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FIXwelp, looks like I'm pregnant.. [an update!] (self.childfree)

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Hello again folks. I've just completed my first appointment at Planned Parenthood and am happy to report that I am in much better spirits! They estimated that my parasite has been growing for 4.5 weeks so I caught it nice and early. I go back tomorrow for the pill.

The doctor that I had today at PP was sure to talk to me about my future birth control plans. I explained to her that, first - I was on the pill for 8 years or so and that I had issues with depression during this time. Second - I was on the Nuva Ring for 6 months with awful mood swings and a temper. Third - I tried Paraguard for 6 months and had debilitating cramps. Most recently - using condoms. Tried to talk to my current OBGYN about sterilization, about a year ago, and was denied. The doctor today was so level-headed in her response that I was dumbstruck for a moment. She goes, "Oh, well I also work at [hospital name]. We perform sterilizations as long as we feel that the patient understands it is permanent and non-reversible, and that if they change their mind in the future, their only option for pregnancy is thru in-vitro fertilization," and gave me her pamphlet.

Uh.. yeah! Wow. A provider that trusts me when I say I don't want kids!? The moment I got home, I went online and checked to see if she is a provider covered by my insurance. She is. I turned 25 in August so I have a limited time frame in which I can continue to utilize my parents insurance. I am going to try to get it done this winter or spring, I think. As much as surgery terrifies me, the thought of getting pregnant again and ever having to carry a parasite to term is much, much worse. Anyway. Thanks for reading and thank you again for being awesome! :)

If any of you have pursued sterilization, I'm curious what your experiences were like!

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[–]ShepardTheLeopard 225ポイント226ポイント  (14子コメント)

So glad everything worked out for you in the end.

If all else failed I always loved the phrase,

"How many abortions do I need to have until you can get me sterilized?"

[–]tallcappy 110ポイント111ポイント  (1子コメント)

Reading your comment I imagined it being like a punch card.

"Looks like this is your fifth abortion so you get a free sterilization!"

[–]Steffany_w0525 16ポイント17ポイント  (0子コメント)

Talking to a coworker about how I was getting my tubes tied...he looked shocked and asked why I wouldn't just get an abortion. I replied 'because that's not a frequent flyer card I want stamped? Plus it's free in Alberta' He accepted that answer and said 'good for you then' He's now my best guy friend

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 72ポイント73ポイント  (11子コメント)

For real. Take me seriously, for fuck's sake. I'll sign whatever you want saying I won't sue you if I "change my mind," er whatever it is you want. She was a breath of fresh air! edit: word

[–]Wanttobefree123M/AU/Snipped 43ポイント44ポイント  (10子コメント)

Like "changing your mind" is somehow the worst thing that can befall a person anyway. You know what I do with regret, I get the fuck over it like a normal person. Yet society doesn't care about most of our regrets, just the one that involves baby making. Don't you dare regret having a baby though, that's a total taboo, you must love motherhood. Holy shit.

[–]generalpurposes 21ポイント22ポイント  (6子コメント)

Before I say anything, I love my kid dearly. He's given me the strength to do things I probably wouldn't have done otherwise, and he's pretty awesome. But I fucking hate motherhood. Rainbows and butterflies my ass. I hate how people paint it to be like that, when really, most of my days are spent chasing him around, telling him to leave that alone, for fucks sake, the rules HAVEN'T CHANGED, lots of being screamed at, lots of fighting to feed him or change his diaper or clothe him (please just wear a shirt, its cold), and screaming because I'm too burnt out to play with him more today. It. Fucking. Sucks.

[–]TheHarbinger1628 5ポイント6ポイント  (5子コメント)

I'm sorry you're going through a rough time but it(should) get easier as your child grows up :)

[–]generalpurposes 1ポイント2ポイント  (4子コメント)

I hope so. I'm paranoid that he's on the spectrum or ADD/ADHD or something else that's going to affect him forever and I can't fix or cure, and THIS IS THE REALITY OF BEING A PARENT. Except I get the pleasure of being mom and dad because his sperm donor is a meth head who can't remember he has a son for more than 2 weeks. This is my reality and I would trade it for anything else, as long as I got to keep my sweet boy.

