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DISCUSSIONWhat are your unpopular opinions? (self.RedPillWives)

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Part of the fun of r/RedPillWives is hanging out with women who share a similar mindset and getting a viewpoint that is often contrary to the mainstream. That being said, I thought it would be fun to ask about some of your unpopular/un-PC/controversial opinions. What can you say on the internet that you might not be able to say around your friends and coworkers in real life?

It might be something anti-feminist, anti-leftist, or even anti-TRP!

I'll start: While I'm very openminded and liberal for the most part, I can't stand alternate pronouns. My best friend is a transwoman, and I have zero issues calling her "she," but when people start getting into zie, hier, and kit pronouns? Nope nope nope, I'm out. "They" pronouns are even worse; it makes my inner grammar nazi twitch with agitation.

Can't we just stick to "he" and "she"? Jumble those around at will, I don't care, but please don't ask me to start referring to you by made up words.

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[–]susandeath36, LTR, 4.5 years 30ポイント31ポイント  (5子コメント)

Ok confession time.

My boyfriend does not lead our relationship. It just doesn't work for us. When he does that he goes into nurture mode and sex goes right out the window.
' When I have my shit together and am being in charge, we have best relationship ever!

I come here because there is still good advice. Even if I am being the leader, sometimes learning to STFU is good.

Camille's dominance post helped me learn to listen to my bf better to make sure he was happy.

But yes, in the captain/first mate dynamic I am the captain.

[–]Irisandoleander 7ポイント8ポイント  (0子コメント)

There are nights R comes home and he'll be like "I'm done making any and all decisions for the rest of the night - bring me dinner" LOL, sometimes it's just easier to do it ourselves ;)

[–]Camille11325 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

So glad we've been able to help you out!

[–]snowflacke25+ / complicated 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

Camille's dominance post helped me learn to listen to my bf better to make sure he was happy.

Pleas give a link!

[–]jade_cat 21ポイント22ポイント  (6子コメント)

Tap water > sparkling water.

[–]CoochQuarantine 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

::gasps and faints ladylike in my SOs arms::

[–]Sunhappy_DC 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

is there a vendetta against sparkling water now?? XD

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    [–]StingrayVC 17ポイント18ポイント  (4子コメント)

    I think I've seen most of mine up here all ready, but I don't think this one's been mentioned yet.

    You don't get to dress like an object and then complain that men treat you like an object.

    [–]cats_or_get_out 22ポイント23ポイント  (9子コメント)

    I hate Christmas, Pinterest, dogs, and cooking.

    [–]jade_cat 13ポイント14ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I hate Christmas, Pinterest, dogs, and cooking.

    Username checks out.

    [–]cxj 5ポイント6ポイント  (6子コメント)

    just curious what u hate about xmas #plsrespond

    [–]cats_or_get_out 8ポイント9ポイント  (5子コメント)

    Christmas is just too much. It's assault on the senses--the music, the garish decorations, the cloyingly sweet smells--everywhere, even at the drugstore. The damn music is everywhere for 6 solid weeks. All I want this Christmas is you.... and Have a holly jolly Christmas. It's the best time of the year...

    It's all so manic and extroverted. Fun, fun, fun! Christmas "parties" at work. Secret Santa. Goddamn gingerbread parties. Shopping for bosses' gifts. Shopping for subordinates' gifts. Mandatory fun potlucks where I have to cook something or go to the store and pick up something. Nobody is having any fun, and pretty much everyone spends the potluck complaining about how quickly Christmas is coming and that they have so much to do. I had an all female workplace, so this sense of urgency was real and palpable and deadly serious in a way that men just don't stress out about a holiday. It gets old. I am not working this year, so I get a break from this aspect.

    Extended family events. Drive, drive, drive. More music, gifts, lots and lots and lots of time with people. Fun, fun, fun! I love people but in small doses. Extroverts of the world seem hurt and slighted, can't understand why 5 hours is an unbearably long time for non-stop conversation and festivities.

    The gift thing is stressful for me. I feel overwhelmed at the stores. I try to do it online, but sometimes put off the task too long and have to venture into the stores. I would probably declare a truce on my war on Christmas if the gift giving-receiving ceased. I enjoy Thanksgiving tremendously, and I think a large part is that the pressure for gifts is off. I can just enjoy people's company and offer some pie.

    My favorite memories of Christmas were midnight church services as a child and falling asleep with colored Christmas lights (those giant bulbs) outside my window. If Christmas could be more like that--quiet and lovely--I would love it.

    EDIT: and that creepy elf!! Ugh! (I do, however, like the idea of Krampus. So metal.)

    [–]Irisandoleander 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

    It's all so manic and extroverted.

    Makes sense -- perhaps that's why I like it haha.

    If Christmas could be more like that--quiet and lovely--I would love it.

    Yes -- I think a lot would agree!

    [–]PhantomDream09 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

    The Christmas/holiday seasons get longer and longer it's really too much. I say this as someone that love Christmas and Halloween, but just...enough already! Thanksgiving and Christmas overlap now, and it's ridiculous.

    I loved Christmas when I was little. It didn't take up months and months, or suffocate you the way it does now. My family is pretty practical. We all have one person that we give a gift to, and a monetary limit for extended family. For immediate relatives it varies depending on what the person is interested in, but everyone gets roughly the same amount spent on them.

    I also really dislike Christmas letters that are really just a photo of the family and a run-down of what everyone did that year. I LOVE writing letters - so if people want to update me about their life I just want to talk to them on the phone, meet up, or exchange REAL letters.

    [–]cxj 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I agree with most of this lol. I wouldn't say I hate Christmas but more like it makes me uneasy because predictably, every time, my alcoholic/narc abusing mom turned it into a drama fest with fits and crying and dad never being able to calm her down or be good enough for her. Even years after recovery she did this. The gifts were worth it as a kid but aren't as an adult lol.

    Nothing can ever live up to that much hype. I think it's mostly the fault of marketing and retail but the neurotic tendencies of women don't help. I remember a ppd comment a whole back that hit really close to home about how women perceive work in optional things like decorating. First they want husband/boyfriends help, ok fair enough he's here and dug out all the boxes from the basement/attic. This is about as far as his actual utility goes, after that he needs direction. It's fun for a while until wife\gf stresses herself with her overbearing and unnecessary perfectionism and it stops being fun for everyone including her. but the decorating must go on....

    This was my mom most years.

    [–]Sunhappy_DC 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

    it's SO extro!!

    And it's like /r/raisedbynarcissists hunting season because all these narcs come out and tell you to see your relatives, your friends, "why aren't you buying gifts??" "you show love by x,y,z" it's just too much.

    I find myself dreading it because it's like if you only want to spend time with your 1-2 friends or your bf at home and not do anything, it's like you fail as a human.

    don't even get me started on xmas colors, flavors, the damn tree, and all the other mess.

    [–]_wingnut_ 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Thank you

    [–]_wingnut_ 19ポイント20ポイント  (3子コメント)

    since i have too many controversial opinions to even bother listing im just going to like REALLY happily agree with everyone else here. jesus, talk about "community of like minded women"

    [–]Bloominglotus111 5ポイント6ポイント  (1子コメント)

    It feels so therapeutic coming on here and discussing these topics- I'd be berated for my opinions by family/friends/coworkers even if presented with rational argument... Good to get it out of your system with like minded people :)

    [–]Sunhappy_DC 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

    that's why we're here!! :D

    [–]Camille11325 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

    :D

    [–]TheTerrorSquad 11ポイント12ポイント  (3子コメント)

    I think Daenerys should sit on the throne

    [–]Irisandoleander 9ポイント10ポイント  (2子コメント)

    I don't like people who merge too early in road construction -- Like if there are 3 lanes going down to 1 we shouldn't all be in 1 lane 4 freaking miles back from the merge point --- Zipper at the end people! The road is meant to be used!

    [–]whistling_dixie 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

    Ooooh I'm the opposite, I hate when people wait until the end. Zipper merging is important, but I always feel like the people who wait til the end are just trying to beat the pack and I resent them.

    [–]Irisandoleander 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Watch the Top Gear episode where they talk about this and it totally changed my perspective.

    [–]L1vewarePr0blem30 / LTR 4yrs 11ポイント12ポイント  (3子コメント)

    All right, yay! Not too often we're invited to break the code of "don't ruffle anyone's feathers" and I'm quite excited to do so.

