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Challenge 2The Power of 'Yes' Challenge (self.RedPillWives)

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Many thanks to /u/CoochQuarantine for this challenge!

This is a challenge simple in principle but difficult in execution. All you have to do is say "YES" to everything your SO asks for, requests, and suggests. The only time you are allowed to say "no" is if it puts you in any physical, psychological, or personal harm; goes against your morals; is physically impossible.

Some reasons to say yes: - I want to eat chinese food tonight: yes. - I want to see this movie: yes. - I want to do this activity next month: yes. - I want to do you like this: yes.

Some reasons to say no: - Lets' run 20 miles today: no (if you aren't a runner who can do this obv) - I need to borrow $20,000: no - I want to get a pet you are allergic to: no - I want to kill someone: no

As you can see, there shouldn't be much that you actually get to say 'no' to since these requests wouldn't happen if you vetted appropriately.

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[–]aTweetingBird 7ポイント8ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is coming at a great time! I'm in the final weeks of pregnancy, and have been very needy. My husband has been so wonderful to me! Tomorrow, he is getting his wisdom teeth out, and I've promised to do anything I can for him in return for everything he's been doing for me. Anything he wants - yes, sweetheart, of course!

[–]hostwithmost 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is so exciting and I definitely need this challenge. I am working on losing the anxious attitude so I need to be open to all suggestions without the whole "Well... what if?", "In that case, can we also..." etc inner monologue. It shows on my face and it shows on his face that it shows on mine... blergh

Something SO does really well is "Yes, and.." Its a improv technique to keep a session going and seeing how far the group can take a hilarious scenario with all ideas presented on the table. I think this technique does wonders in getting to know someone as now you are "in" with their idea, suggestion for the evening, topic of thought, dreams of the future etc. Now you are a small stakeholder in this thing It just keeps the conversation going on in the direction the initiator intended. This Bait, Bid and Bite post comes to mind. It can be a good bonding tool and show you the inner working of your partner's mind! Its also a great technique to use on children to understand them more as they happily oblige in out-loud fantasy.

Of course, we have to use judgement on how we keep it going and be soft handed. Nobody likes their ideas to be railroaded by an overly enthusiastic audience.

[–]CoochQuarantineTurkeyQuarantine 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Woot woot. So excited ab this. I'm all about the power of yes. I sorta use it as a measuring stick. How often am I saying no is very telling in where my head is at. If I'm constantly rejecting rather than accepting I know that internally I don't have room for letting love in. So I usually do a sanity check. a mental decluttering if you will so that I can make room for love. So this week I'm going to start out with a huge space for yes!!!

Update from last week. Boyyyyyyy that was hard. Some habits I noticed was that I like to plan what I say. I tend to zone out for a bit. I don't like awkward silences. However, I did good with at least shutting up even if it wasn't active listening. I'm definitely going to keep working on this as I have found that people noticed that I wasn't talking as much and they would open up more.

I'm loving these challenges.

[–]littleeggwyfEarly 30s, Married, 9 years total 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Such a good challenge, I am going to try hard at this one!

[–]PhantomDream09MAGA!!!!!! :0) 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Best part of this challenge? Saying "Yes" to Trump for President.

The entire country could benefit from following this challenge it seems.

[–]Camille11325 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

This will be a great challenge! Last week was very successful for me, I created a lot of opportunities to listen to M speak about his hobbies, interests, memories, opinions, etc. I learned some new things and I can tell he appreciates that I'm always receptive to conversation.

For the "Power of Yes" challenge I will be working on maintaining a positive disposition when tasked with something I don't want to do. While I rarely say "no" to requests I am not immune to trying to weasel out of something, making a dry remark, pouting, or other girl tactics designed to get you off of the hook. I'll keep you all posted on the results :)