It's mindblowing that someone other than the woman whose body it came from would be making the decision. So bizarre. My mom had an ectopic pregnancy and a D&C to take care of it a year or two after I was born and my parents actually wanted a burial I guess (they were working with a social worker because they underwent fertility treatments for me, my brother, and this child and I think she may have suggested it to them or at least helped them find the place that would allow it). They had a hard time finding a cemetery that would even do that. I don't know what things are like now and ironically the cemetery the remains ended up at is catholic (ironic since obviously they were against the abortion and the IVF that lead to it! Family isn't catholic either) but doesn't seem like something many people would elect to do it (especially if the abortion wasn't for medical reasons, like miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy. Scary though how much harder all these twisted abortion laws must make it for so, so many women who need the procedure for those kinds of reasons. Ugh).

I'm sorry for your miscarriage too. I'm sure that was unimaginably rough on so many levels. No one should be dictating to women in these situations what should be done with the remains.

Hope you've been able to heal, emotionally and physically and thank you for sharing your story. I feel like people often forget how many women need abortions for medical purposes and I just imagine it makes it all the more harder to have some clueless group of male politicians dictating aspects of it all. Ugh. Glad you got to make the decision for yourself.