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[–]Rugged-Dimples 55ポイント56ポイント  (2子コメント)

I'm actually really good, nice, considerate, genuine and handsome. It's all these other people that are awful.

[–]dublos51/M/Minneapolis 23ポイント24ポイント  (3子コメント)

why is everyone here a bitter narcissist

a legitimate question

It's not a legitimate question because

  • it's missing punctuation.
  • It's an inaccurate over generalization.

[–]anime_girlfriend[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

is "how many roses per hour" a good opener?

[–]dublos51/M/Minneapolis 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not even if her profile includes "looking for older generous men"

[–]jacques_chesterCan you let me go to hell the way I want to? 13ポイント14ポイント  (2子コメント)

Practice, practice, practice.

[–]JohnDalysBAC 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I thought it was location, location, location? Damnit I've been doing it wrong the whole time.

[–]lemonlife0524searching for my soul-daddy 10ポイント11ポイント  (2子コメント)

On behalf of the sub, I wanna say I'm sorry that people are so jealous of me, but I can't help it that I'm popular.

[–]ok_hideandseekcast as random girl number fifteen 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

What, was your father the inventor Toaster Streudels as well?

[–]Indigo_Milk_Cap 8ポイント9ポイント  (12子コメント)

Can you give an example?

[–]logiauser30/M/NJ 17ポイント18ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's probably anime_boyfriend ticking her off. He's such a douche.

[–]a-dick-tid-2-dr00gz35/f/toronto -4ポイント-3ポイント  (10子コメント)

OP feels sad that it's saturday night and he has no one to go out with. LET'S SHIT ON HIM LOL: https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/5a435v/not_being_attractive_enough_for_online_dating/

OP is sad about a breakup and wants to vent because she was cruelly ghosted after 3 months of steady communication and heart-to-hearts and she's feeling really insecure. But, oh wait, she mentions kinky sex in passing, let's focus on that! Don't forget to mansplain and victim blame! https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/5a19yj/got_together_because_of_mutual_kinky_interests/

then click on a few random critique threads and it shouldn't take you long to find one where someone totally forgets what the word "critique" means and goes on a contentless dickish tirade, leaving nothing OP can even use. it's not even brutal honesty, it's someone taking out their bitterness and anger due to their lack of success on someone just looking to get a few thoughts. and god forbid OP calls that out.

[–]randomt2000 9ポイント10ポイント  (7子コメント)

OP feels sad that it's saturday night and he has no one to go out with. LET'S SHIT ON HIM LOL:

Because the "woe me, I'm a sad virgin" trope has been played to death here. If people are looking for genuine advice, they get it. They even get words of encouragement or, if they post pictures, validation. But people here are not your emotional dumpster, there are far to many trolls here to deal with that.

[–]MVB183725/M/Atlanta, GA 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Based on your comments in this thread, you strike me as an aggressively unpleasant person.

[–]010011010100010132/M 7ポイント8ポイント  (2子コメント)

What Causes Bitter Taste in Mouth

Many factors leave a metallic or bitter taste in your mouth. In this section, the main causes of this bitter taste are outlined.

1 Poor Oral Hygiene

Ignoring your oral hygiene may lead to gum diseases and teeth problems such as tooth infection, periodontitis and gingivitis, which may leave a metallic taste. But the infection and bitter taste clear up with prescription medicine.

2 Certain Medication

Some prescription drugs used to treat cardiac and psychiatric cause a bitter taste. These include lithium, antibiotics like tetracycline, and allopurinol. The medicines come out in your saliva after absorption. The prescriptions and antidepressants may lead to a dry mouth and affect your taste buds.

3 Vitamin and Supplements

Multivitamins and prenatal vitamins with high amounts of heavy metals such as zinc, copper or chromium will cause a bitter taste in mouth. Calcium and iron supplements have the same effect. The taste disappears after the supplements and vitamins are absorbed in your body. The taste might persist if you overdose.

4 Inhaled Substances

Smoking affects your taste buds, which leads to a bitter taste in mouth. You suffer the bitter taste if you inhale some environmental chemicals such as rubber dust, gasoline or benzene.

5 Acid Reflux

Acid reflux occurs when stomach acids move up to the esophagus, leaving a bitter taste and a foul breath in your mouth. You can treat this condition by limiting your intake of greasy and spicy foods. Some helpful prescriptions for this condition include anti-acids, prokinetic agents, and suppressants.

6 Pregnancy

Hormonal imbalances may cause bouts of vomiting or nausea at certain pregnancy stages, which leave a bad taste. This condition is common among pregnant women and clears within a few days. Eating candies with a lemon or mint flavor clears the bad taste.

