This is actually something you will eventually realise about ALL people, they can be trained like animals, and controlled that way. It may seem jaded or abusive, but you'll come to this conclusion after countless experiences of having your respect and patience thrown back in your face.

I've been teaching children for a while now, I'd say i'm pretty good at it. At first, I sucked, and only because I couldn't control a class and let them walk all over me. I tried to be rational with kids, treat them like little adults, give them some respect, try to make them understand why I was making them do the work and why it would benefit them.

It never works, I had messy, erratic lessons where the kids misbehaved and learnt nothing. So i decided to try a different strategy, I remembered the strict teachers when I was a kid and how everyonr was scared of them, how they had no patience for bullshit and would always follow through on their threats.

I started treating the kids like dogs. Like dumb animals. I would be strict, steadfast and unmoving, and scarily hostile with them when angered. If they strayed or broke a rule, I would punish at 100% without any leeway, I allowed for no exceptions. If they pushed my boundaries, I would make examples of kids to scare others into obediance. If I made a threat ("the next person who talks gets sent out") and someone called my bluff (even if it was one of the good kids asking for an eraser or whaever) I would always follow through with it. Even if I was deemed "unfair" by the kids, they eventually learned I could be an "unfair" motherfucker and wouldn't tolerate their whining (even if I knew I was being over the top strict).

The result is a class that is silent and ready before I even enter the room. A class that is scared of me and my temper and are perfectly trained to work well... Long term; great, great results, massive improvements. Compliments are so rare that kids shine when they get them, they carry much more weight.

So once I saw you could train little kids like dogs, I imported this mindset to the teenage kids I tutored too. Strict with homework, strict with lessons, stopped trying to be their friend. Once again, massive improvements with respect and results. Wow, it's like I found a magic formula.

Get put into group work for school projects, get grouped with some girls and stoners, whatever. AMOG the group and become "the leader", start treating "subordinates" like the children I teach, being undufuly strict and professional with them, shooting down anybody that was late with work, become "the asshole".

Group worked like a well oiled machine, girls loved the structure and guidance, lazy guys and barely english speaking asians picked their shit up when treated like dogs and bossed around. These were my peers, yet "training" them like animals resulted in oddly enough, massive respect, strong friendships and trust and reliability. We got a great great grade at the end too, and they all attributed it "to how well we worked together" (how well I had you under control you mean). This is how I'd imagine being a boss is like for the good bosses, and how I'd treat the role if I ever become one.

The trick to being this kind of leader is having your shit together, strong frame, and delivering on your end. My parts of the porject where always the first done, if i'd been late or sloppy with it I could never demand as much respect as being the guy who was carrying most of the weight and telling everyone else to get their shit together.

You have to lead by example. They need to see in your actions that you mean business, not just your words.

And of course eventually I ported this attitude to women. Just like my students, my little sister, my "subordinates" I began treating my plates with the same ruthless enthusiasm and unwavering superiority. It takes a while for them to adapt and theres always a few days of "struggle" where they either leave cos they can't handle the dominace or they completely and gladly accept it and become the submissive bouncy sex kitten we idealise hem to be. Strong frame, holding your ground and being steadfast in your rules, never showing weakness, leading by example, swift punishment and rare rewards. Exactly the same way you train a dog, a child, a subordinate and a woman. It's what it mans to be a masculine leader.

My girlfriend and I have already decided that if we are together long enough to have kids, I will be the strict, mean, "unfair", punishment dealing, no bullsht taking masculine father, and she will be the mother that cherises and loves and comforts. I will train my kids like dogs, with discipline. Feminists will call this "abusive", but it's the only way to raise a child to be strong and capable, it's how it's been done for milennia and why a nuclear family is so important for the wellbeing of a child. The father/mother discipline/love dynamic is the working formula.