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When do Toronto girls get married? (self.askTO)

UnhappyFatDude が 投稿

I am yet to meet a single girl in this city in well over 3 years. Everyone is either in long term relationships, or married.

They're like early 20s, or none of them were in their 30s.

I was wondering when do girls generally get married, and whether I've missed my window.

Thanks.

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[–]lilfunky1 9ポイント10ポイント  (3子コメント)

When do Toronto girls get married?

Mostly in the summer time. Toronto isn't a very pretty looking city in the winter for photographs.

[–]UnhappyFatDude[S] -3ポイント-2ポイント  (2子コメント)

I meant what age

[–]thegoodbadandsmoggy 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

You need to work on you dude, not worry about others.

[–]lilfunky1 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I meant what age

Women are allowed to get married at 18 and up.

16-17 year olds are also allowed to get married with their parents permission.

[–]UrbanMuchacho [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

i'd really love to meet this guy and just have a coffee with him to understand what the hell is going on here.

[–]foxtrot1_1 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

That's a weird thing to focus on. I'm sure you've met plenty of single people.

Step 1 is have a lot of friends who are women, even (especially) if they are in relationships. They will have friends who are women (and single), and being friends will help you not focus on women as simple objects of desire. Then the first friend can introduce you to the single one.

Step 2, according to your username, is feeling better about yourself. Step 3 is joining a regular exercise class or something that motivates you to get up off the couch. Literally no one cares what your weight is unless you're really unhealthy and feel bad about yourself - that is, people only care if you do. Eat healthier, move more, and you'll feel way better. Stop eating processed foods and drinking soda, eat vegetables all the time. It's pretty simple, but not easy.

A partner is like step 10, dude.

e: Also, and this is key: get off the damn Internet once in a while. Especially Reddit, and specifically the forums for people who wallow in sadness and self-pity as though it's some kind of legitimate identity rather than a perverted reflections of the person you could (and wish to) be and an indicator that you're living your life the wrong way. It feels good and fulfilling in the short term, but every foreveralone post is time you could've spent making yourself feel better for the long term.

[–]rutefoot [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

That's a weird thing to focus on. I'm sure you've met plenty of single people.

Step 1 is have a lot of friends who are women, even (especially) if they are in relationships. They will have friends who are women (and single), and being friends will help you not focus on women as simple objects of desire. Then the first friend can introduce you to the single one.

And under no circumstances, do not think about them as more than friends, no matter how close you get to them. When you're lonely, it's very easy to misread friendship as something more.

If you have trouble with that, that's fine, but recognize it. Nobody is perfect. It's easy to think that with sheer willpower you can overcome your flaws. That's just nonsense peddled by people wanting to sell you self help books. Many of us don't have the proper willpower to approach a situation this way. And you know what? That's fine. Be honest with yourself about areas where you've struggled. Instead of attacking it with willpower, find a workable situation that you know you can accomplish. After all, when depression is involved, it's safe to say willpower isn't a tool that's going to work well for you....at least not yet.

So, struggle to keep a respectable distance from female friends? Make some friends that you have no romantic interest in. Take willpower out of the equation.

Set some small goals: make a lady friend you have no romantic interest in. Some dating websites give you options to look for friendship only. They're a good spot to start. (Approaching random strangers has ceased to be a good way to meet new people anyway).

Some of those sites have personality quizzes. Fill it out and be honest. I can't stress that enough. If you're not honest with yourself; don't bother. Lying about what is and isn't important to you is only going to make things tougher for you down the road. Do not try to answer in a way that makes you into the person you think women want. You're here to make friends. What matters is that you've got common interests and values. (And don't check the box looking for single people only You're looking for friends, remember).

Reach out to these people with more than just a "hey". A) Read their profile. Actually read it. B) message them and break the ice with light hearted talk about some common interests (preferably interests more specific than "music"). "Hey there! I see that you like The Voice. Have you been watching this season? How do you feel about Miley being a coach? I think she's doing alright so far. Hit me up if you're just wanting someone to chat with".

Do that another 30 times. You're not going to get a lot of replies; and that's fine. Message and move on. Don't stop once you get one response. Try to get a few active conversations going on (safer this way, anyway. Otherwise you risk smothering any one individual).

Work on these online friendships until you feel comfortable meeting people, then work on these IRL friendships until you feel comfortable dating people.

[–]senorita_topaz [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

there is no window. some women decide not to ever marry.

i have lots of female and male friends in their thirties who may never get married. not sure where you are meeting these girls who are in LTR's or married but their are single girls out there.

good luck.

[–]ur_a_idiet [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Immediately after their first period.

Sometimes during.

Sorry, dude.