Been MGTOW for 6 years. I actually was one before I knew that there actually was a community built around it. I only really come around the sub every few months or so but it reinforces my decision every time. I behave like a happy weird extrovert so I seem like an easy mark for desperate women (I have a shit job right now so make that extremely desperate). I just smile and move past it.

I have never been married thank god and unknowingly became MGTOW in my sophomore year of college. I watched as bimbos flailed about my fraternity house and at various parties and never understood why. I grew up very geeky and had this idea of love and romance but I never saw it in real life. All of my relationships were short term because I just couldn't get over what I saw (it was AWALT I just didn't have a name for it.) eventually I just gave up and only wanted to have a good time unfortunately my undiagnosed bipolar disorder was getting out of control (my med regiment is perfect now so no manic or depressive episodes in a 1 1/2). My senior year I was going to a sorority function with this ugly slutty girl who was friends with a bunch of my fraternity brother and her entire sorority. She was upset because nobody would take her to the function and while I was not buying into any of that shit it was going to be a fun party with a ton of people I knew. I was dreading the event because I knew she would want to sleep with me and I don't stoop that low I may be a six to a six and a half but I never dropped below a seven. I ended up drinking my weight in gin at the pre party and blacked out. According to my friends while we were waiting to get in it started to rain and I said fuck this to one of them and 3 minutes later I was gone. I had walked home a ton of times wasted but I was in a part of town I didn't know so I ended up getting picked up by the cops and my first memories were waking up in a drunk tank without my contacts soaking wet, covered in mud, with a bunch of younger college kids huddled near me away from the crazy drunk (it was the guys 3rd DWI or so) that didn't want to get near me. Apparently I was picked up 10 miles from the party across 2 major streets during a thunderstorm at an apartment complex that wasn't mine (but it was the same number apartment so that's a plus).

It was after that I was diagnosed as bipolar . But the bigger point was that I didn't want to even be in the same room as that slut. I left school, went home, and got a shitty service job but at that point I realized and still do understand that I don't want kids, I don't like going out and spending money on stupid shit like fancy dinner or at a club, and that I would rather focus on my own happiness than struggling through a job I hate. I don't mind my service job it is easy and actually has decent benefits, I can cook, have a great dog, and my best friend since elementary school lives 10 minutes away. I am happy right now. If I do want to try for something more I would probably consider a trade job like a plumber or electrician.

I am sorry I started rambling but once I got started it all just started tumbling out. I wanted to say thank you guys for making me feel sane and as a 24 year old kid not alone while half of my friends get married or are being hunted. Also sorry for all of the bubbles

Tl:dr thanks for sharing and being MGTOW