Were Most of Us Really Ever Alphas?

ex_addict_bro · 3時間前

Fucking wife. Her fault again.

saint_chalet · 3時間前

I was.

Side question:. If your wife was a lazy slob, what were you initially attracted to?

redmountainpill · 2時間前

I was always fit, an athlete, successful with girls and had a good career. I was alpha in an external sense and I DNGAF because I didn't really have anything to GAF about. Life always came easy to me. But I was mentally weak and passive. That was the biggest downfall when I got married because I never learned to stand up for myself. I'd never had to stand up for anything.

To me, MRP alphas have to be more mentally tough than physically tough.

YesIDoLiftBro · 2時間前

I was fairly alpha and then something happened in high school. I'm writing up a longer post for the MRP subreddit about this. I went through an angsty period as many many male teenagers do. It's not until later that I figured out what that was all about. Teenage angst is anger and frustration at yourself for the realization of your lack of manhood.

Leading up to a few years into high school I was always the straight-A's, captain of sports teams, top chair in orchestra kind of guy. I had friends and plenty of "flings" with girls. Then I got a horrible injury and it knocked me down hard. I couldn't play soccer anymore, so I wasn't leading a group of guys anymore. I gained weight because I continued to eat as if I were running off an extra 1500 calories a day. This affected me and my psyche in lots of ways. Socially I backed myself into a corner and got into nerdy shit like gaming/computer stuff. Rather than being accountable for my own loserdom, I instead pointed fingers at society. This, unfortunately, was not something I would shed off until many many years later. I carried it through college, all while being with my wife (gf then). We had our ups and downs as I leaned more alpha-beta.

To answer your question OP, was I ever truly alpha? Not when it really mattered. But that's not important, we can all choose to be alpha today and tomorrow.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2時間前

What do you mean "really"? Who ever said most of us ever were?

Some, yes. Mostly those with strong male figures in their lives growing up. Sadly, this is very lacking in modern, western societies these days.

80% of women over the ages have reproduced, and not even 20% of men. Alphas are rare as hen's teeth.

We all do our best. Welcome to the wake up call.

The good news is, compared to the VAST majority, being even a normal, assertive adult male is miles ahead of the average mamby boy (of any age) brought up by women today.

Scurvemuch · 2時間前

Do you want a hug or something?

This is not a AA meeting. There is no "Hi, I am Scurvemuch and I am /was a beta"

What will you gain from knowing our stories... or really our interpretation of our reality?

In male spaces, that kind of knowledge comes about organically.

bogeyd6 · 2時間前

Most of us were alphas to some degree. Many were not 100% but then no one ever really is. I do bet that you know a born beta and they are semi-rare in the world. Most of us are alpha until there is pussy on the table, and then for some reason you get addicted to it and the rest you can find in the sidebar.

FireTempered · 1時間前

Were you a recovering Alpha badass,

Some of the men here were and some weren't. The common thread here is building men. What came before is mostly useless personal ego appeasement, or, is blame shifting to the wife or society.

or, like me, thrust into an entirely new world?

You did not get thrust into a new world, you adopted it. As you admitted…….." I adopted way too much of her frame."

after being raised to be a Beta cuck and give women all the power in a relationship.

Again, too much focus on the past as a mechanism for shifting blame. I hope you are able to see this in your post. Now you need to put all of your past where it belongs, in the shitter. It gets better as you learn to own it, and , it takes time.

RuleZeroDAD · 2時間前

Yes.

Attractive. Smart. Strong.

Wife tried a power play when sick and injured, and was supported by others to "do better." Went full supplicant to convince her of my worth and choreplayed my way to "Manny" status. I let some parenting things slide, and when I finally woke up healthy, my frame had been bedazzled with the BP hot glue gun and I was pissed.

Unattractive. "Smug." "Aggressive."

See how fast things can get away from you? Still my fault and mine to fix.

screechhater · 2時間前

The big question is what are you going to do to find stasis ?

Part of the new you should not give ten fucks about yesterday, or others opinions except to formulate an opinion to make decisions.

What I was or am now will not help you except these pieces of advice I have for you

Kill your ego

STFU.

Read the side bar.

Lift.

OYS

Initiate when you want sex.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 1時間前

Anyone can sail a ship in calm weather, but only a Captain can get you back to port in a storm. Most guys never had to put up w/ a difficult woman and that gets mistaken for "being Alpha".

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