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[–]sadbasturd99 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

There are a couple levels. On one level I am worth more than all the money on earth. On another level I have thought I might sacrifice myself for the good of others. You know, like the ethics courses in school where they say "would you jump in front of a train to save 10 rapists from dying". Answer is usually no. "How about if it were young school kids" - well maybe I would.

My story is that about 20 years ago I realized I wasn't going to get a woman because I am not attractive. I realized that I would not get a house and a kid and a dog. That was all I wanted in life. I also saw the corporate world and realized I was going nowhere there also. If you don't know why then you probably haven't worked in corporate America and it would be too hard to explain.

I have been dead for about 20 years. A walking zombie. I did some things like lift weights a lot. I would wager I was stronger physically than anyone here who never took steroids. I got some pride from being strong but, in the end it didn't help my depression at all. I tried to improve myself at work, constantly learning new programming languages, going to training, even at one point starting college. Didn't help. I make $99,900 approx. per year. But I have somehow squandered it. Between rent, car, internet, phone, eating out.

I suffer from what is called "perfectionism" as you do. It is common. It comes from wanting to do well, and then very quickly turns into an enemy keeping us from doing anything. In all my reading and all my years in therapy there is a very tiny light at the end of the tunnel in the principles of ACT therapy. I would read all about it, especially Russ Harris books on the subject, they are down to earth.