[–]TheHarbinger1628 4ポイント5ポイント  (3子コメント)

I'm can see why you would be worried about that, but if nothing is really standing out too bad yet it's likely that he will be fine. Even if he is on the spectrum, however, that doesn't mean your life will be he'll because of it. It will take a lot of work but you(or special boarding schools) can help him learn how other people act and feel and whatever(source: my roommate has aspergers and we have talked about how growing up was for him. Initially I had no idea he was on the spectrum but he does still have some minor social issues (not good with groups i.e.) but is ridiculously smart and going to be an aerospace engineer)

Being a single mother is really hard and I'm sorry you have to go through it. It won't be easy, and this is anecdotal as hell, but honestly I think that growing up with a mother in the same kind of situation as you gave me a better idea of the value of money and gave me more empathy

Your child may benefit from the experience and I hope you do too. Remember to look on the bright side :)

[–]generalpurposes 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

I know it won't make my life hell, potentially, but it will make his that much more difficult. I'm mostly worried because he's 14mo on the 11th and he says "mama" and that's it. Thank you for your kind words, though. Here's to hoping I don't fuck him up...too badly, cause I'm sure I'll fuck something up.

[–]Keyra13I don't want kids but I'm good with them when they're quiet 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Different people develop differently with regards to his speech. I'm not a mother, but I am a psych major. You can get your son therapy if he's on the spectrum or ADD (and they're kinda closely linked). Will it make your life harder? A bit. But that doesn't mean it'll be hell for him necessarily. If he does turn out to have either disorder. And again, people are different. Even if he has a disorder it could be very mild and he can still be happy even if it's more severe.

[–]TheHarbinger1628 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

It'll be difficult but every life has its challenges, right? What matters is that it's not impossible.

Do you talk to him a lot? Babies learn by listening. Idk much about child development but I do know that my brother had issues with his ears when he was a baby so he didn't learn to talk for a while. He ended up having to have speech therapy or something in grade school which wasn't too bad. Could be autism, could be ears, could be that he's just a quiet guy :)

Lol everyone fucks up and that's OK. What matters is that you try to do the best you can. But just make sure you don't forget about yourself. If you don't continue doing things for yourself it'll make both of you miserable.

I am sure you'll do fine as a mother :)

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

Well, shit. I even have two tattoos that I regret. But I had them reworked or covered up into something new. Now they're beautiful and I'm much happier. I imagine that I would be able to rework other regrets in life in a somewhat similar fashion. ;)

[–]cbmmdn1179520 | F | Dog Mama | My career wakes me up | 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

And the thing is even if you DO change your mind. There is adoption!!!

[–]charlottedhouse 44ポイント45ポイント  (1子コメント)

I had my surgery this past March and it was a cake walk. No surgical pain to speak of. The worst was the gas pain, but that was manageable and dissipated in a few days.

10/10 would cut out tubes again.

[–]Silly_Wizzy 31ポイント32ポイント  (8子コメント)

Sorry you are pregnant, but happy you are getting non judgement care and that it will be resolved shortly.

You asked about sterilization experiences? My sterilization experience:

My doctor was very open minded and we just had a long nice conversation so she knew I knew all the info and was certain. From initial consult to surgery date I think it was around 2-3 months.

I got a tubal ligation with Filshie clips. It has the best effective rate I could find (lifetime average effective rate of 99.75% see: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16259814 or http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/24560346/?i=1&from=filshie%20clips)

Cost: Because of the new health care law the entire procedure was 100% covered. I paid about $10 for the at home pain pills. So in total it cost me only $10.00! Check out www.coverher.org for info about that!

Pre-Op:

Week of procedure I had a Pre-Op apt with my Doctor. I asked whether I needed a catheter and she doubted I would. She gave no restrictions as to sex or exercise and just resume when comfortable. Got my pain prescriptions and pre-filled them so I could go straight home after my tubal ligation.

Surgery:

My surgery was scheduled for 8:00 am on Friday. At around 6:30 am, I changed into the hospital gown and signed my sterilization consent form. I told the anesthesiologist that I get nauseous under general anesthesia so they put a patch behind my ear to help. Then one of the nurses gave me an IV (they numb the area first). I peed so I wouldn’t need a catheter (and I didn’t). The nurse then put blue leg warmers on my legs to help prevent blood clots. Around 8:00 am the anesthesiologist came and gave me valium through the IV. and I was then rolled into the OR.

