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So I've been dating my man for 1 year now. I met him on SA. He's very young and he's the real deal when it comes to money...so girls I CANT lose this man!
I agreed to an open relationship (more love for my girls right?) HOWEVER- he hasn't really done anything yet which I'm happy about! But...im worried that I'm 'losing my touch'. I want to feel and be sexy too...how do YOU spice things up again?
I already sent him a very hot email so hopefully he'll react to that in the morning. if not well....sucks. I know he doesn't get AS turned on with my pictures anymore because well...we basically live together (its not like watching an unseen picture of stacy's tits)
So how can i make this thrilling again? Stop sending pictures? send more? send videos?
PS- im not like inventing on being the TW he's definitely invested in me, etc. Like he is making me perkier and he's turning me into a TW, personal trainer, meals, etc. but I want to outsmart HIM! (disclaimer he does this as to keep me fit not like in mean or bad way)
I want him to see me as the toprhy wife (i wont argue its sexy to have his side fucks like I can see his appeal for that) but even with that...I want to be the trophy wife. HOW can i do that?! Ive only been a ho!
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[–]SunshineSexWorker 6 points7 points8 points  (0 children)
Please look up the meaning of a trophy wife, it doesn't sound like you fit the bill. You just happened to semi-land a man with money while agreeing to share him. You hold no value in this relationship, no upper hand. Keep looking, and for fucks sake, don't depend on him. It's just a matter of time before you overstay your welcome. And I mean these things, in the most pleasant, but honest way.
[–]emmy_303 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
I feel like this is more a relationship question than a sexworker question.
The Pretty Woman dream of finding a guy who's going to give you everything you need to stop working is pretty much a fantasy. Of course there are exceptions, but don't put all your eggs in one basket.
If you are in an open relationship you should be finding additional daddy's right now.
[–]just_some_babe 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
Maybe ask this in r/sugarlifestyleforum? I just wanted to say I love your last line and I hope you get some genuine advice.

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[–]FinchRosemta 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
OK first things, remove the wife title and look at what a trophy is on a literal sense. It's a prize. A public display to show that the holder has achieved some sort of status. It's really for OTHER people to acknowledge that the recipient is worthy. You (usually) have to work hard for a trophy.
To be a trophy wife you have to be trophy worthy. You have to be someone that would have been harder for him to get. You need to be someone that invokes envy in everyone else (usually his male friends). You need to be able to stand head and shoulders above everyone else as a prize he has won. He needs to feel lucky to have you, not the other way around (which is why he'll be willing to pay through the nose to keep you).
The foundation you seem to have now does not seem to lead to trophy status.
Seconding the comment about the sugar forum.
[–]--_________________- 1 point2 points3 points  (1 child)
You will never be the trophy wife. Not saying he won't marry you, but 'trophy wife' is a whole lot different that what your role is.
[–]unaotradesechable 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
That's a good point. If he's already doing an open relationship before you're even married, doesn't seem like you have him locked down. I don't know what to tell you to be able to do that, either he's infatuated or he's not; and honestly he sounds like he's not.
[–]shadyladythrowaway -2 points-1 points0 points  (1 child)
Who thinks this is a troll question?
[–]unaotradesechable 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
Comment history says otherwise
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