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A question about catch and release (self.askMRP)

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32 y/o, wife 31, married 7, together 12, 3 kids (5, 7, 9) I've been on the sub for a few months and wall flowering for a few months before that. I've learned so much and never have I been happier in my whole life. Except for pussy. It still sucks. Not sure if she will ever want to fuck me, but I still need to go through the process to see if it can be fixed.

I'm dressing way better, getting out of the house a lot, swatting shit tests and leading almost every aspect of our lives. So I'm starting to dabble with level 6 dread.

It's coming with the fears I'm sure most people experience. Failure, awkwardness, ridicule and embarrassment. I can accept all of these over time with practice.

My problem is, I live in a town of 10,000. I mean, I always see girls I don't know, but would they be as receptive as chick in a bigger city to my game? Being that dudes aren't trying to pick them up on the regular?

It also seems more possible word could get back to my wife that I'm trying to get chicks digits?

Are these rational concerns? Or am I making excuses for being a fucking pussy?

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[–]2ndal 2ポイント3ポイント  (5子コメント)

I think it is a rational concern. It's not crazy to think you'd unknowingly approach someone in your extended circle of friends and have that get back to your wife. Or randomly bump into a woman whose number you got when out somewhere with your wife. 10,000 people is not a whole lot, and shit gets around fast.

That said, I don't think you need to be that concerned (at least not yet) with number closing women. Start off just upping your interactions with them, being more comfortable approaching and talking to them.

[–]drty_pr[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Thanks bro. The kind of answer I was looking for.

[–]redxanaxe 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I think if op is approaching dl 6 and is being proactive in his initiating with the wife some word getting around might not necessarily be a bad thing. If you're giving her ample first picks and she's still denying than there's nothing wrong with flirting/approaching other women. Especially since it's just catch and release.

Even if you choose to go through and get some strange, at what point does it fall on the wife? Assuming you're following the dl's to a T and have given her time to catch up - she's actively denying you and expecting you to keep up your end of the marriage bargain, how is that different than traditional "cheating"?

[–]drty_pr[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not looking to slay any strange yet. Just build my abundance mentality. It could end up being very proactive. Thanks man

[–]mrpyslaw 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

some word getting around might not necessarily be a bad thing

That's what I was thinking. Isn't the whole point so your wife knows you have options? And technically, you haven't done anything wrong.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Are these rational concerns? Or am I making excuses for being a fucking pussy?

These are emotional concerns. It's ok to feel this way. Live with those fears and learn to push them out. Learn to live on the edge while always pushing the boundary.

Do this by addressing failure as another data point. "Hmmm, she cocked her head and made eye contact with me...."; hero runs opening set. Hero gets turned down.

Do you wallow in rejection? No, instead you reflect, "hmm did I misjudge? Did I come off as creepy? Did I..." See? Data.

This is a good exercise for all fears in life. Fear is just your mindset dealing with the unknown. You just need to teach yourself how to deal with that.

[–]drty_pr[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Totally man. I'm really working on embracing fear. From someone who avoided fear like the plague, it's easier said than done.

I needed a few people to tell me it will all be fine when approaching chicks, even if it's not, it still will be. Thanks man

[–]Persaeus 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Given your question, you might find this recent post from the main sub interesting. I tend to agree with the "best" rated comment more than the post itself. AWALT is always in effect, city or country does not matter.

In the beginning; don't focus on the N-close. Focus on the game and interaction itself. Ideally, you game with other women will be so subtle that the woman is doing most of the work and you are therefore "innocent".

Are these rational concerns? Or am I making excuses for being a fucking pussy?

Yes, and Yes.

[–]drty_pr[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I am getting ahead of myself worrying about N-close. Always dishing the gold Boss. Thanks man.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (4子コメント)

Read Book of Pook. Seriously, read it. Let me know

[–]drty_pr[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I loved it. A little too much Shakespearean shit, but funny AF

[–]screechhaterRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

It also seems more possible word could get back to my wife that I'm trying to get chicks digits?

When the numbers are given to you, do you think it will get back to the wife ? read the book and key in on becoming noticeably attractive

[–]drty_pr[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'll have to re read I guess.

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (4子コメント)

you are not there yet... but there is NO reason not to move if you divorce "right"

[–]drty_pr[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

What the fuck does that even mean...

What's up with all the... lately...

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

You can move somewhere with more people

[–]drty_pr[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

There are lots of hot chicks in my town. If divorce happened, I'd have no problem playing the field. Plus all my friends are here. Thats more important than some bitches.

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I got the impression that one of the issues had to do with too small of a town and ppl talking.

[–]blimblamp 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

but would they be as receptive as chick in a bigger city to my game? Being that dudes aren't trying to pick them up on the regular?

If anything they'd be more receptive. Women get jaded. They get tired of men approaching them. They hear the same bullshit and see men doing the same unattractive things. Plus women are easily bored and looking for men to entertain them. I am sure they are especially bored in small towns.

Even if it's harder, which it isn't, that isn't any reason not to try. I cannot even imagine the logic required to make that conclusion.

It also seems more possible word could get back to my wife that I'm trying to get chicks digits?

  • Yeah honey, I was totally trying to get the number of some bar slut. I thought it might be fun to knock up another woman and have some more children to support.

  • Yeah I got her number, she was hot. Then I crumpled it up and threw it in her face.

  • I don't ask women for their number, they ask me

There are a million ways to play this off. Only you can be the judge of your own actions. I would have no problem lying to my wife about asking other women for their numbers because I know I have no intention of ever calling them, but my wife doesn't, and that's a hard story to believe unless you want to explain the entirety of MRP (don't ever do this).

Or am I making excuses for being a fucking pussy?

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