    • I'm an extreme liberal who wants to throw up in her mouth a little at the HAES, anti-fat-shaming, "triggering" movement in general.
    • Baby boomers are the reason this country is going to shit. Entitlement is the name of the game, and boy they ain't gonna stop playing. Millennials are actually a harder-working, more creative generation as a whole.
    • I hate all holidays. Someone who described them as "manic and extroverted" hit the nail on the head!! Blessedly I am with a partner who is just as introverted and hates them as much as I do, so we largely don't celebrate unless there's a bare minimum we need to do for his 9-year-old son (Lego set for Christmas, and gramma takes care of the rest). But no tree, barely any baking...hooray!
    • I legit do not think abortion is murder and I'm not fucking queasy about it. Whatever nonlocal consciousness there is in a person comes into play somewhat later in the pregnancy or even after birth (beliefs are not Judeo-Christian, not even culturally so). When I get asked the common question "But if you don't want another kid, what will you do if you accidentally get pregnant?" I have no issue looking that person in the eye and saying, "Popping abortion pills like they're candy."
    • I am an atheist who thinks a strictly materialist worldview is just as blind as a strictly miraculous one.
    • On that note, I think that humanity can never evolve to its next stage while organized religion still exists.
    • Sigma males are hot as fuck and I've wanted to be by the side of that one special man who DOES go his own way since I was old enough to conceive of romantic desires. Got my wish.
    • I hate cooking. I can be such a cerebral person that food is kind of an afterthought to me, and cooking doesn't let it be an afterthought.

    Think that's it for now. :)

    [–]cats_or_get_out 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

    Did we just become best friends?!

    Cooking is not magical or fun for me. It's just something you do, like laundry or grocery shopping. Some people find it fun, and I think that's great. I'd rather read a book or go running or even steam mop my floor than cook. I cook all the time because it's part of being a responsible adult, but it doesn't bring me joy and rainbows.

    I also don't get the whole food obsession. Why is my Facebook feed filled with short videos of people making food? Gah. Most of the time, it is the most unhealthy, unappetizing looking stuff, too. Again, if that floats someone's boat, good for her, but it's not my fave.

    Food serves two purposes: 1) nutrition to sustain life 2) pleasure in eating. Our culture can't quite figure this one out, and we have people stuffing themselves. It's sad too because the laws of diminishing returns means that the second or third scoop of cream isn't as rewarding as that first bite.

    [–]L1vewarePr0blem30 / LTR 4yrs 5ポイント6ポイント  (1子コメント)

    I...I think we did. I feel so validated now, lol! And don't get me wrong either; I can and will cook whenever practical or needed, when my partner worked 100 hours/week for a five-month stint, I did it multiple times a day. Sometimes even without griping to myself. There were a couple times where I found the zen in it, but boy am I grateful that's over.

    Those "recipes" threads almost baffle me, and there was a "cooker vs cleaner" post a while back that equated love of cooking to warmth and love of cleaning to cold detachment. Not hardly!! There's a lot of love in this heart that usually does not take the form of posh side dishes, and that's perfectly okay ;)

    [–]cats_or_get_out 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Amen, sister! Cooking and cleaning are important because we are civilized, responsible adults, but they are a means to an end, not the the end itself.

    The goal is a peaceful and relaxing home for the family and freeing up more time for us to spend away from the home doing stuff we enjoy.

    [–]SeasideJuneEarly 20s, LTR of 1.5 years 14ポイント15ポイント  (1子コメント)

    • Seeing oneself as a victim is one of the most pervasive forms of mental unhealth (and hindrance to betterment) in nearly every clinical and nonclinical disorder. Stopping that delusion in the masses ought to be pursued.

    • You don't have to be anti-left to be anti-feminist. Flip side: being anti-feminist says nothing about your other political beliefs.

    • The notion that hetero men define "feminine" and hetero men also define "masculine" is ludicrous. Feminine, fertile women define "masculine". Both genders form to the other's preferences on the macro scale.

    • Accepting anything other than the basic, intrinsic value of human life leads to a degenerate society (where the instrinsic value is the right to live and nothing more, nothing less. Value beyond that has to be earned). Another way of wording it: having each human life have a right to their life is necessary for a society to thrive.

    • Open mindedness (being able to entertain and explore an idea without assuming it) is a virtue, not a plague, and leads to life satisfaction and the better attainment of things that lead to life satisfaction. ..On that note, open mindedness is not that horrid "I assume and accept every trendy ideology or person that comes my way."

    • Celebrities are a waste of time

    • Mental disorders are only disorders if they somehow lead to harm of personal life, body, other people or society. Harm is absolutely necessary for a disease/disorder to be a disease/disorder.

    • Most times, declaring a dislike of another person or idea is just petty and unproductive gossip. Judging is only moral when it's productive, and that's like 1% of the time. Also, judging as a defense mechanism doesn't count as productive.

    • Widespread veganism (done right!) will solve mass problems from obesity to global warming. Also, the governmental promotion of the dairy industry (where I live) is an atrocity at which we will someday look back on with a grimace.

    pheeew wipes brow That was fun. Love reading these!

    (have added more with edits)

    [–]thisisopheliaLate 20s, Married, 1.5 years 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Accepting anything other than the basic, intrinsic value of human life leads to a degenerate society (where the instrinsic value is the right to live and nothing more, nothing less. Value beyond that has to be earned). Another way of wording it: having each human life have a right to their life is necessary for a society to thrive.

    This. So very much. I just don't get how our today's society encourages people to just do nothing. All these kids going abroad to "find themselves" and expect to get a pat on the shoulder for wasting their parents' money. After that they study some strange nonsense and expect the world to cheer for them just because they are such a special individual.

    Ok rant over :D

    [–]frozen_strawberry 14ポイント15ポイント  (44子コメント)

    Most refugees don't actually need our help, there's no way to assimilate them all into our culture and they actually are taking away jobs from lower class Europeans. The left used advocate for working class people's treatment but it has become a shitshow of virtue signaling and people don't give a flying fuck about poor people anymore. They wonder where the big right wing parties come from but I can totally sympathize and I think it's natural for people to want to protect their country, their women and children and their livelihood. People need to stop it with the bullshit about poor women and children coming here when it's 85% young single men who get sent here by their families to send them all the free money our government gives them.

    Single motherhood should be actively discouraged again by the government and society. It's the worst thing that could happen to a child and in most cases it's pure selfishness on the side of the mother that lead to the situation in the first place. I do think abortion should be legal so people who accidentally conceive don't have to go full term and give it up for adoption.

    /u/Sunhappy_DC says she drinks so much sparkling water but I honestly think I drink more than she does.

    [–]PhantomDream09 13ポイント14ポイント  (7子コメント)

    Most refugees don't actually need our help, there's no way to assimilate them all into our culture and they actually are taking away jobs from lower class Europeans.

    My understanding is that it's not just that they can't assimilate, but that they are actively opposed to the idea of assimilating. They basically want the rights and protections to carry on with the way they are used to living etc - and be given benefits from the government in the process.

    [–]frozen_strawberry 6ポイント7ポイント  (5子コメント)

    That is true, I just felt like I was already rambling so I didn't elaborate that more, lol. I also think that especially here in germany we have a moral obligation to protect Jewish communities for historical reasons. People always talk about "moderate" Muslims. Moderate Muslims here protest in the streets chanting about how great Hitler was. I don't want more of those people here.

    [–]cxj 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

    Moderate Muslims here protest in the streets chanting about how great Hitler was.

    LMAO wtf isn't this a "hate crime?" They wouldn't last 2 minutes in Hitler's time...

    [–]frozen_strawberry 3ポイント4ポイント  (3子コメント)

    It actually is a hate crime and if you're white that will get you sent to prison. I mean I think this collective guilt thing is bs but some things you just can't say.

    [–]cxj 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

    Fuck so glad I live in the USA

    [–]AliceOxalis 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

    I don't understand the point of the "Hate Crime" designation anyway. Assault is assault, why does it matter to the law what the motivation was? If I shoot you for being <insert race/sexuality/whatever> is that worse than if I shoot you for wearing mismatched socks? Why?

    [–]Irisandoleander 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

    but that they are actively opposed to the idea of assimilating.

    THISSSS!!! SO MUCH THIS!!!! ZOMG! ughhhhhh!

    [–]frozen_strawberry 10ポイント11ポイント  (12子コメント)

    Couple more cause I can't sleep:

    I think some cultures are superior to others. Like for example cultures where democracy exists and where there isn't widespread female genital mutilation.

