out when I feel like I have been laying around too much.

[–]Lutya 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

If I had gone on a trip somewhere and not really done a lot of activities I'd absolutely regret it. I actually have a recurring nightmare about going to visit my mom in Hawaii and just hanging out at her house for a week without even getting to the beach.

However, I think being home is a bit different. I don't feel guilty for not "seeing the world"

[–]queenoreo 29 ポイント30 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I think it's incredibly important to have downtime. As your kids get older there will be fewer weekends and nights where you just stay home. Once they hit middle school they disappear. Sports, friends, other activities, they aren't around a lot. My kids will make long sighs saying they wish we could just stay home and play Wii or watch movies. We try to plan for it, but at 16&11 it's hard. Take the family time where you can get it, you are building important foundations even if it doesn't feel like it.

[–]OVbunEN 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (1子コメント)

One of my favorite memories as a teenager was when my mom was off work for a week or two around the holidays one year. After Christmas/New Year shenanigans we spent a solid 4 or 5 days (her, my sisters and I) lounging in pajamas, vegging out and binge watching the entire series of Friends (this was pre-netflix days and we'd just got all the dvd sets for Xmas). We had a blast and like I said, it's been almost 13 years since that week and I still remember it fondly. In our busy, chaotic, fast paced lives, it's more than OK to hibernate for a week with your kids and just live life.

[–]donovizzle[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

that sounds awesome, thanks.

[–]britt5689 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I work two jobs 50+ hours a week all year. I LOVE the holidays simply because my kids, husband and I can sit around and do literally nothing. We play games, watch our favorite movies, make cookies, play with the new xmas toys (they're 6 & 4) and I'm dreading going back to work tomorrow, and the 6 year old has to go back to school tomorrow as well.

[–]donovizzle[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yea I agree. thanks for helping put it into perspective.

[–]Poestalker 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (2子コメント)

It's normal, the holidays are stressful and it's winter. It's also harsh financially - everyone is "pretty much done".

I would be concerned if you had 7 days off in mid June with no holiday engagements and did nothing.

This isn't a vacation for "travel activities" it's a holiday - it's survival based lol

[–]apairofpetducks 19 ポイント20 ポイント  (1子コメント)

7 days off in mid-June with nothing to do is no cause for concern either.

[–]Emiajbeau 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Seriously sounds like a dream vacation to me

[–]Run_DRC 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (2子コメント)

If you are looking for honest answers, yes, I do believe it is lazy. Everyone is entitled a lazy day every once in a while. 10 days? Yeah, that's a little long to sleep in and play video games all day.

Still, you can do whatever you want. I have no idea how it will affect your kids.

Maybe encourage other activities if you are feeling insecure about it.

[–]pizzainthesummer 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I agree with trying out other activities if you're questioning yourself, OP

[–]donovizzle[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

awesome, appreciate the honesty!

[–]darkstar3333 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Vacationing with kids is never really a vacation for the parents. Its not good for your kids if your constantly exhausted.

Your kids will likely appreciate those 10 days they had with you far more then you realize. Its not what you do but how you spend the time together.