Post-OP: I woke up wide awake. The patch worked so I was not nauseous. The nurse asked my pain scale and I was at a 3/10. It was basically a bad period cramp type of feeling, but no real ‘pain’ per se. The doctor came back and told me everything was normal and that the actual procedure took 15 minutes. She made the first incision into my belly button (but because she was so awesome no scar there). The second incision is below my bikini line. She then went to talk to my husband to give him the details and tell him after care instructions.

After 30 minutes or so I was moved into the big recovery area. The nurse brought me food and juice. My husband came in and was really surprised how awake and normal I was. After 30 minutes of being in the big recovery area, I got dressed by myself and left. We left around 10:00 am.

Tips: Wear loose fitting PJs and a thin maxi pad. Bring a bottle of water to drink after as your throat is sore from breathing tube. Have a pillow in the car for the seat belt.

Recovery: I went home and slept. I could walk around fine, I was just tired. I walked up the stairs to my bedroom by myself. My tummy was a tiny bit inflated by the gas they use, but nothing crazy, it just looked like I had eaten a big meal. The pain pills made more tired so I just slept the rest of the day. The rest of the weekend, I just watched TV with my husband. I could do stuff, I just chose to relax. I was sore, but just like too many sit-ups sore. I went back to work on Monday. No one even guessed anything :)

Tips: Heating pad for tummy and Popsicles for you your throat.

Summary: It was way simpler and easier than I thought! I have one tiny 1/2 inch scar below my bikini line that faded. The tubal ligation was the best thing I ever did!

P.s. Don't fall for the fake "Post Tubal ligation Syndrome." The 'doctor' that created it, lost her license (http://www.casewatch.org/board/med/hufnagel/order_2004.shtml or http://caselaw.findlaw.com/ca-court-of-appeal/1230512.html) for being crazy).

Some of the research disproving the fake syndrome: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7982548 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11106717 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15865627 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23071889

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 11ポイント12ポイント  (3子コメント)

Oh my goodness thank you for your thorough reply! Lots of great tips in your post. :) Being put under freaks me out, as well as being filled with gas, but it doesn't seem to be as big of a deal as I thought.

I returned my OBGYN's voicemail the other day letting her know that I was choosing a chemical termination. I haven't heard back. Hmm.. I should have known to never go back to her when she warned me about post-tubal syndrome and said that "men like to say it doesn't exist." This same OBGYN recommended I take a natural family planning workshop, and while there may have been some helpful information there, that is literally the opposite of what I asked for. Blech.

[–]torienne 5ポイント6ポイント  (1子コメント)

Being put under freaks me out, as well as being filled with gas

For me, the gas was no worse than burrito night at the torienne household. Come to think of it, not as bad, since Mr. torienne wasn't involved.

I returned my OBGYN's voicemail the other day letting her know that I was choosing a chemical patient-doctor relationship termination.

There. Fired her unprofessional, unethical, sexist, baby-pushing ass.

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I could very well send her my results from the sterilization when I'm all finished! ;)

[–]kackygreennot a biological child, not an adopted child, not a stepchild. 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

When you get to the hospital, you can ask for something to help with the anxiety, it's so worth it. I did and don't even remember counting down for anesthesia, I just woke up, saw my doc and asked "oh, is it done already?"

[–]torienne 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

P.s. Don't fall for the fake "Post Tubal ligation Syndrome." The 'doctor' that created it, lost her license (http://www.casewatch.org/board/med/hufnagel/order_2004.shtml or http://caselaw.findlaw.com/ca-court-of-appeal/1230512.html) for being crazy). Some of the research disproving the fake syndrome: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7982548 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11106717 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15865627 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23071889

Wow this is good stuff. Mods: can this go on a sidebar or something, because the question about PTLS comes up over and over, and these studies conclusively disprove that tubal ligation causes ANY changes.

[–]PeglegGecko 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

Do you mind if i ask where I can find information about sterilization on Cover Her? I looked around for a bit and the most I could find was about providing birth control. It could be I'm just missing it- forgive me if that's the case.

[–]MarthaGail32F / S / TX, y'all 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Basically my same experience! It was easy and fast and I recovered pretty quickly. My anesthesiologist told me I was "radical". I know she meant it was an extreme solution, but I like to think she thought I was rad.

[–]wollstonecraftfanCats before Brats 16ポイント17ポイント  (0子コメント)

I had the surgery and I have to say it was a lot bigger in my head than it actually was in reality. The biggest annoyance I had on the day of surgery was not being allowed to eat and having to wait for (in my opinion it was like 2,5 hours) so long till surgery happened. The first day you'll feel exhausted and on day 4 it's just a mild annoying pain in your lower abdomen.

