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Why do you hate us? (self.TheBluePill)

972Firgun が 投稿

Sorry in advance for any errors, my first language isn't English

I don't understand why you hate guys incels, I understand that the community attracts some bad people, but most of us are pretty normal guys who just have some sort of ailment that keeps us from being successful in relationships.

I'm 28, incel(although I don't like to give myself labels, but for the purpose of this post I am). I'm not the stereotype you guys promote on here. I'm a generally good person(at least I like to think so). I have an awesome job that allows me to travel to different countries a few times a year, I have quite a few friends, I'm engaged with my church. I'm still an incel(mostly due to being quite ugly), and that's fine, you might ask why I still participate in these communities. I live a pretty happy life, but I would be lying if I said that it doesn't get to me when my mother or father asks me why I have never had a girlfriend, or if I ever plan to get married, then compare me to my brother who's married with two children. I'm not angry, nor bitter, but I do like having a community where I can share my experiences with other people going through the same thing.

What I'm trying to say that not all of us are like the posts you guys share here, I don't hate women, I'm not angry, and for the most part I'm pretty satisfied with my life. I don't think it's fair to paint us all with one brush.

Thank you for reading.

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[–]LaserFace77 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

This has been explained many times over. Why don't you look at those threads before starting a new one?

[–]QuibblerCempathetic human male 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't hate you... I don't hate "incels" in general, I think there's just so many horrible views in those communities, it's hard to remember not everyone there thinks like that

There's nothing wrong with being "involuntarily celibate", there is something wrong with having those terrible views of women that seem to plague the incels communities

If you want to share your experiences with other people going through the same thing, I'd recommend finding a different community like r/lonely or r/ForeverAlone. Those seem to generally be more... sane

love -C

[–]Zabnut 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't hate you. I have a lot of empathy for people like you. Relationships are hard, and especially get harder the older we all get. Making friends as kids was as simple as liking the same colour. Making friends as teenagers was as simple as being in the same club or team. Making real connections as adults is difficult. I don't discount that you probably struggle with a lot of emotions of failure or depression.

I do hate the fact that people try to make these feelings go away by raging and trying to destroy or hurt other people. Don't do that. Don't be that guy. I can't offer any help other than to say maybe talking to a professional about these feelings you have. I hope this passes for you and you find whatever you're looking for in life dude. Keep fighting a good fight.

[–]nothingtoworryabout -1ポイント0ポイント  (2子コメント)

It's because you feel entitled to a relationship. Women are not sex machines you put kindness coins into and expect sex to happen, you know?

[–]972Firgun[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I never said that though, I think you guys misinterpret what a lot of us are saying. I don't believe I'm entitled to anything, I've earned my way for everything I've accomplished in life, but I don't think its a crime to want to have a relationship, or feel lonely.

[–]LaserFace77 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

We don't hate you. We are appalled by a lot of what is said in incel threads.