So probably nothing new here, but I have heard these words uttered from female's mouths on many of occasions.

Most recent example: Dating a 20 y/o girl (I'm 27), she is in college. Throughout the course of the relationship, I would do the typical nice things here and there... flowers, gifts, setting up and planning (and paying for) dates, etc. Not only that, as you guys probably know that men typically are responsible for most of the logistics... the when and where, transportation, getting places (almost exclusively in your car, not theirs). Essentially making her life as easy and stress-free as possible for her. You get the idea.

Now do you think this type of thing is recognized or appreciated? Hell no. Whenever these types of things are brought up, what I always hear is "that doesn't matter" or "I don't care about those things". Bullshit. Who here believes that a girl in a LTR would tolerate a lack of effort on these fronts. They know this. They say that an emotional connection is the most important thing... but I know that if you have an amazing emotional connection but don't even bother to try in any other aspect, you're doomed to fail. I'm not exactly sure what to make of it because I know if any one day I stop doing all of these nice things that they will just throw it back at you saying: "you never do anything nice and cute for me". You could take them out for the fanciest dinner ever on Valentine's Day (expected) and they will act like they aren't even having fun, or just point out all the things that are wrong.

My point is that maybe women just cannot simply comprehend complex human emotions, like Sympathy or Empathy. Due to logistics, I would typically make the hour drive to visit said girl since I lived with my parents and she had an apartment on campus. Plus, if she drove to see me I would just hear whining about how she doesn't want to pay for gas or is too tired to drive, etc. Yet this is the same girl that takes 3 hour road trips on the weekends to visit her girlfriends from back home and go out to expensive dinners.

What women can't comprehend is the stress and toil that we put on ourselves to make it easier for them to be happy. Since I was the one putting in all of the physical effort to get to her and be able to spend time together! Did I feel tired and out of energy at times? Sure, but I sucked it up because the relationship was important to me. I just wish that women would appreciate more the stress and energy that we contribute to help make their lives easier. But I guess that men are the more physically resilient sex, or are we just the less selfish?? Why would someone go through all of the trouble if they didn't actually care about you? I could be doing so much else with my time.