When you finally bed your cupcake it may happen after unwrapping she isnt as hot as it looked like.To look good you need proper diet and exercises.Clothing and makeup add about 50% or more sexual appeal.And even then sex is not always what you imagined.You may imagine some vivid porn like sex but the other side may not go along with it.Once I had chick who refused to make BJs.Most of the initial excitement we feel when lusting over female is our fantasy and thats why its so exciting and addicting - we lust in our heads long before the act happens. Females are even more fantasy oriented, most popular books are female erotica and its well known fact many women while getting fucked imagine somebody else fucking them, so dont grow your ego with female moans.