    I like shooting guns and if I lived in America I'd get a bunch, and one of them would be pink. I'd also conceal carry depending on local laws.

    I lose a ton of respect for guys who say they're feminists, more so than for women.

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      [–]frozen_strawberry 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

      Well I'm in germany and here it is.

      [–]cxj 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

      and to think y'all conquered europe so recently....

      [–]whistling_dixie 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

      Depends on who you talk to - a lot of people absolutely froth at the mouth if they find out you own one, let alone carry one.

      [–]Irisandoleander 2ポイント3ポイント  (5子コメント)

      where there isn't widespread female genital mutilation.

      But we (USA) have MGM.... I'm anti circumcision. perhaps that's an unpopular opinion of mine.

      [–]frozen_strawberry 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

      I'm against MGM as well because it doesnt make sense, but let's face it, FGM is way more devastating. And those were really just two examples, there are tons more that I just didn't list.

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        [–]Bloominglotus111 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I love shooting guns too! I'm in the UK but if I ever lived in America I'd conceal carry too. Very worried for Americans that their government seems so set on taking their guns away...

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          [–]whistling_dixie 7ポイント8ポイント  (8子コメント)

          Single motherhood should be actively discouraged again by the government and society

          ABSOLUTELY. Interesting thing that B and I have noticed though - almost every single single mother we know has a son rather than a daughter. And those sons grow up to be extremely feminine.

          Anyone have thoughts or speculation on how this will end up?

          [–]frozen_strawberry 6ポイント7ポイント  (6子コメント)

          I mean we can already see men becoming more feminine. I think best case scenario is those little boys become the new daddy for some other guys kids but since they never had a father figure they don't know how to be one, they only know how to be mom.

          [–]PhantomDream09 10ポイント11ポイント  (4子コメント)

          I think it should be a crime to raise your child as 'gender neutral' (there have been a few parents that literally don't tell their child they are male or female, and go to great lengths to 'mix' the way they dress and behave....like it's a crime to be strictly male or strictly female. I can only imagine how socially inept these children will grow up to be, incapable of reading situations, identifying people properly etc. I read one article where a child pointed to an adult male (with a beard) and said "look at that man mommy." To which the mother replied "we can't know that's a man, and we shouldn't assume" `-_-;

          [–]frozen_strawberry 5ポイント6ポイント  (3子コメント)

          Jesus Christ. You know people have too much time on their hands when that kind of bs happens. And honestly, that's where the man should step up and slap that shit out of the woman.

          [–]PhantomDream09 7ポイント8ポイント  (2子コメント)

          I feel so bad when I see little boys wearing tutus, getting their nails painted, and otherwise being taught that anything masculine is bad. In fact, it seems the only time masculinity is actually encouraged - is in little girls. Blech.

          [–]frozen_strawberry 5ポイント6ポイント  (1子コメント)

          I don't know why but it just reminded me of a couple of weeks ago when my husband took me to this army community event. His one sergeant wanted to buy a monitor from him because he got a new one. The sergeant then texted his wife to put the money in his bank account and kept rambling on and on about how he's not even saying please. To have his wife give him access to his own money. He desperately tried looking masculine in front of everyone else and then his wife called. It was seriously like a child asking their parents. I was so uncomfortable and I felt so much pity for this guy. You can tell he wants to be a man but his wife just won't let him and he has no idea how to get there.

          Anyway, that's probably what happens to most guys who get their nails painted or some bs. Oh and btw. I also don't think it's some great achievement of fatherhood when dad's let their daughters paint their nails or when they dress up as princesses with them for Halloween.

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                [–]frozen_strawberry 4ポイント5ポイント  (11子コメント)

                Then I would suggest she get the fuck out. But most single mothers don't become single mothers that way. Statistally speaking being raised by a single mother means you're less likely to finish school, more likely to be poor, more likely to be in prison, etc. Etc. It's worse than growing up poor for all kinds of indicators of success in life.

                [–]cxj 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

                again im mindblown on how your comments are being downvoted, here of all places.

                Fuck off PC police

                [–]PhantomDream09 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

                Pretty sure it's another sub that's bothered and rage down-voting haha.

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                  [–]Sunhappy_DC 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  it's not a competition hahaha have at it!

                  [–]margerym 12ポイント13ポイント  (21子コメント)

                  This thread! Yaaaaassssss!!!

                  Ok, I'll go-

                  I think we coddle our youth and it's ridiculous.

                  The age of consent for just about everything should be universally lowered to 16.

                  College isn't necessary. Like at all.

                  The idea that we need a lot of stuff to have a baby or be over a certain age (within reason, obviously) or have a career/degree is not only absolutely ridiculous, it's dangerous. Women can't wait forever, for one, and for two I strongly believe it's what they want us to do- limit our reproduction and keep us reliant on the system. Family is strength. Independence is strength. If we buy into needing everything they say we do (nice house, 2 cars, 2 incomes, all the latest gadgets, etc) we will forever be working for them without question.

                  Alpha males are few and far between and you can't make a true Alpha.

                  Alpha males are overrated.

                  99% of the time obesity is caused by laziness and gluttony (ask me how I know)

                  Hormonal birth control screws us up both physically and mentally.

                  True love looks completely unhealthy on the outside. It's all consuming. The real question is, are you okay with that?

                  The obsession with romantic love has ruined marriage.

                  "Love is love" is a horrible thing to base any legislation on.

                  The government should get out and stay out of marriage and people's bedrooms.

                  The public school system is necessary but is also one of widespread indoctrination and dumbing down.

                  Most people are lemmings and happy to be so.

                  Snark communities are full of the most miserable people you will ever meet. Seriously. Their lives are very very messed up. We should actually feel sorry for them.

                  Not all feminists are ugly.

                  Most feminists are ugly.

                  Ugliness actually matters. It denotes laziness.

                  Your outward appearance does reflect your character 98% of the time.

                  Most divorces are because couples were too lazy and/or self absorbed to get through the tough seasons of marriage.

                  Single mothers are not heroes.

                  Children have a right to know both their father and mother.

                  Children need a father.

                  Surrogacy is people farming. It's anti-woman and anti-child.

                  Modern day US adoption is predatory and anti-father.

                  Children have become a commodity when we think we can rob them of their bio families, edit their DNA to suit us, and pick them off a shelf like we do.

                  Tribalism is a real thing with real benefits.

                  Pets aren't children. You are not a pet mom.

                  Dog men are essentially masculine cat ladies.

                  [–][deleted] 3ポイント4ポイント  (13子コメント)

                  Omg nothing irritates me more than people who try to justify obesity, call their pets fur babies, or say that "pitbulls are great family dogs".

                  [–]margerym 3ポイント4ポイント  (12子コメント)

                  The pit bull love! Yes! Drives me absolutely nuts "they're just misunderstood" LOL nope.

                  [–]TempestTcup 1ポイント2ポイント  (9子コメント)

                  They used to be really great before dog fights became popular; they were the losers in those fights, and the nice ones were removed from the gene pool. Pitbulls used to be super soft, too; now they are wiry haired and rougher to the touch. If you do find a super soft one, it might be from the old stock, but it really isn't worth the risk. Pitbulls are completely different now than when I was young.

                  It's probably older people who remember them from their youth that defend them.

                  [–]eatplaycrush 1ポイント2ポイント  (8子コメント)

                  It isnt only older people. When trained properly they CAN be an amazing family oriented dog. Just like people get trained..a dog can be too

                  I've had one who got to be 13. The most well behaved, respectful, and funny dog I have EVER been around. When she went anywhere there would always be comments about how she's such a sweetie. German Shepherds are more hostile and wishy washy yet I don't see people saying that just about ever.

                  [–][deleted] 3ポイント4ポイント  (7子コメント)

                  Get attacked by a "friendly" unprovoked 8yr old female pitbull in a public space and have your 20lb cavalier spaniel ripped from your arms and get bitten up like heck yourself, many injuries, dog almost died, and then see how you feel. They snap. 2 just killed a 3 day old baby in California this week.

                  [–]eatplaycrush 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

                  And.. other dogs aren't capable of this either?

                  Personal feelings aside, ALL dogs have the ability to snap. I've had small dogs attack my pit and she stood there, frozen lol. I've been around plenty of them to form my unpopular opinion, but I've never seen one that has substantial training and time spent with it act anything other than big babies.