7 Other Causes of Bitter Taste in Mouth

A bitter taste may result from dehydration, glossitis, a dry mouth, allergies, salivary glands infections, lack of zinc and vitamin B12, and polyps in the nose. Others include breathing through the mouth, inflamed upper airways, and autoimmune diseases like Sjogren's syndrome and Bell's palsy. Some injuries and traumas that cause a bitter taste include head, nerve, mouth and nose injuries, and biting your tongue. Dental appliances such as braces, any surgery on your ear, nose, teeth or throat, and radiation therapy on your neck or head cause a bitter taste in mouth.

[–]reijn31/F/Columbus 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

If nobody else is gonna love me, I might as well love me.

[–]4MinuteKyleDid not ghost ScienceFaire, she lies 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Because everyone everywhere is

[–]youaremacunganowsupersaturated invertase-processed sucrose 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Have you ever been hunted down, and certain thst you'll probably die? That explains the bitter part.

[–]MakeShortGreatAgain 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

You are right OP, i'm surprised you got upvotes. Narcissism is the word to describe it.

Not to single out the women, but I feel compelled to since men are routinely trashed in this sub to a much higher degree: there are a lot, a lot of dumpy average-to-below-average looking women who act like they are hot shit because they got some good looking guy or two to fuck them for a few weeks at a time in the past. I about lost it laughing my ass off when I read one of the dumpiest looking "regs" (get a fucking life) talk about her dating history of 6+feet only-pls like a badge of honor.

Every time a success story is posted, even with a look matched couple, the men's looks are routinely shitted on and he's talked about dating up or w/e even when like I said, the couple is very looks matched. I can point to specific examples if necessary. And the comments come off like a bunch of jealous hags trying to demean OP through the guise of sarcasm.

To be fair, there are a lot of pathetic guy regulars in here who live to kiss their asses, so I can see some ego inflation being a natural byproduct of that.

inb4 'incel' (have met multiple gfs through site last few years)

[–]DonCasper26/M/Chi 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

For what it's worth, I think the 6'+ rule isn't really that restrictive. You can find guys who are wholly average looking that are taller than 6' tall pretty easily. I'm 6'3", and pretty average looking (except for the height), and I think being a tall guy is like being a girl with big boobs. Some people fetishize that physical trait, and each is respectively tied up in popular perceptions of masculinity and feminity.

[–]MakeShortGreatAgain 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Oh yeah I agree. Not to mention if you actually measured the truth is a lot of these six footers are really just five ten and rounding up. Girls are so bad with this shit from a logistic standpoint that a guy they like they will add extra inches to their height when talking about them. I mean FFS i've had girlfriends tell her family i'm five nine, it's like lmao no i'm not. And yeah the dumpy girls talking about six foot guys usually end up with fat slobs, so a match is a match. You are right calling it a fetish though, that's exactly what it is. Same with yellow fever guys, etc

[–]blue_dice 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

isn't that exactly the type of people you'd expect to be on a dating subreddit posting a lot? it's a self selecting sample.

[–]a_z_q22/M/Brisbane 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

Most people who actively use social media are bitter narcissists lol.

IIRC there was a study that associated pictures posted on FB/Instagram with degree of narcissism.

[–]helenanananah 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Wrong. I know quite a number of narcissists and they hardy post anything at all. They are all guys though.

[–]MultidisciplinaryDr. Logical Snoozefest 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Your application gets rejected if you're not

[–]TheGoliard 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I tried being a sweet narcissist but got no respect

[–]Nobodyatnight 3ポイント4ポイント  (5子コメント)

Three things:

1) This sub's culture is all about cliques. It's insular and has a strong ingroup/outgroup bias. Automatic suspicion and disdain toward anyone who's not a "reg".

2) The feminist-RedPill arguments have throughly poisoned the well for any civil discussion of gender differences. I don't know who fired the first shot (personally I think it was TRPers who started the poisoning). But regardless it has snowballed into deep seated hatred on both sides. Currently third-wave-feminist types predominate here; so people overreact to any guy who comes in and even smells like he might possibly maybe hold a few non-progressive beliefs. The causes a lot of bad blood in the air because, well, gender discussions are gonna come up a lot in a dating sub.

3) This is the one I'm gonna get shit on the most, but here goes: if you look around you'll notice that most people here are in their late 20s, 30s and even 40s. Many are divorced. At those ages, you're watching all your friends settle down with the loves of their lives and build a family and send you lovey-dovey Christmas cards while you're still on a dating site wondering if you can even get a first date this weekend. That doesn't feel good. It makes you feel like you're behind, like you're an overgrown child in a world that has moved on. I know someone's going to get triggered now and say "WHA-WHAT? Bullshit! I love dating in my 30s!" But I don't buy it. I firmly believe that it contributes to the bitter and snarky attitude of a lot of the regs here.

