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[–]shittybknight 68ポイント69ポイント  (112子コメント)

Highlights from the comments: One guy telling OP his very real and very positive experience is just his brain's last defensive mechanism before he breaks down completely, another guy saying that people can't develop hobbies or interests (or personalities) when they're older (and that you can't 'control your character or empathy'), several guys telling him his experience is irrelevant to theirs because he could change and they couldn't (ignoring the fact that he believed all those things before his trip and his change took effort and time, and that he was once, by his own words, so incel he locked himself in his house for four months and nearly starved), and the usual women-can't-be-incel crap.

They reeeeeally just want to sit around and feel sorry for themselves. They really don't like the idea that they could change.

[–]guy-enigmatico 15ポイント16ポイント  (0子コメント)

Depression can be really seductive. If you don't try, don't work, don't move you're protected from some of the acute symptoms. Of course you're just making the underlying problem worse.

[–]SharnaRanwan 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

They are scared of changing and still failing.

[–]Ignas1234 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

just put urself out der xd

[–]shittybknight 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not at all what OP was saying. It took him a lot more effort, time, and rethinking things than that. If you guys want to misinterpret it so you won't have to even try, then that's on you.

[–]rareas -3ポイント-2ポイント  (1子コメント)

It's like fatlogic, but for personality trait problems.

[–]ColonelHerro 7ポイント8ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's the same for any self-abusive behavior, it traps you.

[–]starspider 38ポイント39ポイント  (47子コメント)

What is it with these 16-19 year old guys, who haven't even stopped growing vertically much less as a person,giving up before they're even fully formed?

Whyyyyyyy? You're only 19! YOU ARE STILL GETTING TALLER.

[–]zeonicore 11ポイント12ポイント  (2子コメント)

Depression often hits people around puberty and may last into adulthood.

[–]rareas 10ポイント11ポイント  (1子コメント)

Might it have something to do with lack of sunlight due to videogames as a hobby? I noticed that sunlight featured in this story. He went home to his apparently sunless country and started having some issues again.

[–]gattofila 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

I never thought of that! Wow. Makes sense. I know some of them believe they are hideous even though they aren't. Many were bullied and obviously have severe (untreated) depression. It really breaks my heart to see teenagers & 20 somethings talk about killing themselves b/c they don't have a relationship.

[–]shannibearstar 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Only 19 but his mind isn't older...

[–]DJWalnutThe Jizzprince has Raging Buttscurvy 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You're only 19! YOU ARE STILL GETTING TALLER.

I seem to have topped out at 5'10''

[–]eekkgg -2ポイント-1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Well, I stopped growing when I was 13, so eeeehhh

[–]justanotherthrow6969 -43ポイント-42ポイント  (40子コメント)

27, 5'6". Yeah. Women will never find me attractive.

Women have it so easy. Men who aren't chubby chasers just want women to not be fat, so women can lose weight. Also, chubby chasers are common, short chasers are either super rare or non existent.

So stop bullying us incels.

[–]rooktakesqueen 48ポイント49ポイント  (24子コメント)

Tom Cruise is 5'7". Daniel Radcliffe is 5'6". Michael J. Fox is 5'5". Seth Green is 5'4". Prince was 5'2". Fucking Peter Dinklage is 4'5". None of these men are unattractive.

Your height is at worst a minor impediment. You're certainly not short enough to be a freaking fetish. You're still taller than most women you meet.

But if you keep believing your height makes women incapable of being attracted to you, it's going to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Because a guy who is short is not repellant. But a guy with crippling anxiety and self-hatred over being short is.

[–]AWeepingAngelsThesisSex Wars Episode V: The Fempire Strikes Back 20ポイント21ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not to mention: Rod Serling (5'4"), and Eazy-E (5'3") were all massive womanizers even before they became famous (although in Eazy-E's case, that unfortunately led to an HIV infection that killed him). And remember Time Bandits? That weird-ass Terry Gilliam movie about time-traveling little people? I wasn't able to find information on all the little people in that movie, since some of them are fairly obscure, but Jack Purvis, David Rappaport, and Kenny "R2-D2" Baker were all married even before they got famous. (Aaaaaaand maybe this was just an excuse for me to talk about Time Bandits. I can't help it, okay? I just really like that movie.)

[–]shannibearstar 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

Prince was short? TIL. Im taller than Prince. By an inch, but damn.

[–]FromHereToEterniti 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, pretty sure he wore high heeled boots most of the time.

[–]PorgiAmorChad is my Copilot 7ポイント8ポイント  (12子コメント)

I work with a married dude who's 5'4" and has a wife and four kids.

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    [–]SwedishCommiecertified commie-merit badge-holder[M] 10ポイント11ポイント  (10子コメント)

    Pseudoscience is not welcome in this subreddit.

    [–]khazhakwhite knight beta cuck 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

    You think 5'6" is short? What are you, stupid?

    [–]shannibearstar 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Height really isnt that important. My former guard captain was 5'4. He got plenty of women.

    [–]rooktakesqueen 22ポイント23ポイント  (0子コメント)

    You mean that when you treat women like people and engage with them socially, you might find some who are into you? No way dude

    [–]Gradz45 13ポイント14ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Wow he fucking pissed them off.

    [–]hausarafna 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I can get their thinking to a certain extent. The feeling of hopelessness, how just one flaw in you can ruin your day (if I see one whitehead when I wake up, I feel like shit, even if I use an extractor to get rid of it, and I'm sure that the average person won't care), and if 99 people give you a positive comment but one gives a negative, you'll only focus on the negative one. Self-improvement also takes ages, hard work, and is really fucking scary. But there's a reason why it's called self-IMPROVEMENT.

    Seriously, kudos to this guy. Getting my first job at 22 to get enough money to finish university was so fucking terrifying. Customer-based work and I had no social skills at all. I can't imagine going to a hostel in another continent, even if he was forced to do so. But in the end it helped me so much. I'm now in a management type of position, and can actually start small talk with new workers. Unfortunately I can't continue to self-improve until I find another job. It's stopping me from trying to get a social life as I work Fridays to Tuesdays and during the night shift, and I can't move out as I need a car to get home after my shift ends.

    What I never understood about them is why the fuck they treat being an incel almost like a competition. He's almost a decade older than a large chunk of them, yet he was never one of them and doesn't know their struggle? They complain about being incel all the time yet treat it like some exclusive club. I guess they just want somewhere to belong...

    [–]orderfromcha0s 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Some time ago I watched this excellent video series from the Youtuber TheraminTrees on "transactional analysis". It is an excellent lens through which to look at destructive interactions between people. It is not the be all and end all, of course, but it offers an interesting insight into why frustrating interactions happen, and what we can do about it. I think TBP is struggling a lot with this incel drama, so it might be helpful for people to watch it. It's a list of videos starting from this trailer.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnMmO2PdKZY&list=PLSQWsVWA8tOfOZ_w1By17YRscno8FRJoP&index=1

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    [–]Rosenblattca 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

    I was wondering why the comments were so negative, then I realized that the post was linked to the r/incels sub.

    [–]muffy2008 -1ポイント0ポイント  (2子コメント)

    I can't STAND the guys in that sub. Such a bunch of winey, self deprecating, "wo-is-me", group of people. They take no responsibility for anything.

    [–]NeosAlius 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

    Please don't lump us all into one type of person. We are not all the same and the ways we react to our situation are greatly varied. Many of us do understand that we are the reasons for being failures. Many of us don't blame anyone other than ourselves.

    [–]muffy2008 -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

    birds of a feather flock together. Not saying you're all the same, but the people you associate with show a lot about the person you are.