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[–]Katavasis 5ポイント6ポイント  (3子コメント)

The time i realized porn was bad,was when i typed on google:'I feel bad after masturbating'. To my knowledge,nofap didn't even exist back then.My own brain and body screamed for a change. If found some articles about dopamine etc and shorlty after nofap was founded/or i found it.

I believe though that it's not 'porn' itself that's bad,but the way we look at porn.Clicking from video to video,stimulating our brains all the time.I think this idea of continuous stimulus ties great with you other topics.

On a final note,a sign that you went too far,is the increasingly disturbing pornographic footage you get aroused with.If you find youself indulging in porn depicting sexual activities that irl you would never pursue,it means that your brain has overeached his natural state and now tries to discover new ways to balance and get back to equillibrium. Just like drugs.

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

In theory you could just watch the first okay video you see, but in practice you take in all the stimuli thrown in your face and sort through it like its a candy store. It's like women and social media. Porn is terrible for the mind, it literally rewrites your brain by rewarding you just for existing. Stay away from it. A picture or an escort is much preferable. Better yet, improve yourself, learn some game, and be social with a side of cold approach to get girls who genuinely desire you.

[–]Katavasis 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I agree.

It's like women and social media. Porn is terrible for the mind, it literally rewrites your brain by rewarding you just for existing.

Could this also explain,why guys that watch excessive amounts of porn have feminine traits?

[–]wallpunchist 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

On a final note,a sign that you went too far,is the increasingly disturbing pornographic footage you get aroused with

It's when you put on a disturbing video with puppies, midgets, sour cream, chastity cages, two-metre-long strap-ons and saline injections, and your only comment is "-sigh- the shit I put up with..."

I think this idea of continuous stimulus ties great with you other topics.

Quick dopamine rush is what's truly addictive. Life's composed of Chores, Dopamine Fixes and Pursuits and the second one is the only one truly dangerous.

[–]WolfofAnarchy 3ポイント4ポイント  (7子コメント)

Great post /u/dr_warlock. Well done!

I've experienced basically everything you have, too, except for the 'goin' ham' after a week of NoFap. I've done many NoFap streaks, always had trouble beating my addictions, but the best times of my life in the last 2 years have always been on long streaks.

Great post!

[–]empatheticapathetic 1ポイント2ポイント  (6子コメント)

As an experienced no fapper, how hard is it for you to do? I can describe myself as a Nofap guru but I'm quite worried about how easy it is for me. I'm on week 4 now of cycle 7 or something, and it's just too easy. I am never horny and have zero desire to masturbate or fuck. Is it easy for you? I want to want to fuck.

[–]nightmancommeth 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I can see it being hard. I cant remember the last time I fapped but sex is allowed. This is what turned me into a no fapper. It made me motivated to go out and get a few partners and created some drive in me to hit the gym and look my best.

[–]WolfofAnarchy 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

It's very hard for me and I often go DAMN inside my mouth when i see good-looking women walk by.

Plenty of urges too. I'd do some blood work for Testosterone if i were you.

Might also just be a temporary flatline tho. Wait. 2-3 weeks

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

This situation was good in the past when you could just raid the other tribe and take their bitches, but not anymore. You gotta channel that now.

[–]scissor_me_timbers00 -1ポイント0ポイント  (2子コメント)

I think if you don't use your dick at all for more than a few weeks, it basically shuts down your sexual system. I think once a week fap is probably good, maybe once every two. Just to keep the red blooded male in you still hungry.

[–]empatheticapathetic -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

I did it the first time to cure my (PI)ED and it did, but I also became super emotional (as I was a virgin the entire 206 days).

I'm doing it this round because I have trouble getting hard and aroused. I do notice women more but i don't get horny, I think at this point it may be more down to sexual confidence and self esteem or something, I have little to none of either, so I think I subconsciously block my urges or something. But if I'm drunk and a woman is showing interest, I'm pretty sure I'd have no issues getting horny, so it's just a lot of fog in my head clouding the route from the stimuli to the sexual activation.