[–]rainbow_butterfly25F sterilized 13ポイント14ポイント  (1子コメント)

One of the things that helped me get sterilized most was being very vocal and unashamed about my intent to get abortions if I ever got pregnant. Godspeed.

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

I mean I'll already have one on the books, and would make the same damn choice a second time if I had to. The good news is this doctor -knows- that already!

[–]wolf39us 11ポイント12ポイント  (0子コメント)

Great that you caught it so early! Time to clean house!

[–]Furah20s/M/Au/Ladies, I'm single. ;) 13ポイント14ポイント  (2子コメント)

Wow, the one time I've heard of a child actually being a blessing. 😂

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

truuuth! hahaha

[–]Furah20s/M/Au/Ladies, I'm single. ;) 11ポイント12ポイント  (0子コメント)

You're going to make a great not mother.

[–]chair_ee 10ポイント11ポイント  (0子コメント)

Please put this doctor in the sidebar!!

[–]RavynousHunter27/M/Commie 8ポイント9ポイント  (0子コメント)

Damn right! World needs more doctors like that.

[–]thr0wfarawayDon't be a doormat. Not your circus. Not your monkeys. 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

Great!

[–]sethra007Why don't you have MORE kids? 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

Oh thank goodness. So glad to hear this is working out for you!

[–]Leiryn29M - 2 cats 1 dog 0 kids 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

Do it!, you will forever be thankful for it, especially if you can get it on your parents insurance

[–]SmokinSkidoo 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hmm, its almost like that doctor, regardless of her own personal feelings to either kids or sterilization, made sure to give you the most unbiased and well informed information she had available so you could do the same.

Go figure.

Congrats on getting covered for the abortion. No one should have to endure a pregnancy tbeu don't want.

[–]drummerswife82why limit happy to an hour? 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

Congrats! That is awesome news. I'm so glad you found a provider who isn't questioning your decision. I hope all goes well.

[–]FullColorPenguin26/f/proud member of the Spayed Brigade 3ポイント4ポイント  (7子コメント)

So glad you managed to find such a great doctor! I hope you get everything squared away with a little fuss as possible.

I had my surgery about a year and a half ago, right before I turned 25, and apart from the nausea when I woke up (my body doesn't respond well to opiates) and the fact that my cats kept trying to walk all over my stomach while I was still healing, it was a total breeze. I highly recommend going ahead and getting it out of the way while you're still young and healthy.

[–]rainbow-sailor 2ポイント3ポイント  (5子コメント)

Cats are furry jerks. Every time I've had to have a laparoscopy done, they always try to lie down on my tummy.

[–]onionsulphur34/F/purrent/spayed 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

They know it hurts and they want to help!

[–]rainbow-sailor 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

And I truly appreciate their intent, but having 20+ pounds of cat on me doesn't actually help. I'm actually dealing with a lot of pain right now from an ovarian torsion (surgery this month to deal with it) and my husband's cat will not leave me alone. Constantly by my side, and if we don't lock him away, I wake up with him curled up on me.

Furry jerks with hearts of gold, and tiny little paws of death.

[–]onionsulphur34/F/purrent/spayed 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

Ooh, I've heard that ovarian torsion is spectacularly painful. My sympathies.

[–]rainbow-sailor 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Aw, I appreciate that! I'm going to be okay though, my OB/GYN is a great surgeon, but man is he pissed at the hospital's E.R. department over the whole thing.

It was a result of my appendicitis being misdiagnosed as a UTI (the lawyers say I have an amazingly clear-cut case of medical negligence). Since they didn't do their job correctly and sent me home, my appendicitis got worse and ended up rupturing and going gangrenous...but part of the appendix that ruptured 'fell' and twisted around my right ovary and fallopian tube, causing the torsion. The surgeon fixed it, but unfortunately the damage was severe enough that, months later (this happened in late March/Early April), I'm still in a ridiculous amount of pain. Currently on Vicodin to manage it till the surgery to remove the wrecked ovary and tube.

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Woah! A speedy recovery to you!

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

That's awesome. I could see my dog trying to do the same. I would rather get it done sooner, I see no reason to wait!