                  [–]TempestTcup 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                  Throughout my life, I have seen different trends of vilifying different breeds of dogs; I remember the big scare of German Shepherds in the 60s, Rottweilers in the early 70s, Dobermans in the late 70s, etc. I think the enduring Pitbull scare is due to the selective breeding for meanness, and the fact that the other "scary" dogs weren't (they didn't do well in dog fights, so they were never bread specifically for aggressiveness).

                  I agree with you that pitbulls are usually big babies; I've known enough of them in my lifetime, and never met an aggressive one until the last 15 years. I don't know about other places, but where I live, most of the attacks did come from untrained dogs that were owned by negligent people who kept them in their yard, not as a much loved family pet, but as a guard dog.

                  Oh and the Rottweiler scare made me laugh as a kid; I'd never seen a Rottie do anything except lick, slobber, lay around the house and fart. OMG their farts! Could clear a room, LOL!

                  [–]StingrayVC 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                  We have a Rott. He got sick once and I swear, when he farted, it removed the paint from our walls. We literally did have to leave the room. It was amazing.

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                    Here is her recovery Maisey's Dog Attack https://imgur.com/gallery/oyxM3 had 3 bites, torn shoulder and fucked up foot. It sucked :(

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                        [–]cherries13 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                        Your outward appearance does reflect your character 98% of the time.

                        Completely agree with this. You can tell an awful lot about a person based on seeing them a few times in different outfits, all the way from their choice in clothing/shoes down to their level of grooming. How does it reflect character though? You mean stuff like laziness or ?

                        [–]margerym 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        Laziness, self-esteem, etc.

                        I don't actually believe some of the stereotypes like people with tattoos are criminals or whatever else but the effort people are or aren't willing to take says something about their character.

                        [–]AlwaysPhillyinSunny 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                        "Love is love" is a horrible thing to base any legislation on.

                        The government should get out and stay out of marriage and people's bedrooms.

                        Isn't this a bit inconsistent?

                        [–]margerym 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                        No.

                        It's not about love it's about government infringing on our personal lives.

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                          [–]SuperSlavisWife 10ポイント11ポイント  (11子コメント)

                          A lot, because I don't actually ascribe to any particular ideology, so technically I'm a bit unpopular everywhere. :P

                          Unpopular in the mainstream:

                          -there are racial and ethnic differences beyond appearance, that underlie health, personality and even social trends

                          -sex is an amazing thing and if you can't enjoy it, you're a messed up human

                          -people tend to conform to stereotypes and there is no use denying it, most women are feminine, most children are childish, most cats are catty

                          -we will never have a peaceful, united world government because we are tribal by nature

                          -kids learn first through indoctrination, no child starts with logic, just with social order, whatever your own cultural mores

                          -being fat and unhealthy is largely a choice, letting disease and disorders rule your life is also a choice for most

                          -the big picture matters in the broadest sense, but your life is a little tree in that forest that is unaffected by 99% of what the other trees do

                          -religion has a place and spirituality without enforceable morals is no substitute, even Deists like myself need to force some morals on our lives to keep them sturdy

                          -sometimes violence is the only solution

                          Unpopular in TRP and RPW:

                          -masculine women can be happy, just cause most people fit into stereotypes doesn't mean everyone will

                          -you do not need to "become" your friends, especially not if you're a RPW, if your BFF is a promiscuous bi woman with leftist and goth leanings in an open relationship, that doesn't make you one too

                          -men like women who are willing to break femininity from time to time, a porcelain doll or a princess is no good in some situations

                          -women ought to work and produce something, not necessarily money, but with all the time-saving we have in our homes and the reduction in family size, laundry and dishes does not cut it

                          -in some way or another, we all sell our bodies for resources, attention or security, heterosexual women are born whores

                          -men being "RP masculine" is annoying unless they have proven their rank first, I get angry at the most RP men I meet until they prove they have something to back it up

                          -a lot of female company is too awful to stick to the "no male friends" mantra

                          -sparkling water blows

                          Well, I'm a ray of sunshine today aren't I? :P

                          [–]whistling_dixie 8ポイント9ポイント  (0子コメント)

                          sparkling water blows

                          Get out.

                          just kidding, I don't mean it

                          [–]AliceOxalis 3ポイント4ポイント  (4子コメント)

                          sparkling water blows

                          Is sparkling water a RPW thing?

                          [–]SuperSlavisWife 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

                          It was doing the rounds as a joke for a bit and I felt the post was pretty hostile so I added something lighter. :P Run a quick search, it was funny.

                          [–]AliceOxalis 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

                          Haha, guess that's what I get for being a newb! I was like "sparkling water...wha....?"

                          [–]Irisandoleander 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                          Paging /u/sunhappy_DC the resident sparkling bitch.

                          [–]Sunhappy_DC 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

                          sparkling water is the future.

                          [–]cxj 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

                          -men being "RP masculine" is annoying unless they have proven their rank first, I get angry at the most RP men I meet until they prove they have something to back it up

                          you meet RP men IRL?

                          [–]SuperSlavisWife 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                          I meet men who meet the standard criteria set for RP masculinity. Not necessarily RP, but definitely playing the game the same way: present characteristics first, suggest value, stay confident and aloof, etc. It just annoys me unless I know the value is actually there. Always seems more like a teenager trying to be edgy to me.

                          [–]am3liia 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                          -in some way or another, we all sell our bodies for resources, attention or security, heterosexual women are born whores

                          -men being "RP masculine" is annoying unless they have proven their rank first, I get angry at the most RP men I meet until they prove they have something to back it up

                          Totally agree with these!

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                            [–]littleteafox 5ポイント6ポイント  (3子コメント)

                            • Atheism can be just as religious as the others, a religion of the ego. It's takes a blind faith to truly believe that there is NO god and nothing out there beyond our puny brain's comprehension. (I'm Agnostic.)
                            • I don't believe ADD/ADHD is an actual "condition" that needs to be treated with pills. I think it's a pharma moneymaker. I have read several studies that link it mostly to diet.
                            • Not all mothers are trying their best. There are lots of shitty ones out there who are selfish and shouldn't be raising children.
                            • On that note, parenthood isn't a right. Too many stupid people are having kids who end up in a cycle of suffering and getting knocked up in their teens and having more kids and the cycle goes on and on. Or, people just have kids because "they should" like little sheeps, without really thinking about how they're creating a whole new person for the future.
                            • Free birth control for everyone!
                            • HAES is gross. Even the fat people pics are photoshopped to smooth their skin and hide their folds/cellulite.
                            • The girls who post the most inspo/spiritual/self-love pics with text on facebook are the ones with the most crazy and should be avoided at all costs.
                            • If you are worried about appearing basic then you are basic. Just be yourself, no one cares. I like starbucks and chipotle.
                            • Yes you are judged by your appearance. Books ARE judged by their cover. Get over yourself.
                            • Sometimes I wish I were mormon because those darn mormon mommy bloggers make it look so nice and easy. Stupid brain getting in the way.
                            • I hate pretty much all holidays except for Halloween
                            • I hate it when women cut their hair short, esp the jersey-mom style. I also don't like it when they do it right after having a baby. Nooooo, why?! Just braid it or put it up or something, why ruin your appearance?? Of course they also start wearing the momiform of yoga pants or mom jeans + plain t-shirts. I never want short hair, even when I'm an old lady and my hair is white. I also want to be a fashionable mom who you can't tell is a mom by her outfit.

                            Unpopular RP:

                            • Women should not get married terribly young. They should go to college, or further themselves in some way outside the comforts of home for a decent amount of time before committing to a (older by a few years but not too many) man. They should be able to take care of themselves, yes be "independent" for at least a little while, so that they know they can and won't be stuck in a relationship because they don't have any other options (as opposed to being in one out of desire and commitment and love).
                            • Physical violence against a woman can't be written off as him just being soooo much more alpha and having soo much masculine energy. It denotes poor character, control, and judgement. Obviously I am not talking about sexual kinks here.
                            • I don't like sparkling water :P

                            [–]cats_or_get_out 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            I love LDS people. :-) The missionaries are so nice. They would come into my library a lot. The theology doesn't work for me, but I respect and love my LDS peeps. I love their sense of close-knit community.

                            I also think women should live on their own first before getting married. A woman should learn how to adult on her own first (bills, job, cooking, time management, etc). She brings more to the table and doesn't have the "if only I lived on my own" regret stuff because she has been there and done that. When my husband and I were dating and engaged, I had my own apartment and job. He would visit on weekends (70 miles away), but I could make my mistakes (credit card debt, poor housekeeping, etc) on my own. I got my shit together before we got married. Less stressful.