[–]nightmancommeth 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Are you hitting the gym hard? Eating right? bad diet and lack of exercise can lead to Low T

[–]theONE843663 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

If you find no-fap challenging, what you are doing is good enough. 3-4 days (I am high Libido guy so I do 3). The best mental thing to do when you do masturbate to release the urges is to masturbate to your own memory of you banging bitchez. It has to be in first person. And it's better to do it in a natural position. Instead of moving your wrist back and forth while you lay in bed, get on your knees and actually "fuck" your fist.

Alternatively, buy a stamina training fleshlight unit and start training. When you view masturbating as training rather than this guilty shit that you do, it's a change in mindset.

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

The more realistic the simulation of sex is, the easier the transition. That 1st person perception is very important. I was gonna use a pocket pussy to make this report more complete, but it just feels sad going through the effort of simulation when that effort could be going towards real pussy.

[–]nightmancommeth 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You are allowed to have sex on no fap. Use that frustration as drive to go out and get some or use it to go nuts at the gym. After a heavy workout that desire to jerk off dies down pretty hard or even then like you said youve earned it.

[–]wallpunchist 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

Your research overlaps with my observations, but I congratulate you on such scientific approach. You could definitely pursue a Doctor's Degree in Menology with this attitude.

When spaced to every 3-4 days

I heard it's best to orgasm (both from handicraft and sex) every (Age - 7)/4 days, but I'd say it also corellates with your Testosterone levels.

[–]NaughtyFred 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

When Karl Marx said "Religion is the opiate of the masses" he hadn't seen pornhub. Wanking is like drugs: for every 1 guy who can do them with no negative life consequences there's 100 who can't.

[–]Eastuss 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thanks for sharing! That resonates so much with my life, at some details.

I discovered very early about masturbation and porn, I did it multiple time a day until I got my first sexy times. I too wasn't able to climax, condom make me flaccid, ect.... I thought I was just like that. I never noticed any negative effect of masturbation besides general exhaustion immediately after so I could hardly link anything bad to it.

At some point I got fatter, did less sport, had a general bad health. My LTR was unhappy of my low libido. I then reduced masturbation and porn, lost some weight and did some sport, my libido went x4 almost instantly. I'm trying to never fap or watch porn.

Porn doesn't affect a lot my expectations of sex, but it affects my body standards, and it's even more difficult when your LTR is post wall because of pregnancies.

But porn was useful at one thing: calming down my need for diversity. I know my LTR by heart I fucked her more than 1000 times, sometimes I want to explore more women, and to calm those urges, I used to watch porn and masturbate. Without that, it's getting incredibly more frustrating to look other women but not do anything.

Masturbation was useful at one thing : calming sexual urges that I usually get at 10am and 15pm (when you are supposedly the most energized). Now I just get frustrated, whenever I get home I am tired and not really wanting sex.

Not masturbating and not watching porn definitively has positive effects on productivity and energy, it makes me more sociable, craving more for sex, being more alpha in general... but frustration also has negative effects on moral and discipline, especially it could maybe make me infidel at some point....

[–]Uhondo 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Add: A man who wants to gain power over a woman must follow the example of women and condition his sex drive. If he succeeds in becoming as cold as she, she can no longer bait him with sex into the role of provider. At most she could offer herself as an equal sex partner, as dependent on him as he is on her. If men could abstain from sex at judicious intervals they might even succeed in normalizing the female sex drive - even make women desire them more than the other way around.

Source:The manipulated man

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

and /u/Eastuss

The only way to combat lower female sex drive and retain an abundance mentality is to eliminate her complete control of your sex life by discreetly banging other chicks on the side. Never let a woman decide when you don't get to have sex. She's 'not in the mood'? You should have a backup chick in your phone or call up an escort.

All women will attempt to use their sexuality as weapon at some point, neutralize it. If she can't control you with it and make you put up with bullshit, she will complain in the form of "are we okay?", "you've changed....", blah blah blah. Translation: "Why can't I control you with my pussy?"

[–]nightmancommeth 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Jumped on the no fap bandwagon after I went through a divorce. I was jerking it way too often even while married which killed our bedroom and made me incredibly lazy. It was mostly out of boredom since i was working from home most of the time and no one was there.

