MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) is the philosophy of men who take total ownership of their goals and life choices while ceasing to pursue women altogether: no wife, no girlfriend, no dating, no game/pickup.
MGTOW definitely is a valuable maxim to guide men through a certain stage of their life, but before you decide to radically “go your own way,” before you say “no” to all female distractions, mind these three traps.
1. Resentment
Are you deciding to swear off women because they have hurt you or mistreated you in the past? Did your wife cheat on you? Did your girlfriend leave you for another man? Did a woman friendzone you? Did a girl reject you harshly? Subscribing to a life philosophy just because someone hurt your feelings is not a masculine way to go.
Or do you feel you are treated unfairly by our modern feminized society because you are a man? A man too weak to stand his ground has no right to blame feminists for winning the fight. When you walk away in anger, you walk away in surrender.
MGTOW is a trap if you live in resentment. Rather, go your way with a cool mind and a free spirit.
2. Low Testosterone
A man may go his own way because he, despite being straight, has genuinely no interest in pursuing women. His lack of interest can have different causes.
In times of war or scarcity, for example, there are more important things for men to do than chasing after chicks. If you are struggling financially, starting your first business, or dealing with major high-risk life changes, you might have to relentlessly focus all your attention on survival, on surviving and thriving in the modern world. You have zero attention left over to focus on reproduction, on reproducing with a woman to produce children you have not enough resources to rear anyway; and you certainly have no time to fill tight plastic bags with your sperm. But keep in mind that this is just a phase in your life, and there is no need to worry if it lasts longer than expected. A soldier in war might not bang a chick for many months, a prisoner might not bang a chick for many years; prolonged cold streaks do not make you less of a man (unless you watch porn every day).
Another cause of your lack of interest in women, however, could be a lack of testosterone in your body. Are you overworked, overtrained, overstressed, or overweight? Do you abuse drugs? Is your diet shit and full of sugar? Low testosterone levels are the death of a man’s sex drive.
MGTOW is a trap if your disinterest in women stems from an arid libido. Rather, go your way with a vibrant body and a free spirit.
3. Laziness
It is hard to become a good man who deserves a good woman, and it is hard to find a good woman. The relationship game can be troublesome, the dating game can be frustrating, the pickup game can be harsh. Bailing out, on the other hand, is easy.
“I don’t need no woman, I go my own way” is a convenient excuse to not improve yourself, to not take action, to not get after what you truly want. It is a relieving excuse for insecure boys to soothe their anxieties instead of facing their fears and overcoming them. It is a practical excuse to stay cool and calm without risking emotional hardship. No one can blame you for not attaining what you did not pursue.
MGTOW is a trap if you use it as an excuse to be lazy. Rather, go your way with a powerful will and a free spirit.
Final Remark
If you are not resentful, not androgenically deprived, and not too lazy or anxious to take action, MGTOW can be an efficient maxim to improve your life, to help you build the life you desire.
Still, I do not see this philosophy as a definite lifestyle principle. For example, when a young man tells me that he will never ever get married, I do not assume that he has strong principles, but that he lacks either courage or perspective.
My best friend got engaged recently. In the coming year, he is going to marry his girlfriend of six years and I have the honor of actively supporting his wedding as the best man. I am happy to support him because I know that he got himself a good woman. In his situation, subscribing to the MGTOW philosophy would be nothing but cowardice. He is not a coward. He is a man who knows what he wants and gets after it. He does his True Will wherever it may lead him.
Although MGTOW may guide you through important life phases, it should not rule your life forever. Ultimately, the masculine needs the feminine, and this is not a matter of politics, but of biology.
I completely agree. Good article!