Intro This is a bit of a field report. This community has given me so much and helped me get over my oneitis relationship, I want to give back.

This stuff might seem obvious to most of you, but something that I have noticed in this sub is that there isn't enough of an emphasis on the mental aspect (outside of abundance mentality) before the pua stuff. Recently I had an epiphany after going out for the first time in a while (thanks to the breakup) :

Storytime I met up with a friend from my hometown when i visited for christmas, she introduced me to her friends, 5girls and 2 guys. And we all went bar hopping. It was an interesting environment, right off the bat the girls seemed very interested as to who I was. Fortunately ive been around and have enough stories to tell and was able to essentially be the "fun guy" in the group that was making people laugh.

After a while one of the girls started falling all over me and eventually we proceed to making out, and despite her friends kind of making fun of her for it, it didn't seem to deter her from being all over me. After this was over I no longer needed to start any conversations, they just kept coming up to me and started talking.

This whole time the two guys were just standing around talking to the girls who werent able to get my attention. And I could tell one of the guys was in that desperate mode and it was definitely a huge turnoff for the girls. In fact, my friend said that it was creepy that he was coming on to her even though she has a boyfriend, and asked me to "save" her from him.

As the night ended, 3/5 girls ask me to take down their number without even me asking for it, the non desperate guy was looking for me to show him places, and my friend literally said to me "if I was single I'd definitely date and hook up with you" (remember what she said about the other guy?)

Lesson The epiphany for me came when I realized I went in with 0 intentions of picking up women. The whole time I was just focus on having fun conversing to these strangers, and at no point did I even think about all the pua stuff, but despite that, I was still able to have success with women. Which is why I want to bring light to a heavier emphasis of having fun before desperately trying to sleep with every chick they see.

TL:DR: learn to have fun before anything else, women are attracted to non needy guys who knows how to have a good time.