                            [–]StephanieCitrusFascinating Woman, 24, 6 years strong 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            Even though I'm still with someone I dated as a teen, I recognize that it is extremely lucky and rare to find a high quality man young in life. I see a lot of my peers who married young and started popping out babies. The awful personalities that were spunky and "real" as hot bodied teens got old real fast when they became fat and disinterested in sex.

                            I feel completely fortunate to have found a worthwhile man and have to agree that marrying young should no longer be the default.

                            [–]SeasideJuneEarly 20s, LTR of 1.5 years 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            even when I'm an old lady and my hair is white

                            YES. I so admire senior ladies with well-kept long hair.

                            An elderly woman started working at my place of employment two weeks ago with blazingly white hair down to her hips. She does it part-way up every day in a different Celtic-looking knot or rosette thing. What a role model googly eyes

                            [–]ragnarockette 13ポイント14ポイント  (6子コメント)

                            My big confession: I don't really care (like AT ALL) about women in tech. If they want to be in tech/STEM, awesome! But I don't think we need this whole movement to get more women in the sciences.

                            Frankly, I feel like we should stop and consider if women really want to go into the sciences at the same rate as men. I suspect the answer is no, and that's totally okay. It's okay for men and women to have different career goals and be interested in different things!

                            I'm so sick of having to act like I am gung ho about all these women in tech initiatives that I don't care about. And I'm a woman in tech!

                            [–]CoochQuarantine 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            OMG. The swe conference hounds me cause I did a few presentations for them when I was really pro-getting women into stem. I just received a package to attend some conference. I haven't been a member in years!!!

                            [–]PhantomDream09 4ポイント5ポイント  (2子コメント)

                            Frankly, I feel like we should stop and consider if women really want to go into the sciences at the same rate as men. I suspect the answer is no, and that's totally okay. It's okay for men and women to have different career goals and be interested in different things!

                            Yes! I'm so tired of the 'women are being kept out/discouraged'...guess what, when you're really passionate and interested in something - being told you 'can't' has zero influence over your decision. Just ask any woman that dated a man her family/friends didn't approve of, or deliberately broke the rules to go hang out with friends past curfew. How can women be so overwhelmingly defiant in some areas despite being told "you can't/shouldn't" - but then magically become fragile lambs in other areas? Maybe it's because women in general don't care and aren't drawn to certain areas of study/careers in the same numbers that men tend to be.

                            [–]tradmarriageftwEarly 30s, Married, 5 years 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                            This drives me crazy. Articles about this are constantly posted through the multiple teaching forms I am on and they do not fit in at all with constructivist theory of teaching they are posted on.

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                                [–]cxj 5ポイント6ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                This would make a great ppd thread :)

                                [–]Camille11325 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                I agree completely! Also, welcome to the sub :)

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                                  [–]TempestTcup 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                  I love this whole post and all of the comments! I have been laughing the whole time I have been reading; you people are hilarious :)

                                  I guess the answer to the question "What are your unpopular opinions?" is ALL OF THEM, LOL!

                                  [–]whistling_dixie 12ポイント13ポイント  (5子コメント)

                                  I think that being transgendered is actually a mental illness. People aren't actually born in the wrong bodies, they're just mentally ill. That said, I do agree that the treatment for it is gender reassignment surgery if all else fails.

                                  I am extremely pro-gun and carry daily. I have one in my car, one I carry on me, and we each have one next to our side of the bed.

                                  Don't get me started on the cancer that is feminism and the SJW movement.

                                  Edit: I'm just going to keep updating this as I think of more things I'd like to add. I feel like you can't look professional or respectable as a fat person, no matter what. It's like putting makeup on a pig, it's still a pig.

                                  I'm a huge proponent of the death penalty. I fully believe in an eye for an eye when it comes to crime.

                                  Police are mainly good - I know the common consensus is that they are a sea of horrible people with a few good eggs, but it's entirely the opposite.

                                  [–]Camille11325 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

                                  I'm a huge proponent of the death penalty. I fully believe in an eye for an eye when it comes to crime.

                                  Yes! We should bring back public executions as well as a deterrent for crime if its a well known criminal.

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                                    [–]Irisandoleander 9ポイント10ポイント  (60子コメント)

                                    There are two types of girls I really just can't stand. 1 - Girls that don't take their husband's name. 2 - girls that cut off their hair right after the wedding. I hate them both I hate them lots! UGH

                                    [–]am3liia 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                    2 - girls that cut off their hair right after the wedding.

                                    I've noticed this lately, it's so weird! Long hair is so pretty!

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                                      [–]Bloominglotus111 8ポイント9ポイント  (15子コメント)

                                      I agree hate is a strong word but long hair is a very big deal to the majority of men. The issue is that a man has married the girl based on her attractiveness and virtues and after the wedding she goes and hacks off a large part of her attractiveness once she's "sealed the deal".

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                                        [–]Bloominglotus111 8ポイント9ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                        I never said it was my way of thinking, its just the truth and how most men feel. I couldn't care less what a woman does to her hair in all honesty- my main issue with pretty much all of life is that people want the right to do what they want without suffering any consequences.

                                        In some ways, I think about cutting my hair short to save time and fuss on it. However, I know that keeping my hair long makes me look more attractive to my SO and it makes me happy to know he thinks I am pretty. He lifts weights because he knows I love strong arms on men, I honestly don't see the difference.

                                        To summarise, ofc people can make choices about their personal appearance BUT what they don't get to choose is people's response to it. That is literally the definition of freedom of choice for both parties!

                                        [–]Camille11325 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        We're being brigaded by BPers don't feel the need to justify yourself to them :)

                                        [–]cxj 4ポイント5ポイント  (10子コメント)

                                        It's a realistic assessment most of the time. Also, LOL @ "fucked up way to think" at a fucking RED PILL sub of all places, in a thread about UNPOPULAR OPINIONS

                                        :/

                                        [–]Bloominglotus111 6ポイント7ポイント  (9子コメント)

                                        Yeah, I said the majority of men haha.

                                        Yes Taz I must be fucked up because my opinion is different to yours, how silly of me to think for myself!

                                        [–]aTweetingBird 13ポイント14ポイント  (18子コメント)

                                        1 - Girls that don't take their husband's name

                                        This bothers me so much! Fight the patriarchy, ladies! Don't take the name of the man you chose to love and be with forever! Be your own woman! Keep your father's name!

                                        [–]surfinbirdjessie20/F/SO of 5 years 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        While I love my last name more than anything, I would never NOT take my SO's name. Mine is Hébert, pronounced ay-bear. It's awesome.

                                        [–]am3liia 8ポイント9ポイント  (4子コメント)

                                        Yes! I'm so excited to take my fiance's name and be the ___ family together.

                                        [–]Kittenkajira 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                        We've only been married two weeks and I already have a plaque on the front door with our family name.

                                        [–]aTweetingBird 7ポイント8ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                        Congrats on your engagement, what a special time! I've been married for 3 years this September, can't believe how the time flies! Having our officiant announce us as Mr. and Mrs. His Full Name was such a great feeling. It's all so wonderful :)

                                        [–]am3liia 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        Thank you, and yes I'm so excited to hear that!

                                        [–]jade_cat 4ポイント5ポイント  (8子コメント)

                                        Where I live, it's illegal to take our husband's surname. We are forced to keep our maiden name. I hate it. I want to take my husband's name, yet the government forbids me to do it.

                                        Also we have lots of compound surnames (i.e Firstname [Parent_1_surname]-[Parent_2_surname]) but the number of surnames is limited to two. So if you have a marriage between "Y A-B" and "X C-D" and they have a child whose first name is Z, a few possible surnames are:

                                        • Z A-B
                                        • Z C-D
                                        • Z A-C
                                        • Z B-C
                                        • Z A-D
                                        • Z B-D
                                        • Z D-A
                                        • Z C-A
                                        • etc

                                        In a few generations, family trees will look like quilts. Ugh.

                                        [–]aTweetingBird 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        Say whaaaaat!? That's absurd!

                                        [–]frozen_strawberry 1ポイント2ポイント  (6子コメント)

                                        is there a reason you can't take your husbands name in quebec? what if you live somewhere else, get married, and then move to quebec? do you have to go back to your maiden name? to me having the same name signifies a family union and it's so weird to have married people with two different names.

