Hello everyone, I really just wanted to introduce myself as well as share a little of what happened to me over the last couple of years. I've been MGTOW for about a year now but without really knowing about MGTOW if that makes any sense. I had no idea the community or movement existed but I just happened to be doing it anyways. I knew that I was going to be moving in about a year and a half and I was just so done with women in my area that I gave up on even trying.
One of the most recent girls I attempted to date went completely cold on me after a few weeks and said she didn't want to talk anymore. This was last November, and being who I was back then I didn't know how to handle it. I literally begged her to reconsider, and this was after three dates. It's unbelievable how much power these girls can exert over the male psyche. I mean I was utterly convinced that I had found the one. She left me with this weird ultimatum that she didn't want to continue talking or texting at all... but that MAYBE we could try things again in the spring. Armed with this false hope I worked harder than I ever had in my life. It was pathetic really... but in a way I thank her for it. During that time I read dozens of books, began to learn how to save an invest, doubled my time in the gym, etc... By the time February rolled around I realized I was almost thankful for how much she had mindfucked me. I had given up on the idea of talking to her again, but I stayed on the path I was on. My only mistake at this point was that I had gotten the idea in my head that all of this self-improvement was to make myself the ideal version of myself for "the one" whenever I wound up meeting her someday. It wasn't until I found some MGTOW stuff on youtube and found this subreddit that I realized that all of this improvement should have really been for myself to begin with.
I'm proud to say that I'm going my own way now... Being someone who has never brought a girlfriend home for Thanksgiving/ the Holidays in general I always felt a weird sense of embarrassment or shame. But now I look forward to keeping things that way in the years to come.
Anyways I just wanted to thank this community for being here.
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