I don't know if this is the right sub but sorry for the long post in advance.

So a little background first. I was sleeping with this 19 yo girl (I am 25) who had a boyfriend also (25) for a few months. Some weeks she'd spend with mostly me some weeks with mostly him. So on Mother's Day I found out the girl I was fucking in January was 15 weeks pregnant. So that puts date of conception right around my birthday weekend. N she said her due date was October 29th. Now for the record, I found out via friends because we have each other blocked on all forms of social media. When confronting her about it it took weeks for her to respond to my text messages. She agreed to meet up and talk to me about it, she didn't have a reason for not telling me she just said sorry. Her boyfriend knew she was seeing some one els at the end and I asked if he knew it could possibly be mine she said yes but I had to pull that out of her by asking 10 times. Then asked if he would raise the child if it wasn't his. Again I had to ask a number of times n pry the answer out n it was a yes. Thought she was lying but thought nothing of it. So I demanded a paternity test because if it is mine I want at least partial custody. Now she agreed but asked if we can do it after it's born. Since she thinks amniocentesis is dangerous and neither of us could afford a NIPP (non-invasive prenatal paternity) test. And since she was being very kind, sincere, and cooperating at this point, I agreed. The plan was her sister would call me when she was going into labor n I could go to the hospital n make my claim as a potential father n have the hospital test both me n the boyfriend. I'd probably text her once every two weeks to see how she was doing n if she needed anything, everything was always good n she never needed anything. A week before the due date I asked if she was nervous she said no I said I was blah blah blah. Then she texts me on 28th October. Saying she's not dilated at all n was waiting on her ob to induce her in a week. Two weeks later I'm like wtf is going on? N she's like what r u talking about my due date is November 26th. So I start scrolling up to find where she said oct 29th n screen shot it n sent it to her. She then apologizes and said at some point of the pregnancy her due date got moved up to nov 26 n she thought she told me. And that the new date of conception around feb 29th which is when I wasn't sleeping with her any more so the odds of it being mine dropped dramatically. So I'm like wtf cuz here I am mentally n physically preparing to have a kid. But she said sorry for the confusion n cuz I don't want to piss her off I bite my tongue n say it's no prob n to just keep me posted because I still want to take the test just in case. I text her happy thanksgiving on thanksgiving she says u too with cute emojis. N then the 26th rolls around. She says she's not dilated and they will be inducing on the third. On the second she text me at 7 am. Saying her obs office called n said she had a death in the family n she will be inducing "next Tuesday" n if she goes into labor before then she'll "unfortunately have to have a different doctor" I responded "delay of game, five yard penalty, automatic first down" (not the nicest thing to say but it was 7 am n I work till 4 am) so yesterday (Monday the 5th) I asked when n where I needed to be to get tested. No response. And at 9 am this morning (supposedly the day she's supposed to be induced) our mutual friend texts me saying dev is upstate decorating this Christmas tree in this instagram pic. So I text her just a bunch of question marks, no response.

So A) I have no clue what the fucks up with her pregnancy and why it keeps being pushed back B) I know I can file at family court to make her get a paternity test but if she try's to keep him away from me(I have never hurt or done anything to harm her ever, not a bad guy so there's no reason to keep him from me) is this grounds for me to file for sole custody? C) any advice legal or otherwise would be very much appreciated