                                        [–]jade_cat 4ポイント5ポイント  (5子コメント)

                                        is there a reason you can't take your husbands name in quebec?

                                        Because Quebec government is very leftist, pro-feminism and meddles in many aspects of people's lives. Here are some articles that gives a bit more details:

                                        what if you live somewhere else, get married, and then move to quebec? do you have to go back to your maiden name?

                                        Yes, unless you were married before April 2, 1981 and you were already using your husband's surname. As they state in the page I linked if my previous comment:

                                        "This rule applies to all spouses domiciled in Québec, even if they were married outside Québec.

                                        However, women married before April 2, 1981 who were already using their husband’s surname before that date may continue to exercise their civil rights under their married name."

                                        [–]frozen_strawberry 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                        triggering intesifies just another reason to avoid anything that speaks french.

                                        [–]jade_cat 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        HAHAHAHA can't blame you :)

                                        [–]Billieee 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                        You can legally change your name to your spouses. It's not a simple process and it costs money.. But changing your surname is possible.

                                        [–]IShouldBeGradingNow 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                        I have to preface this by saying I do plan to change my name after getting married, but your comment doesn't quite sit right with me. By your logic, isn't a man just keeping his own father's name as well? At what point does a name become your own?

                                        Some people value their name and their family history--that doesn't mean they don't love their husbands and consider themselves a family. My SO's family name is very distinctly Italian, and there are only a few dozen of them in the country, while mine is very generic. I can't imagine asking him to give up that connection to his family and his heritage, even if the tradition were reversed.

                                        [–]aTweetingBird 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                        Good point. I see it as the man typically keeping the family name. My comment was more towards the women who think they're fighting the patriarchy by not taking their husband's name and they are somehow empowered by keeping their maiden name.

                                        [–]cxj 4ポイント5ポイント  (4子コメント)

                                        The hair cut right after the wedding is a dead giveaway who was a beta bux. It's bad but still not as bad as the dreaded weight gain after the wedding

                                        [–]Irisandoleander 4ポイント5ポイント  (3子コメント)

                                        Yes but the weight gain takes time. The haircut is immediate. Like I'm married I'mma throw my femininity in the trash...

                                        I would say if she donates her hair and she has donated before then I get that. But if this the first time she went pixie I think it's a slap in her husband's face.

                                        [–]whistling_dixie 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        I don't know, I've seen some women balloon up within a couple months. You can just see the looks of horror on their husbands' faces when they're out in public together, like "what fresh hell did I get myself into."

                                        [–]cxj 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                        True. Sucks for you guys because it collectively scares us guys out of marriage which makes it worse for the women who won't do such things.

                                        [–]Irisandoleander 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        Easily something you can vet. Watch a movie or TV show where it happens. Make fun of the character. Watch what she does. Or if one of her friends behaves that way you can use it to comment on it.

                                        [–]PhantomDream09 3ポイント4ポイント  (17子コメント)

                                        I have relatives and friends that kept their maiden name, or did a weird hyphen. When I send them letters/cards, I just address it to "Mr. and Mrs. His First Name His Last name."

                                        [–]am3liia 4ポイント5ポイント  (13子コメント)

                                        It's illegal for women to take their husband's last names where my fiance is from, so a lot of kids end up with hyphenated last names. I always wonder what will happen when a generation of XXX-XXX kids marry each other haha how long will the last names get? It's ridiculous.

                                        [–]cxj 1ポイント2ポイント  (7子コメント)

                                        Wtf where are you from?

                                        [–]meh613 2ポイント3ポイント  (6子コメント)

                                        The link they gave as a reference is for Canada.

                                        [–]liftinginthemoment27 | LTR | 1 year 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        I think that might be Quebec specific.

                                        [–]cxj 1ポイント2ポイント  (4子コメント)

                                        God damn that's some imposing laws.

                                        [–]AliceOxalis 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                        It's probably easier for a man to wake up one morning, decide he's a transgender, and legally change his name than it is for a married lady to officially share her husband's name. How very backwards....

                                        [–]Billieee 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        Yeah it is. It's really easy to legally change your gender and name. All you need is a doctors note.

                                        [–]Billieee 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                        Hah.... It's one of the least imposing laws that quebec has ;)

                                        [–]cxj 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                        Sounds like y'all need to be liberated by the greatest military might in the world :)

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                                          [–]Irisandoleander 7ポイント8ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                          Oooh phantom you passive aggressive ;-)

                                          [–]PhantomDream09 8ポイント9ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                          I'm sure I have no idea what you're talking about. I only do as I was taught to do, and offer the traditionally accepted, formally appropriate way of acknowledging a married couple. :0)

                                          [–]cxj 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                          SHE'S A PERSON TOO, YOU KNOW!

                                          [–]am3liia 9ポイント10ポイント  (29子コメント)

                                          Fat people should have to pay more for medical insurance based on how overweight they are. They're going to end up costing more, and it isn't fair that everyone else has to pay for it.

                                          There are more highly intelligent men than women.

                                          Verbally asking for consent is silly and a huge turn off.

                                          I really dislike the idea that crazy make-up trends are for you/other women. Why wouldn't you want to look good for men/your man?

                                          I think ethnically homogenous nations do better overall.

                                          Women should never be part of a draft.

                                          I don't think it's shallow if a woman looks for a future spouse with a good income, especially if she wants to be a homemaker. Similarly, I don't get the disdain for diamond rings and weddings, if it's something both the man and woman want.

                                          I'm sure most people here I agree but I don't think the wage gap exists or warrants change if it does.

                                          [–]Sunhappy_DC 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                          I think ethnically homogenous nations do better overall.

                                          This is a fact, not opinion. Don't let uneducated plebs make you feel bad for scientifically proven truths. Just look at the OECD stats. www.oecd.org

                                          [–]jade_cat 6ポイント7ポイント  (11子コメント)

                                          Similarly, I don't get the disdain for diamond rings and weddings, if it's something both the man and woman want.

                                          Probably a mix of repulsion towards blood diamonds and a reaction towards the fact that the whole "diamonds as engagement rings" was purely a marketing campaign.

                                          [–]whistling_dixie 2ポイント3ポイント  (9子コメント)

                                          My personal beef with diamonds is the cost - it's ridiculously inflated. I think it's asinine to go into the next phase of your life racking up a whole bunch of debt on a diamond and a huge shindig. The money would be better spent paying down any debts that are existing, or using it as a significant down payment on a new home together.

                                          [–]am3liia 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                          I don't know anyone who has gone into debt over the ring or wedding, so that probably influences my opinion. I would definitely agree that it isn't worth debt!

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                                              [–]fakenate1 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                              They're going to end up costing more, and it isn't fair that everyone else has to pay for it.

                                              fat people tend to die a lot quicker than fit people. Hospice care for a fit person after 20 more years of treatment (fits die at 80, fats die at 60) actually tend to have fit people cost more. Blood pressure pills are cheap for those fats.

                                              Same thing with smokers. They die a lot sooner and quickly of cancer. They are actually actuarially cheaper than non-smokers.

                                              [–]Camille11325 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                              We agree on everything 100% :)

                                              [–]frozen_strawberry 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                              The part about more highly intelligent men is actually fact, not opinion. I'm not going to go around gathering sources but basically there tend to be more women around the average than men and more men on both extremes.

                                              [–]am3liia 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                              Cool, I didn't know that! So I guess it isn't just my opinion then :)

                                              [–]Billieee 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                              Well like all studies you kind find plenty that agree with you. It all comes down to if you believe that there are different types of intelligence versus the typical math/science scale.

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                                                [–]Bloominglotus111 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                I think marrying a person from a different culture runs more risk personally. The ethicity of a person and their culture are linked ofc. My SO is mixed race- but we are culturally exactly the same (British) so have no real problems.

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                                                    [–]StephanieCitrusFascinating Woman, 24, 6 years strong 5ポイント6ポイント  (5子コメント)

                                                    I don't think men should ever retire. The happiest men I know are working into their older years and need somewhere to go to be out of the house and purposeful in life.

                                                    [–]am3liia 10ポイント11ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                                    I agree that men are happy with a purpose, but it doesn't have to be work necessarily! My grandpa volunteers in a museum dedicated to something he is passionate about, and he fills the rest of his time with his lifelong hobbies. When my dad retires, he has a similar plan. It's much more exciting than bingo and watching golf, haha!

                                                    [–]StephanieCitrusFascinating Woman, 24, 6 years strong 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    Naturally and I'm sure his volunteerism adds up to be an honest day's work!