[–]teenageidle 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm so happy you were able to catch it and find a solution! I'm so sorry this happened to you. It just goes to show that even those of us who are REALLY careful and diligent can end up getting pregnant unless we are snipped/fixed.

[–]cheesecheesecheese1 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Feel free to pm me the answer, but do you live in WI? My doctor at PP said the same exact thing!

[–]the_annoying_one 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I miscarried the morning of my PP appointment and went to my regular doc the following week to check all was safely gone and to discuss sterilization. I. DO. NOT. WANT. CHILDREN. I never have imagined myself as a mommy. I don't like them.

Condoms are challenging for my husband and I refuse to go back on hormones, especially since I still have a good 15 birthing years left.

She flat out said I was too young to know what I wanted and too bad. (It annoys me twice as much that she is a woman and still didn't think women should be allowed to pursue sterilization without roadblocks and being told they don't know what they want.)

Husband called his doctor about getting snipped and they made him an appointment for two weeks out. No questions asked. No problems.

Happy to not be on hormones and that my dude is shooting blanks. And also that I got a new doctor. Why won't they trust us to know what we want???

[–]mle12189 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I got my tubes tied about 3 weeks ago. I wrote a post about it about a week ago I think. The most important thing. IMO, is that you have someone to take care of you the first couple days, since you will be pretty helpless.

[–]kackygreennot a biological child, not an adopted child, not a stepchild. 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Oh goodness yes. My mom came to stay with me and I'll be forever grateful, especially knowing she would have loved for me to have kids. If it weren't for her I'd have been eating delivery crap food and considering anything I dropped as gone forever for about a week. Not to mention not being able to drive anywhere

[–]meranu33 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Excellent! My experience since my decision has been excellent ! Not one regret. Ever!

[–]zebramelon 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Can confirm; its awesomesauceness to have tubes tied.

[–]torienne 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I was sterilized many years ago when it wasn't as well done as it is now...and I LOVED IT! It's liberating! I felt free in ways I couldn't imagine then. Also, uterine ablation to eliminate most of your period will be an option for you since you'll be sterilized. It wasn't for me because it wasn't being done when it was relevant for me, but that might be something you could look into.

[–]Birdmothi want my baby back ribs 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Congratulations!!

[–]onionsulphur34/F/purrent/spayed 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I got sterilised in the UK, four years ago. I was scared about getting anaesthetised, but I shared my fears with the anaesthetist and she was so nice and reassuring. I had no shoulder pain at all, and no catheter. My post-op pain was just like having period pain with extra weakness and tiredness. Look at it as an excuse to lie on your sofa for a couple of days, eating your favourite foods and catching up on movies and TV. Line up some podcasts too, just in case you feel like lying down with your eyes closed.

Read more about my experience here: vagendamagazine.com/2013/04/tmi-my-sterilisation/

[–]Willowgirl78 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

So happy for you. I had similar issues with BC tolerance and developed a relationship with my gyn so that I got sterilized at 23. Granted, they put clips on my tubes rather than a slash and burn just in case, but the end result was the same.

Hope it all works out!

[–]pashafisk29F/Essure/Dogs/Engaged 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

When I was 25 and still under my parents insurance I had Essure placed. It was so affordable (can't remember exactly) and I was able to go back to work the next day. I also had issues with depression on hormonal birth controls, especially from the shot.

I don't know what procedure you're having done, or that this doctor offers, but thats so great that you finally found a doctor to listen to you.

[–]kackygreennot a biological child, not an adopted child, not a stepchild. 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

It sounds like it would just be a tubal, the worst part will be the rib and shoulder pain from the gas working it's way out of your body for a day or two after surgery, a wedge pillow will help. No kidding, it's so easy to recover from I wish I'd had better insurance sooner.

I had a laproscopic hysterectomy and tubes removed, was back at work five days later, off painkillers (only Tylenol and Aleve after the surgery, even in hospital) entirely after six days.

The biggest factor in a fast recovery is walking. As long as you have laproscopic and not a larger incision, you should be waking 20 minutes, 3x per day starting the day after surgery, it sounds crazy, and you'll want to bring a pillow to pad your belly if you need to cough, but my doctor swears by it as the difference between a couple weeks versus a couple months for recovery.

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Gas pain sounds so odd, but I could absolutely get on board with some walking to aid recovery. I would probably take a solid work-week off since my job is fairly physical.

Thanks for sharing!

