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Discovering MGTOW, advice? (self.MGTOW)

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I am 22 years old and I discovered MGTOW recently after Milo Yiannopoulos mentioned it in one of his talks. When I was in high school I had a 2 year long relationship with this girl that I genuinely thought I loved. I screwed up this relationship (and it actually was genuinely my fault) but ever since I have been hopeless when it comes to women. Sometimes I would try pretty hard for a time to find someone, and fail due to lack of confidence after getting shut down or not being able to find a single woman I can't stand to be around or talk to. Then I usually have long periods of time where I don't try at all and sometimes would eveb lie about being asexual when someone mocks me for not "having any game" or some other stupid shit. And I delve into loneliness and self pity. I've come to believe that, although some of the fault is mine, it is also the fault of growing up and living in an age where most women are horrible, entitled batches. And so I continue to not even try to get dates or even get laid at all, all the while feeling like a loser and wallowing in bullshit self pity.

What should I do? How can I get rid of the Norton in my head that If I don't have a girlfriend and/or string of fuck buddy's then I am automatically a loser? And how, while I'm going my own way, can I get rid of my obsession with women and truly feel at peace knowing I don't need one? Thanks

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[–]carjackerwilly 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Being 22 is a difficult age for you to get your head around this. With maturity you understand that you are the only one who determines your value and worth. Your happiness relies on you only. Other people's perceptions of you are meaningless. If you seek validation and approval from others then you can never be free. Take pride in yourself, be honest with yourself and live the life that you want, not what others push on you. If people don't get it or won't accept it, get rid of them. A MGTOW at 22, the world is your oyster my friend. Walk tall.

[–]tribalbandit 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You need to address why you feel like a loser. Do not blame any of this on the age you grew up in, that women are the most entitled bitches that have been seen in a long time. While true if you allow these things to be your focus you will always be a loser. You will always be that which you believe about yourself.

Why do you give others the power to determine for you how you should live your life?

Are they in your shoes when your soul cries out in pain?

Are they the ones who are responsible for when you do something kind for another. Not because you expected a reward, but because you felt like making someone elses day better.

Look kid, you have to understand no one will ever value you more than you do. I know it is hard to accept. But no one else can know your pain. No one else can understand your triumphs. We are always alone and you are doing what so many do. Thinking if you can just meet the groups expectations, you suddenly will have that connection and that loneliness you feel will go away.

It never does. We are always alone, even in a crowd. When we close our eyes, none of the others are there with us in our thoughts, shielding us from our truthful stare of our shortcomings to triumphs. You need to break free of the shackles other put you in. Give yourself permission to be you and know it is ok. It has to be. None of the rest of us can make your decisions for you. That is the closest to peace you will ever feel. Knowing that you are not an immortal being who understands everything. That when you make a choice, you did so because you knew it was right (not for me, not for your mom, for you).

Good luck man. I hope you weather the storm you have walked into. Congrats on having the strength to take those first steps.