                                                    [–]trapped_in_a_boxMid 30's, LTR, 3 years and counting 9ポイント10ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    My grandfather-in-law did this perfectly - he retired from his career, but started taking community college and rec center classes on anything and everything, so now he builds furniture or makes jewelry inlaid with precious stones/metals that he hiked and found himself, or whatever other interest caught his eye this semester/time period. As a result, he made his wife so many awesome pieces for the house and for her, and for the kids (they had 8 in their 60 years together) and grandkids.

                                                    [–]PhantomDream09 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    My dad 'retired' and then remodeled houses, and continued taking on home-improvement projects, he also started business just for fun, is active within his community, hikes, plays a card game regularly with friends several times a week and is always researching something. I have one grandfather that is over 90 years old, he still golfs, is active with the Rotary club in his area, helps out with his church, writes an article for a local newspaper, and creates presentations for family/friends/church on a myriad of subjects (he used to be a college professor). My other grandfather is in his 80's he golfs regularly, travels, has personal projects that he tinkers with constantly, and knows just about everyone (getting to know people and learning about them is one of his greatest joys in life). He loves geography and maps and can figure out how anything works.

                                                    Men need a purpose, something that drives them. It doesn't need to be their career - but it does need to be something that they can pour themselves into and derive a sense of accomplishment from.

                                                    [–]whistling_dixie 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    My fiance actually never wants to retire. His dad is the same way - he just retired out of necessity to take a cross country bike trip ...but he'll find a new job when he's back.

                                                    [–]PhantomDream09 10ポイント11ポイント  (27子コメント)

                                                    • There should be 'levels' of citizenship in the US.

                                                    • Deport all illegal immigrants, and their offspring.

                                                    • If you live in the US, knowing how to speak and read English should be required. All medical/legal etc forms and official documents should only be provided in English and all answers should be in English as well.

                                                    • If you are on welfare, you must be actively seeking employment, and undergo regular drug testing. Failure to meet the necessary requirements means you are kicked off welfare and cannot re-apply for government assistance for at least 2 years. Companies should be allowed to hire and pay people on welfare, or recent convicts, a severe pay-cut and receive other tax-breaks. It would be a system where, company agrees to hire and use someone for a 90 day trial period. They train them in a job and provided they pass the 90 days - they will be given a full-time job with benefits and insurance etc. There would be limitations to how frequently/often these workers are dismissed (so that the companies don't acquire a never ending stream of workers that they always dismiss after 80 days etc).

                                                    • We need to stop indulging every crazy, weird, and idiotic form of 'self expression.' Public shaming is effective, HAES, and most of the LGBQalphabetsoup community are embarrassing themselves and should feel silly for the way they express their ideas via crass, inappropriate, and deliberately bizarre public displays.

                                                    • People can dress however they want - everyone else is free to judge them for it.

                                                    • I will use the pronoun that matches the way you look physically. I'm not going to call you 'miss' if you clearly look physically male. If you are 'trying' to pass as male or female and failing, I'll refer to you by the gender you 'look.' I'll call you by your name (if I remember it) and that's really the best you can hope for.

                                                    • Allowing trans people to compete in athletics will make it all but impossible for natural females to hold a candle in competitions and will completely change the landscape of 'athletics.'

                                                    • Every race on this planet has done horrible and terrible things. It's not exclusive to whites.

                                                    • If the US had the same immigration laws as Mexico or Japan - people would lose their minds.

                                                    • I believe in the death penalty - but I also believe that it needs to be seriously overhauled. The privileges, quality of life, and perks many death row inmates enjoy (for decades in many cases) is ridiculous. It's costly, and takes far too long. Furthermore, it tends to cause more drawn out pain for the families that only want closure (imagine waiting 40 years for the person that killed a loved one to finally die, and all the appeals etc). Furthermore, the actual process of killing someone is a carnival show, and the cocktails they administer are standard (they don't have medical professionals administering the drugs, or customizing doses based on the person's age/weight etc) - so it can be a long and painful process. I like the idea of the death penalty, but these inmates should be isolated, locked away for 22 hours a day and without any fluffy perks. When it comes time to actually kill them, let's just grab a rope.

                                                    • I'm pro-choice, and I also know it's murder. "Clump of cells" is something queasy libs tell themselves to feel better.

                                                    • I'm pro-suicide as a personal choice. If a person doesn't want to live then they should go ahead and do it.

                                                    • If you are on welfare, or have been sentenced to serving time in jail - you should lose the right to vote.

                                                    • The US needs to stop importing refugees, and focus more on the people that already live here legally.

                                                    • I love this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K63PN2bxAXE&feature=youtu.be

                                                    [–]AliceOxalis 7ポイント8ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                                    Companies should be allowed to hire and pay people on welfare, or recent convicts, a severe pay-cut and receive other tax-breaks.

                                                    Couldn't this create a feedback loop where hardworking but lowskilled laborers basically have no chance anymore in an employment market where companies will only hire the welfarees since it's cheap? Basically forcing all lowskilled laborers to funnel through the welfare system in order to have a chance at getting a job.

                                                    [–]PhantomDream09 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                                    The 'cheap pay' only lasts for 90 days, after which the employees get a full salary, and the dismissal limitations (if they exceed a certain amount - they are no longer eligible to participate with the program for 5 years and there would be a substantial fine. Basically make it beneficial for the companies to follow the rules, and a pain in the butt to try and get fancy).

                                                    The point of the 90 day buffer would be to see if the candidate can learn, be reliable, and do what needs to be done. Companies would still only be able to take on 'low pay candidates' provided they can sustain an actual normal wage/position/benefits for the person after the trial period.

                                                    [–]AliceOxalis 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    Makes sense, sounds like a promising system.

                                                    [–]_wingnut_ 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

                                                    I'm pro-choice, and I also know it's murder. "Clump of cells" is something queasy libs tell themselves to feel better.

                                                    yeah, this is basically how ive always felt. "justified homicide"

                                                    [–]cxj 2ポイント3ポイント  (9子コメント)

                                                    Do they felons and welfare parasites lose voting forever or just while they're on jail or on welfare?

                                                    [–]PhantomDream09 3ポイント4ポイント  (8子コメント)

                                                    While in jail/on welfare they cannot vote. For every year the individual uses welfare - they must be gainfully employed for two consecutive years in order to earn the right to vote (so if they are on welfare for 5 years, they have to be employed for a decade before they can vote). For criminals, I think there should be a scale of sorts.

                                                    If they are incarcerated for less than a year, then they have to be 'crime' free, and employed for two years before they can vote again. Anyone that has to check in with a parole officer cannot qualify to vote. If the individual is incarcerated for over a year, then the crime they were convicted of, sentence length, etc should all be taken into account.

                                                    Murderers can never earn back the right to vote. If after earning the right to vote, a criminal goes back to jail for any reason - they lose the right to vote permanently.

                                                    This is a really interesting question, and these are just my initial thoughts on the subject.

                                                    If you commit crimes as a juvenile - then you do not become eligible to vote when you turn 18. Depending on the crime, frequency etc, you may have to wait until you turn 21 or older.

                                                    Oh, anyone that has lived in an insane asylum, or used any kind of insanity defense loses the ability to vote. If you walk away from being charged with a crime because of some 'severe PMS' defense or equally idiotic strategy - ditto. If temporary insanity is enough to get you off the hook, it's enough to revoke your right to vote.

                                                    [–]cxj 2ポイント3ポイント  (7子コメント)

                                                    thanks for explaining. How many of these people actually vote anyways though? Also, why should murderers not be allowed to vote?

                                                    Why should repeatedly jailed people not be allowed to vote ever?

                                                    IMO inclusive rules for voting make more sense than exclusive ones, IE you must have served in the military to vote.

                                                    [–]eatplaycrush 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    alphabet soup

                                                    Hahahah. I wish I could do that crying laughing emoji

                                                    [–]frozen_strawberry 1ポイント2ポイント  (5子コメント)

                                                    What do you mean by levels of citizenship?

                                                    [–]PhantomDream09 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

                                                    I cover a bit of it in another comment so I'll quote that part:

                                                    I also support certain inclusive rules. Military service, and all emergency responders (firefighters, police etc) are guaranteed both full citizenship and the right to vote. When someone earns citizenship, they should be on a 'trial' period for no less than 5 years before they are granted the right to vote. Only children of full citizens can run/hold a political office. I also think that "the right to legal representation" should only apply to legal citizens.

