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submitted by puzzledstudent
Last week, this girl and I gave the professor holiday cards, except I am a former student. Now the prof emailed this just to me: "I have a request for you, but I cannot discuss the background. Do you remember that a student left a Christmas card for me on the presentation tech desk? If yes, can you please send me a paragraph about that incidence. Please include whether I communicated with the student and whether I opened the card and read it and that the two of us then had a conversation about research related issues".
Why is he asking this? He did not communicate with the student. Is the issue with that student or me? We also discussed topics other than research related issues.
Edit: Also, why did he even show me the card that the student left on his desk? Was this on purpose? I didn't see the content when he flipped through it. It was homemade with some pages.
tl;dr: Received strange email from my former professor if I can confirm that he didn't open his current student's holiday card, and that we discussed research topics. I've known him for 3 years and he is trustful. I wonder if there is a deeper meaning?
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[–]wemblewobble 628 points629 points630 points  (65 children)
With only that information, I'd guess he's being investigated for/accused of misconduct with the female student and needs a witness statement about the alleged incident.
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[–]LuccieRose 85 points86 points87 points  (5 children)
I happen to know a professor (similar age and male) who was really afraid of a harassment accusation from a student. He basically had to discipline this student who was kookoo and he was afraid she would get revenge by accusing him. He came up with these super elaborate, crazy ways of covering his ass and protecting himself with multiple layers of witnesses and corroboration. I'm just mentioning this because I'm reminded of that. It sounds like he's either being investigated somehow or worried he will be?
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[–]puzzledstudent[S] 9 points10 points11 points  (4 children)
Wow interesting, thanks! This is way I hate academia sometimes lol
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[–]LuccieRose 16 points17 points18 points  (3 children)
The whole thing was so wild. Part of his plan was videotaped proof. But he was afraid of being seen as a perve/weirdo if he videotaped her? So he videotaped... himself. He had a video constantly on himself recording him that way he could prove what he did or didn't do. I never told him that he would still be seen as a weirdo just for doing that... fortunately he never needed to tell anyone about the video.
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[–]torsmork 12 points13 points14 points  (0 children)
Seen as weirdo > Possible jail time
:)
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[+]puzzledstudent[S] comment score below threshold-14 points-13 points-12 points  (1 child)
Thank goodness! Do you mind sharing the initial of his first name?
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[–]LuccieRose 13 points14 points15 points  (0 children)
Sorry, I don't want to share any identifying details. It's the internet, you never know who will connect the dots.
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[–]NoSpelledWithaK 18 points19 points20 points  (0 children)
Just be truthful. Do not lie and explain what happened. Do not add unnecessary information or speculation to the email. Pretend you are on the stand in a court preceding.

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[–]scuttlebutty 27 points28 points29 points  (1 child)
Someone has accused him of doing something, seeing as you say he is trustful to you then reply with the truth of what happened
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[–]x0_Kiss0fDeath 3 points4 points5 points  (0 children)
I'm assuming the issue is between him and this other student, not between yourself and him. Just answer honestly (I.E. I didn't see the other student card but I know you were given one by said other student. We discussed xyz things. Bit confused as I'm not entirely sure what this is about...?" and just leave it there...
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[–]DoveFlightNow 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
It seems like he wants you to fudge details. If you engage, tell the whole truth and nothing but. No omissions.
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[–]psilocybes -5 points-4 points-3 points  (1 child)
Do you know and trust him? If not, you don't owe him anything. Protect yourself and ask for details before you release any.
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