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[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist 3ポイント4ポイント  (14子コメント)

What was the med issue, kind of important point to glaze over.

EDIT For the rest.

Dude, you don't read my blog or you'd know that you need to be in the moment.

You are thinking way too much about this when instead of stressing, you should be having the time of your life. You going to VEGAS brother, with your lovely woman - get fucking pumped.

Don't plan out your sex or even discuss it, you need to make that shit happen well in advance. Kiss her hard then just walk away, flirt, game, kino, escalate, then leave her there dripping wet, do all of this before you even board the plane.

Grab a beer at the airport (if you're flying) and don't talk about the sex you'll have.

I went to the Poconos over the summer, it's a fucking sex/honeymoon resort - not once on the way up did I tell my wife details about the sex. I may have dropped a line about fucking the shit out of her in the 7' tall champaign hottub, but little shit kind of teasing type stuff.

You don't plan sex, it just happens.

Escalate, enjoy the ride, and have a fucking blast. Fuck her against the window facing the street, fuck in the shower, fuck everywhere except the bed the first night. Break the routine you've been in and make this the kickoff point to the new 'you'.

Relight that fire in your marriage & refuse to let her influence you in any way.

If she has a legit medical issue, care for her. Make sure the music isn't too loud and if it is, move her somewhere silent.

I don't know her issue, but factor that in to your plans.

Plan ahead and you'll be fine.

Enjoy this, don't worry about sex as sex isn't what you need, passion is. The sex will follow your limitless confidence, make it romantic, then go caveman, then pull away, then smother.

https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/11/17/10-ways-to-keep-your-wife-on-her-toes/

https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/12/30/creating-your-slut/

also those may help.

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (8子コメント)

why is it important ?

Either he is right and it shouldn't limit her, or he is wrong and it should.

Either way, we perceive some sort of failure to lead. I don't know if knowing the diagnosis is important per se.

[–]SampsonBrass 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

This could be like one of those "burying the lead" things (Thank you /u/Paradoxthatdrivesus for teaching me that saying)

"Oh yeah she's a recent triple amputee."

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

well according to some, that still leaves three openings for penis and one limb for what ever.

I explained to TFA where I was going with it.

[–]SampsonBrass 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Well as it turns out, it's just experiencing the place while needing reading glasses. I've never been to Vegas is that an impediment?

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

apparently its pretty.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

Dude, the injury dictates the events he can schedule.

If it's a broken toe I wouldn't advise dancing

If it was eye surgery I wouldn't advice x, y, z.

How can we advise him on action if we don't know what actions we must avoid?

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

Ah, you were going for LOGISTICS.

I was thinking more generally with regard to covert contracts and leadership

Also, good edit, he needs your posts.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

When I saw your question I thought WTF dude you're better than this, now I see your point.

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I have a very specialized view on how illness affects people.

[–]Alcebiadeeze[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I don't really want to give away my location if she ever stumbles onto this board. Let's call it elective surgery that isn't recovering quickly.

[–]SampsonBrass 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Ridiculous. She needs to get out more. Go volunteer somewhere people have real problems.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Good to go, you can delete that if you want, I get it.

Dude, you've got to become that motivational energy generator. This is where I am different than a few of the other RP guys. My advice falls under Sprinkling some Alpha on it.

If you take the masculine role you can lead this woman from the abyss she is currently swimming in.

Get her pumped & tell her that you are wicked excited to be bringing Velma to Vegas because daphne is an overrated whore.

Tell her that eventually the glasses will come off and until they do you want to enjoy the site of your naughty librarian.

Let her know that the two of you are getting away and leaving phones, reddit, twitter, facebook, all of that bullshit behind and you're just living in the moment.

Tell her you know the lights may bother her so if she'd like to hit some jazz clubs or whatever that you've already scoped them out (make sure you scope them out).

Find out what's around where you'll be. Make a few reservations without telling her then just show up, say your name, and skip the line like a fucking boss.

You can make this thing the vacation of the century or you can fucking bomb it by getting butthurt about lack of sex.

The trip down must go smoothly, most couples flip during this part, not you though because you will have clothes prestaged, tickets, paperwork, etc already in a bag and ready to go, etc.