                                                    We need to stop pouring money into segments of the population that are in the US illegally, and simply deport them.

                                                    I think the US should prioritize and care more about the people that are born in the US than it does about foreigners. I also think we should be evaluating foreigners that come into the US based on what resources they bring and whether or not they will add to the overall stability/prosperity of the country or be a resource sink.

                                                    The US also needs to stop with any/all idea that 'reparations' have to be paid to Native Americans, black people, women, minorities etc for anything that has happened in the past. I think affirmative action does more harm than good.

                                                    Mexico has some great structures in place for example: https://factreal.wordpress.com/2010/05/08/mexico-vs-united-states-mexican-immigration-laws-are-tougher/

                                                    An immigrant who becomes a naturalized Mexican citizen can be stripped of his Mexican citizenship if he lives again in the country of his origin for more than five years, under Article 37. Mexican-born citizens risk no such loss.

                                                    Foreign-born, naturalized Mexican citizens may not become federal lawmakers (Article 55), cabinet secretaries (Article 91) or supreme court justices (Article 95).

                                                    The president of Mexico must be a Mexican citizen by birth AND his parents must also be Mexican-born citizens (Article 82), thus giving secondary status to Mexican-born citizens born of immigrants.

                                                    The Mexican constitution singles out “undesirable aliens.” Article 11 guarantees federal protection against “undesirable aliens resident in the country.”

                                                    The Mexican constitution states that foreigners may be expelled for any reason and without due process.

                                                    [–]whistling_dixie 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    You know, I sort of feel like we have the foundation for it on a certain level - we have permanent residents who have all of the rights of a citizen but can't vote, there are green cards, different levels of visas, etc. I think actually making a tiered citizenship structure would be a really valuable thing to have when considering the rights you get in the country, like the ability to vote, own a gun, etc.

                                                    [–]whistling_dixie 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

                                                    You ...have basically summed up so many of my thoughts and opinions.

                                                    I love you. No homo. <3

                                                    [–]PhantomDream09 11ポイント12ポイント  (3子コメント)

                                                    :0)

                                                    I also really hate the liberal bias, where, liberals are allowed to say just about anything and claim moral superiority - but they are absolutely incapable/intolerant when it comes to listening to anything that even remotely looks like a conservative idea.

                                                    I also want a functioning, strong military, better aid/treatment of our vets and our elderly population. I think retirement homes are cruel. We hide the elderly as much as possible and try to make them someone else's problem. I can understand it if it's something they decide it's something they want to do, but I get really mad when I hear about how callous and pushy family can be..pressuring their elderly relatives to do certain things.

                                                    Also, everyone should have a will, and loved ones need to know how you want your treatment to be handled in emergency situations/coma/brain death etc, as well as how what you want done with your body.

                                                    When it comes to money - stay out of (or minimize) debt at all costs. The way I hear people talk about their credit card debt (never mind their school loans) depresses (and scares) the heck out of me.

                                                    [–]Bloominglotus111 5ポイント6ポイント  (2子コメント)

                                                    One of my unpopular opinions is that the reason so many of our elderly people are rotting in horrible care homes is because feminism have brought women out of home and away from their duty of care to their families.

                                                    I work in the elderly care sector and it really is in a complete state simply due to the fact old peoppe are getting zero support and attention from their families- its so sad. I could go on but I won't...

                                                    [–]Sunhappy_DC 10ポイント11ポイント  (15子コメント)

                                                    child, don't get me started. XD

                                                    • I hate woke black women. HATE.
                                                    • Trans women are not women. They are men with gender identity disorder.
                                                    • Male feminists are killing American culture.
                                                    • The US CDC and WHO should release a joint statement on how fat people and their social policies are one of the greatest public health pandemics in the last 100 years. They are essentially overweight and malnourished.
                                                    • Natural hairstyles almost never looks professional on most black women.
                                                    • A line Skirts >>> Pencil skirts
                                                    • Vivian Leigh is the most beautiful woman who has or will ever live.

                                                    EDIT (I have more)

                                                    • The American Civil Rights Movement and its related War on Poverty, while politically enfranchising communities of color created an unintended system of dependence and weakness that mutilated the American Black family, hurt Black employment and housing opportunities, created the groundwork for the school to prison pipelines we see today and I'd argue deliberately attempted to remove the influence and impact of the church from the black community -- they are still working on that by saying that blacks are not part of the religious right, which is FALSE.
                                                    • Because the foundation of feminism is grounded in the concept that women do not need men, women by extension are being raised to believe that male attention is not necessary or important. As a result, it as a movement have created hideously unattractive white women who will be traced as one of the direct causes of the decline of Western civilization.

                                                    [–]madscientistlove[S] 8ポイント9ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    A line Skirts >>> Pencil skirts

                                                    AMEN

                                                    [–]whistling_dixie 12ポイント13ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    The US CDC and WHO should release a joint statement on how fat people and their social policies are one of the greatest public health pandemics in the last 100 years

                                                    PREACH. The HAES movement and obesity are far more dangerous than any gun.

                                                    [–]susandeath36, LTR, 4.5 years 3ポイント4ポイント  (5子コメント)

                                                    A line Skirts >>> Pencil skirts

                                                    YES!

                                                    [–]Irisandoleander 7ポイント8ポイント  (4子コメント)

                                                    NO!!! I'm in a fucking pencil skirt today, shove it! HAHA

                                                    I say this with love!

                                                    [–]Bloominglotus111 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    I'm with Iris here! Pencil skirts rule when you have a booty!!

                                                    [–]madscientistlove[S] 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    A-line skirt supremacy >:D

                                                    [–]liftinginthemoment27 | LTR | 1 year 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                    Haha so am I. But I think I look wayyyy better in a pencil skirt than a-line.

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                                                        [–]cxj 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

                                                        wut is a woke black woman

                                                        NM googled, sounds annoying af, incessant twitter whining about black criminals being shot by police

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                                                          [–]Camille11325 9ポイント10ポイント  (9子コメント)

                                                          I am right there with you when it comes to pronouns. I'm pretty sure all of my opinions are controversial lol but here are a few:

                                                          • I am pro fat shaming. Without social pressure large people are not going to be incentivised to change for the better. I don't even think that fashionable clothing should be made in plus sizes. If you aren't a "large" or below you shouldn't be wearing things like crop tops, short shorts, or see through clothing anyways.

                                                          • I would never hire an ugly person to be a nanny or babysit my children. I don't have kids yet but I'd feel terrible if I exposed them to unpleasant visuals on a regular basis during their formative years. Plus it would just bum me out to see them all the time. I'd never buy an unattractive painting and hang it on the wall, so why invite someone who doesn't look good to be in my field of vision on a daily basis?

                                                          • I think it is bad character for a woman to not know how to cook and to have no desire to learn.

                                                          • Every woman should spend at least 1 hour in the morning and 1 hour in the evening on appearance and self care in addition to regularly working out and eating an appropriate amount to maintain a trim figure.

                                                          • As someone with one foot in the Traditional Catholic camp and the other foot in the Objectivist camp: I hate Pope Francis and think he is an atheist, marxist, narcissist who is intentionally destroying the Church in order to further destroy traditional Western civilisation. Kissing the feet of muslims right after a terrorist attack? Publishing an encyclical that is filled with purple prose and green movement nonsense? Repeatedly contradicting the catechism and just being stupid in every interview and speech? Ugh I could go on for days!

                                                          • I love extreme masculinity, both the apex alpha and the dark tetrad man. My ideal guy is Trent from Swingers + Patrick Bateman in American Psycho + Ramsay in Game of Thrones + Jamie Lannister in GOT + Kahl Drogo + Sterling Archer (in Archer). So glad that M embodies this perfectly :)

                                                          • After studying female and male ratios for so long most women legitimately just look like trannies to me, especially when they are wearing ridiculous trendy makeup. I can't unsee it :(

                                                          What a great idea for a post :D

                                                          [–]Vermouth1991 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                          I think it is bad character for a woman to not know how to cook and to have no desire to learn.

                                                          1000% agree with you in this one. Both genders need to learn to cook to the best of their abilities. It's a survival skill.

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                                                          I'm actually seeking a new obgyn because she got fat in the year since I last saw her. If she can't take care of herself, I don't trust her to take care of me. Sad too, she delivered my baby.

                                                          [–]Kittenkajira 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

                                                          Totally agree! Doctors should not be fat or smoke.

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