I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now. We really click emotionally and personally. We had sex on the first date which was a huge mistake in my mind. He is incredibly dominant, which I wasn't use to. I had some trust issues with letting him dominant me without really knowing him so I wasn't really comfortable with everything he was interested in doing.
I feel like we don't have sex enough. If I could, I would be having sex multiple times a week. I feel like most of the time I am the one initiating or trying to get him in the mood. I have tried to talk to him about this on multiple occasions. From our conversations what I have essentially learned was he feels his lack of interest comes from multiple things....
He is stressed from his job all the time, it's not "easy" to have sex with me because he is afraid I won't be interested in what he wants to do (even though I have tried to explain I am), it's not "spontaneous" enough (even though I have explained I would pretty much be interested in having sex anywhere, anytime), and our sexual chemistry isn't coming organically to him. He has also hinted that physically there are issues too (like saying things like "maybe if you go to the gym more it'll help").
I have questioned if we should even continue dating because I feel like you can't work on sexual attraction, it's either there or isn't. He insists he can work on it, that he wants to keep dating, that we are great in every other way, that he just needs to work on it and learn to trust me.
So what do you think? Is this something that can really be worked out? I really like him a lot, I don't want to give up.
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