After having lived with the internet for about 10-15 years - and without a relationship, I have seen all manner of different ways in which relationships can be formed. There are plenty of modes of communication today, Facebook, Skype, YouTube, Tinder etc. The one thing that all of these medias make common is instant communication and connection to anyone anywhere.
This does throw up problems for relationships from the outset. If we can reach out to anyone online, then there is immediately a problem. Could one fall in love with someone without physically meeting them? If, for example, I see a girl I like on youtube presenting a video is there anything stopping me from sending her message and talking with her? Perhaps deep down inside we know that this is the uncomfortable truth. Our new relationships have to somehow exist offline.
Take the twinge of jealousy that you might get with a new partner meeting some of her male friends for the first time. Might this be equatable now with watching a Vlog of an attractive girl or guy? Certainly the original notion of the 'fan' cannot be used here. Traditionally the 'fan' would be someone out of reach and in awe. The internet offers the delight of pure choice for anyone.
For me getting serious about finding someone new means a ban on most of the internet activity that I once saw as completely harmless. It is only 100 years ago that one wouldn't be able to look at pictures of other women without causing upset.
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