[–]SwedishFishSlutThumb has cankles 6ポイント7ポイント  (3子コメント)

Call me triggered but dating in my 30's was one million times better than dating in my 20's. 10/10 would get divorced again. (I mean... from my first husband. Not my second one. I like him.)

[–]helenanananah 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

Girl, was he the one who got away? That last sentence made me a little sad.

[–]SwedishFishSlutThumb has cankles 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

Huh? My first husband? Definitely not... that's why I'd divorce him over and over again.

My second? Well he's curled up next to me in bed right now, so he definitely isn't getting away anywhere.

[–]helenanananah 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I meant your second. Aaaaw. Have a good one you guys.

[–]_if_only_if_only_ 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

The feminist-RedPill

PinkPill?

[–]seriouslees 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm pretty sure most people here couldn't have a lower self-image if they tried, and they do... It's almost like the opposite of narcissism...

Wait, do you mean here, as in the sub? Or here as in, the app/site?

[–]a-dick-tid-2-dr00gz35/f/toronto 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

it comes out as narcissism. they hate themselves, so they try to make other people feel as worthless as they themselves do.

they're not true NPD narcissists. they're just sad, lonely, and bitter

[–]TranceLord26M/ Toronto/Virgin(Ugly) 3ポイント4ポイント  (4子コメント)

the women here are the worst honestly. The worst thing a guy will do on here is make a post about being lonely and not having success.. and then the girls will laugh at them and mock in every way (because they could never understand what its like to not have options or offers)

[–]a-dick-tid-2-dr00gz35/f/toronto 6ポイント7ポイント  (2子コメント)

ok, guys have done a lot worse things than that here, and dating is just as hard for girls as it is guys, just in different ways.

i understand where this is coming from though. you're gonna end up at -3737 for this comment, but i upvoted you bc i know what you're getting at. virginity is an incredibly easy thing to hold over someone's head, and most women have no problem losing their virginity. and add that to the fact that, like 90 percent of the users here, they are also lonely and bitter, they take their frustration out on easy targets. it's easier to bully someone when you're a part of the herd. this sub devolves into middle school myspace when no one's paying attention

[–]TranceLord26M/ Toronto/Virgin(Ugly) 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Its true. and they say virginity is not a big deal but whenever they feel like insulting me they will use it against me. funny how that works

[–]a-dick-tid-2-dr00gz35/f/toronto 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

they're just dicks. no one who is secure and feels good about themselves bullies another person about their sexual experience. they want to make you feel as bad about yourself as they do about their own selves. and they can go straight to hell as far as i'm concerned

[–]Chill43130 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Or the guys will go on a long Rant insulting people or they'll insult women that are single and tell the women that they need to settle and it's all their fault for being single.

[–]ciderczarI'm Six Foot Two and 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I blame the Bilderbergs.

[–]monster_snowgoon34/M/SDakota 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

I'm not bitter.

[–]seriouslees 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I am, but I'm not a narcissist. I hate myself.

[–]rafeem31/F/JC ~ ghost of john denver / part shark / currently on fire 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

The navel gazing of depression / self hatred can create a sadder form of narcissism though. They are not mutually exclusive.

[–]seriouslees 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I know, was more of a joke. I certainly don't think I'm perfect, or even great, but I don't actually hate myself.

[–]SwedishFishSlutThumb has cankles 0ポイント1ポイント  (5子コメント)

I'll tell you what, go through my post history and link to me one post where I sound like a bitter narcissist and then I'll consider your question as though it has any validity at all.

[–]010011010100010132/M 1ポイント2ポイント  (4子コメント)

[–]SwedishFishSlutThumb has cankles -1ポイント0ポイント  (3子コメント)

You're very clever. But there's nothing bitter or narcissistic there, so...?

[–]010011010100010132/M 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

We're working toward that, through the replies!

[–]ArtDecoAutomatonSan Francisco - 37 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Did you follow step 1?

[–]ArtDecoAutomatonSan Francisco - 37 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Did you follow step 1?

[–]ShockinglyNerdy"Details of your incompetence do not interest me." 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't think most of the people are clinical narcissists. I think online forums allow you to present whatever persona you wish, which lets people come off as richer or more confident or happier online than they really are in real life.

[–]Used-Car-Salesman27/M/Indiana 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

If we could successfully find someone we wouldn't be on the damn OkCupid subreddit.

[–]Jshrad26/M/Portland 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You're not a narcissist if you're actually better than most people.