After the divorce I went no fap picked up a few plates and ended jerking it all together. I ve since been in an LTR and instead of jerking it we just have sex on a regular basis.

I can usually go 2-3 days without it but i also get exactly what you described in the fact that every female starts to turn me on. I love that feeling though especially in the gym. I find it ups my motivation 10 fold and after the workout I am too drained to do anything.

[–]Officer_Dick_Johnson 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Man oh man, I remember the first time I jerked off.

I can't remember if I was even hard. I just tugged my dick as I saw big boys doing in porn while watching some softcore Tinto Brass movie on late night tv about two lesbian milfs (till this day milf remain my kink) and all of a sudden it felt like I'm about to piss myself. I ran to the toilet. I didn't want to piss all over the living room floor.

I understood that this pissing sensation was because of me tugging my dick. If I didn't want the piss to rise I should stop jerking, but I didn't. I kept working my foreskin and the piss kept rising until I came.

It was so intense I got blind for that moment. It was so intense I kind of felt scared. I don't even think there was actual cum. It took me a few more days before I wanted to try again... and again and again.

[–]atriumhd 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I would love to give up porn and fapping. You were much further down the rabbit hole than me, so it might have been hard for you to give up, but for me it wouldn't be too hard. I have a gf I live with, so sex isn't an issue either. But my issue is actually that without porn and fapping I wouldn't last long in the bedroom. I used to use a death grip, specifically to try to desensitize myself! Right now I can usually last 5-10 min, but if I haven't fapped in a few days, it would be about a minute. So in that regard, fapping does me good.

The bad part is I'm lower libido as it is and fapping lowers my drive to have sex. So it's a catch 22. Don't fap and I would initiate more often but barely last, or fap and have sex much less often because of the lower drive. Any advice?

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Cycle on on and off randomly. When you cum premature, just toss her aside and DGAF. Then assure her of round 2 to make up for it. You should last longer the second time.

edit: give up porn forever, use memories of past sexual experiences when you fap instead.

[–]nightmancommeth 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Lol I get this too. I have found now though if you focus on your breathing and keeping your heart rate down you can go as long as you want. Also dont think about it or cumming. Focus on something else, the way her titties bounce, the feel of her ass or her in general. Do your best to not think about your dick and your gold.

When its been a while though thats tough so I usually get her to the point of cumming with oral or hands etc before I stick it in. I find nothing is worse than the guilt felt from you getting yours and her not getting hers but meh it happens.

[–]JizzWall 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Excellent post, I contribute my lack of "experiences" in my younger days to jacking off. I just didnt want or need real sex, thus didnt pursue women. I was content with myself i guess.

[–]Bush_cutter 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Great post except for the methodology.

It's unclear exactly what you abstained from and how long.

From digging around your post it seems like you went 'no-fap' for 3-4 days?

Yeah that's definitely a long time if you're used to on a daily basis, but not super long.

Just wondering exactly what you did here.

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

In the report, 4 days. Then I found out my optimal period is every 3-4 days right before bed and only after having done something productive that day. By doing it before bed, there's no opportunity cost. You were gonna sleep anyways, right? But now that I think about it, the longest I lasted was a week, but it was because I had no time before bed (had to wake up super early). I knew if I wanked, that would be 30+ mins less sleep. I needed every second.

Any noFap after a week with no pussy to dump your load in is just needless misery. I can't sleep in this condition without knowing I'll suffer for it in the morning (mentioned early).

[–]fuxdpus 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

A vagina simply cannot replicate the pressure and motion of your hand that you're accustomed to.

If jacking off feels better than sex, what do I need women for?

[–]Uhondo 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Masturbation has many more benefits than most would like to acknowledge. In fact it "clears" sex off your mind, and allows one to concentrate on other, more important matters. There's almost nothing as nasty, and distracting as strutting around with a sack full of mayo. A horny man is a sick man, and a man that's somewhat easier to manipulate. That sickness is cured by a healthy dose of jerking off once or twice weekly. I'm not sure that i would condone porn, however.

[–]nightmancommeth 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You use that frustration as motivation to go out and get laid on the regular. Get a gf or a few plates so you can get that release on the regular.