Remember this and believe it because every word is true: ANY woman can become attracted to you. She will have sex with you to seal the deal, sometimes multiple times a day for years at a time. She will be sweet and submissive and pleasant and happy all the time. She will then get you to marry her. Then she will begin withdrawing the sexual frequency, often on the Honeymoon. She will become colder and more withdrawn. She will become edgy, angry and sharp. She will then begin a seemingly calculated campaign of Shit Test after Shit Test and escalating disrespect. Ultimately she will divorce you, or drive you to commit suicide or work yourself to an early grave- and then she will piss on it.

IF you let her.

Saving a Low Sex Marriage: A Man's Guide to Dread, Seduction, and the Long Game

With my own words ringing in my head like the constant and incessant loud ringing and buzzing of my tinnitus affected ears, I have to tell you guys my recent story.

After many years of living the dream as a teacher, I recently returned to work as a legal investigator. The money is almost QUADRUPLE what I was earning as a university instructor. The pressure from my wife to quit my teaching job was nonstop and unending. I withstood the storms, even the threats of divorce and maintained course for many years. However, despite the huge sums she was making, the credit cards continued to mount, only the interest is being paid on the student loans, and the overbearing attitude- I earn all the money so I do the bills and decide how the money is spent despite the obvious SHIT job that is being done- was the final straw.

So...I beat cancer and went back to the carpet store....BOOOO!!. It is a job I hate with every fiber of my being and I come home every night sick to my stomach- Oh good! I helped another poorly educated single baby momma with kids from 4 different fathers with a combined total of 39 felonies get her insurance benefits! YAAAAAAAYYYY! And my lawyer boss gets a fat cut and gives me a chunk of it as a salary! Yes! Good work Blue- molding the next generation and teaching college students? Why that is shit when you have the opportunity to really stick the shiv into the temple of society. Could anything be less appealing than helping the truly undeserving? Maybe doing that without getting paid a boatload of money? Did I mention the job also involves very long, even ridiculous hours?

Anyway, try this covert contract on for size. Gee, if I am making almost as much money as my wife now after many years, that means I will have more control of the finances and how the money is spent.

Do you want to know why we don't have a "respect the tag" on MRP like they have on TRP? Because we are fucking married. We done fucked up from the beginning so I'll be God Damned if that mandates "respect" in any of the infinite realities of the multiverse.

So for my first paycheck- a nice fat chunk of change- I had no special plans. There is more where that came from so no big deal. Except for that creeping disrespect and constant testing of the boundaries I mentioned in the title.

I started to type a 5,000 word backstory but the gist is this: 2 refrigerators were broken with damage so I called an appliance repair. However, wife wanted to buy a new fridge instead. Amazingly, this new fridge was almost exactly equal in price to my first paycheck! Who would have thunk.

Without consulting me, wife canceled the repair and bought a rather expensive refrigerator for delivery the day I had scheduled the repair.

I have made it very clear that I am disappointed at her subversive behavior that is both disrespectful and rude.

Amazingly, this is not the only incident since I started working my ass off at my old job (again- just last week!). Yesterday, we were visiting relatives and I told my son he should bring his bike because that area has some cool bike riding. The wife thought it was necessary to interject into our conversation and inform my son that "No, you don't need to bring your bike with you."

She contradicted me deliberately and knowingly in front of my son. This was the last straw and I scolded her "I am talking to my son and you were not invited into the conversation. You are being rude. Knock it off." She scurried away to a foxhole, planning her next assault, no doubt.

The lesson? Don't get comfortable. Don't think that suddenly taking on significant and unpleasant and unnecessary new responsibilities will ever win any points with your wife. You are a tool and a utility. Nothing more. AWALT. So long as you are useful to her you have the option of staying married. If you are no longer useful to her, you will no longer have that option.

The question? How do you handle a subversive wife who literally countermands your decisions? It is one thing to disagree, but what do you do when she overrules you and goes behind your back to sabotage what you have done? Rollo addresses this very issue in [Mutiny])https://therationalmale.com/2014/12/30/mutiny/) but uses the opportunity to explain how marriage 2.0 sucks for men not what do you do about it?

I know I will get fire for this so let me say hi to the bloops in advance and to my Merp bro's let it rip but it is still going to be damn the torpedoes, full steam ahead. (Stoney has me thinking about nautical analogies).