You'll leave wicked early so there is no stress with time, factor in traffic, get there, check in, then hang at the bar.

Get a good buzz, do NOT get drunk and act like a fuck.

When you land, even if your bags go missing you keep the motivation high, buy new clothes if yours get lost, stay in your bathing suit the whole time, etc.

You're the vessel she will fill. Be a solid one free of cracks and fucking plan ahead.

[–]Alcebiadeeze[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Ok so, I try to fuck her ip against the windows, and she refuses, says let go gentle on the bed (she has this annoying patronizing habit of telling me to be gentle when I get too revved up)....then what?

Me: No - Ima fuck you right here...

Her: why do yo have to be an asshole....

And scene.. what then? I'm not saying this is going to happen, just trying to plan out a decent contingency if it does...what do I do next?

1) go fuck her on the bed 2) tell her...that's cool. Hit the shower and then head downstairs? 3) ????

I feel like I am kind of obtuse with this stuff. I mean how does one look awesome when she is no bueno on something like that?

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

YMMV

What are her kinks?

Find middle ground.

You are a grown man not a teenager who is trying to get his dick wet for the first time; use some couth be fucking Suave have her dripping wet before you even initiate sex.

If she says she doesn't want to fuck on the window then carry her to the couch start there get her all wound up then mix it up if you're going hard pull out back up and then just like kissing her thighs slowly working your way around her body building her up then go back in to be smooth and pick her up carry her to the window and just start fucking her against it.

I don't know you or your wife so I can't give fine details but the goal isn't to fuck - the goal is to go and have an awesome fucking time.

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Setting expectations: you can tell her what you want.. but honestly, If she is not into you yet, it won't happen.

What are you doing to make the trip fun and bring her along for the ride? What are you doing to create excitement and anticipation?

You know what dries up pussies more than being fat? Being expected to fuck. No one wants to do something they feel anxious about doing. No one wants to think that you have some sort of expectation.

Why no one? Because if you can not create desire outside of a special event, the likelihood of desire within it is low.

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You're so focused on sex because you're still a thirsty beta. Instead of sex being an afterthought, like you get it on demand because of your "naturally" high value, you still feel like buying and impressing your way in to your wife's panties is your best bet. I can already tell you that if you go on this trip with the mindset you have now, it's going to suck, a lot. Don't do that to yourself, man. If she turns on the girl charm and you two end up banging, then great, if not then have fun gambling, playing golf, shooting guns or whatever else you want to do to have fun and relax.

[–]druganswerRed Beret 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Kill the covert contracts? Well, at least you know the problem here.

Here's the thing... A fun trip to Vegas where you two fuck zero times is going to be better than a whiny, bitchy, covert contract trip to Vegas no matter how many times you fuck.

But here's my viewpoint as somebody younger than you. You want to bring out the young, probably sluttier, sexier version of your wife, while killing your covert contracts?

You've got money? Okay, good. Now someone here is going to say buy your wife lingerie. Don't do that. Buy your wife a fucking dress. A dress a couple years too young for her (as long as she has the body for it). Buy some club tickets up front on the internet, they made it very easy for nerdy dudes to get club tickets these days (or you'll wait your whole night in line). Plan this whole fucking night and don't let her know exactly how it is going to go down until just before dinner, or whenever you two are getting ready for the evening. You can tease her that she better save her energy, because you don't want her planning on watching in room movies and not being in the mood for your plans when they come around... but keep the exact plans concealed.

So now you have her nice dress, try to make sure she brings shoes to match, it's forgetting little things like this that turns nice things into shit tests galore. "Oh honey, I like that pair" usually gets them to pack one, even if they don't exactly plan on wearing them.

