An interesting article from AVFM.
According to the article, DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a method of women trying to absolve their accountability and wrongdoing by painting themselves as the victim.
It goes like this
- Deny the wrongdoing
- Attack the person who confronts them
- Reverse the role so that she is the victim instead.
Sounds fucking familiar isn't it?
... if an accusation is true, and the accused person is abusive, the denial is more indignant, self-righteous and manipulative, as compared with denial in other cases. Similarly, I have observed that actual abusers threaten, bully and make a nightmare for anyone who holds them accountable or asks them to change their abusive behavior. This attack, intended to chill and terrify, typically includes threats of lawsuits, overt and covert attacks, on the whistle-blower’s credibility and so on.
This is what women do. When you argue with your gf/wife/women they will become outrage when you confront them with their wrongdoing, as if to say "how dare you expose my faults!"
A recent example of this "how dare you insult single moms! i could've chosen to be a deadbeat mom but instead I take care of my kids! It's the father's fault for being such a loser."
The attack will often take the form of focusing on ridiculing the person who attempts to hold the offender accountable. The attack will also likely focus on ad hominem instead of intellectual/evidential issues. Finally, I propose that the offender rapidly creates the impression that the abuser is the wronged one, while the victim or concerned observer is the offender. Figure and ground are completely reversed. The more the offender is held accountable, the more wronged the offender claims to be.”
Then she starts to shame you, saying you've got a small dick, that you're just an angry loser that can't get laid and you're taking it out on women; she doesn't want to engage in a rational debate because she doesn't want to debate. She is just making you suffer for daring to point out her shit. She'll throw in some random shit into the picture like God, sexism, privilege, patriarchy; it's all a diversion from taking responsibility for her own actions.
“The offender takes advantage of the confusion we have in our culture over the relationship between public provability and reality (and a legal system that has a certain history in this regard) in redefining reality. Future research may test the hypothesis that the offender may well come to believe in [her] innocence via this logic: if no one can be sure [she] is guilty then logically [she] is not guilty no matter what really occurred. The reality is thus defined by public proof, not by personal lived experience.” Freyd (1997, pp. 23-24)
And so she starts messaging their her friends, your friends, her family, your family, her coworkers, your coworkers and tell them what a bastard you are for making her cry;
and of course they'll believe her. Because? Vagina.
Proof? Evidence? Why the fuck would she need evidence when her croc tears are enough to get you into a shitstorm; and this is exactly the whole point.
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