So, now assuming you're not autistic and have had a pleasant first day/and or travel day (not mentioning sex)... why did we buy her a dress? Because you've already mentioned lingerie. Buying her some would just push your covert contract harder, and most likely dry her up. Buying her a dress that is a little out of her comfort zone? That gets the senses going, without directing her mind to you wanting to stick your dick into her various orifices. Have her wear it to dinner, not just the club. And don't try to fuck her the second she puts it on. Tell her to get ready, ask her about how long she needs to get ready, go downstairs and gamble for about half of that time, come back upstairs with a drink for each of you after half of that time. Make sure you have pre packed a small bottle of liquor and some mixers. Have your pre drink. When finished put on your best flair bartender hat and make her another drink. This is the road to a good night in Las Vegas.

As for your style? You're old. Wear a suit. Make your hair. Look sharp. You're going to a club with people half your age, you need to look like you have your shit together, not like you're some nasty old creep. Nice shoes go a long way. So does confidence and charm, especially with bouncers... they deal with a lot of douchebags.

Big question you will have is what club do we go to? There's really only one I would suggest for your age range. Omnia. It's the newest, flashiest, sometimes most crowded, but definitely better than most of the other options. This is definitely a club club. You will have to dance, it may be crowded, you're going to want to be kind of drunk, in my opinion. Save some money with those room drinks I mentioned earlier. Then have a few drinks with a medium sized dinner (soak up alcohol, but not put you to sleep sized). If you have time to kill between dinner and the club (show up around 11-11:30) either hit a lounge or gamble, or people watch and walk around. Lots of people to comment about while just walking around and keeping your buzz going.

So club time... you better have tickets. Find the ticket line and you will get in quickly before 11:30. Once you're in, post up a bit and grab a drink. PICK OUT A BARTENDER. This is now your bartender. Drinks are going to be pricey, you want them to be strong, and later in the night there will be a wait at the bar. Since it's early and not crowded yet, these people are still somewhat paying attention to the customers. Your drinks will be about $20 each. Pay for them with card, but tip the bartender a $20 bill. Make it so that he/she notices it is you giving them this directly the first time. You now have a cut in line pass and you really aren't even tipping much more than you would have normally. Every round of drinks find the same bartender, and another $20.. no need to make it obvious after the first time, but do make it CASH. Doing this and dressed in a suit, they should be dropping everything to grab your drinks... if they aren't at least serving you quicker than the average person, go find another bartender next time and repeat. $50 in extra tips over the night is worth the much better treatment you will get. Wifey might even notice, just play it off. Don't act like you're doing some trick or playing try hard, but if she sees you give them the cash, just say you want your drinks right away, not 30 minutes from now.

Now here we are, loud obnoxious club, strong buzz... lights... sounds.. What do we do? You need to fucking dance. If you can dance, all the better. If you can't, it doesn't matter, it is Las Vegas. Just move to the music, jump up and down when it gets crazy, act like a teenager and don't give a shit about what anyone thinks. You will be amazed at how attractive this is. You might even make some friends, Vegas is a very outgoing place. The rest of your night is DANCE, DRINKS, repeat. Don't get too drunk, but make sure not to lose your buzz. Don't be shy on the dance floor. Grab your wife's hand and get up front to the DJ. It's lame, but you will have fun. Put her in front of you so you're pressed together sometimes, dance face to face sometimes, jump sometimes, do whatever the fuck, just have fun. Don't try to finger her or anything stupid, but feel free to feel up some ass.

Don't try to leave early from the club unless your wife wants to. If she wants to in a "let me suck your dick" way, by all means leave. If she's "getting tired," try to get her to do one more shot or one more round to get her going again. Leaving at 3 is a reasonable hour in Vegas.

Now you're leaving. If you're dead tired/too drunk, go to bed. If you're still awake grab some food or something or go wind down in a lounge. You can play this part by ear. I would suggest getting exactly ONE more drink for the walk home if you're not already too drunk.

Don't initiate at all. She'll either initiate right when you get in the room, or you can do the "go to bed" and cuddle up and she'll initiate once you're in bed, or she won't at all, and these are all equally okay. The worst thing you can do is ruin this awesome night right before the end.

If you can't have fun and build attraction to each other over the night by doing the above, one of you is beyond help. If you think the above sounds like a terrible night, you're probably boring.

Be the guy focused on having a great and memorable trip. Don't be the guy focused on fucking his wife. If she wants it she will let you know. Let her come onto the guy who has other things on his mind.