[–]JWitch9026F/BF + 2 cats/Tubeless! 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

That is awesome! Congrats on the great outlook! But first, best of luck with the abortion, from what I've heard it's uncomfortable... But all for the best ;)

Now as for experiences... I've been sterilised almost 3 months now and it's great. My doctor was also very cool and open minded about it, and we opted for removing the fallopian tubes altogether (I'd had trouble with alien objects in there before and I really wanted to be sure there wouldn't be any complications caused by stuff that doesn't belong, plus there are horror stories out there about Essure at the moment and they're investigating that... Not an option for me. Also, highest success rate in preventing pregnancy, and helps prevent ovary cancer at a later age too.). Surgery itself was easy, I was super nervous before but they put me to sleep and when I woke up like 30-40 minutes later I think I was smiling from the moment I realised I was awake, it was done and I felt fine. The nurses in the recovery room asked me about my pain, which was manageable so I didn't need any extra pain meds. I got a popsicle to deal with the raw throat (happens because of the breathing tube they use during surgery). Within 15-20 minutes after waking up, they figured I was awake enough to go back to my room. My SO (they called him 'husband'... I guess the nurses thought we were married and had a family already if I was getting this procedure haha) was waiting in the hallway. He was like 'oh, you look happy with your popsicle, apparently it wasn't that bad?'. Had to stay in the hospital until I had peed (drank lots of water to be able to get home sooner haha), because I'd had a catheter. That was fine too, I expected a lot of pain when peeing the first time, but I didn't feel anything. Left the hospital 4 hours after I was put under, so altogether a pretty quick procedure! I did almost faint when I was home, just once. Probably all the meds they pump into you, pain meds, anesthetic etc.... But my SO and his parents (we were staying with them because they live close to the hospital I went to) just put me down on the couch and brought me dinner and drinks :)

Because of the gas they pump into your gut to have room to work, my stomach was pretty swollen and tight for a couple days and I experienced some shoulder pain because of that (nothing bad, just felt like I'd gone a bit too far while climbing or something). Only took ibuprofen and paracetamol for about 4 days, then just left it because I wasn't in much pain. The incisions were a bit painful for a couple weeks when I put pressure on them, but because it was summer I could easily wear light and loose clothing. I had sex again 5 days after the procedure, which was fine (we were careful of course). So quick recovery all around :) I'd highly recommend it! If you have any questions, feel free to PM me :)

EDIT: Added some more details.

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, I think I'd go for the full removal of tubes also. I am weirded out by the idea of foreign objects, too!

Thank you for sharing! :)

[–]ModernGray 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

So happy everything worked out for you!

I remember talking to my Dr about it when I was 25 and he gave me the "You'll want kids in a few years..." Well, here I am over 10 years later and still not wanting kids. I'm heading in to talk to my OBGYN in a few weeks to see about getting fixed. I know he's performed this procedure for other CF people so I'm excited! Good luck with everything!

[–]torienne 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Got sterilized many years ago, and 10/10 would do it again! It wasn't a big deal...less awful than having my wisdom teeth out. But it was liberating in ways I couldn't have imagined. Plus, you could consider getting a uterine ablation at the same time, or if not, you would get less resistance to an ablation later.

Is your doctor in the childfree-friendly doctors wiki? We need more like her!

https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/wiki/doctors

[–]throwitaway_lol[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Oh god, wisdom teeth were awful. Hmm, she doesn't appear to be! I'll add her later.

[–]Hello_Its_Dr_Disco 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I had essure done 4 years ago and it was so fast and easy I could have gone to work the same day. I have nothing but good things to say about it! Any questions, pm me!

[–]dariasdouble21230/F 6 Ferrets Essure 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Had Essure put in April 1st (heh). They put me under, had given me some sort of relaxing happy pill. Woke up a few hours later, then they released me. Had my ex-boyfriend (we're friends) drive me to and from, since I was being put under. Didn't hurt nearly as bad as I thought it would. I was walking around just fine, going to the bathroom no problem. It was just slight discomfort, not even as bad as a period cramps can be. Didn't even have to take the pain meds they gave me.

July I got the follow up. That didn't hurt either (although the doctor said most women are screaming at that point.) It was uncomfortable, but again no problem. Drove myself that time. Went to work the next day (I sit all day) no problems.

I chose this method because I am diabetic and we tend to heal a lot slower than most people, so cutting through my insides was not ideal. We're really good at making scars though, so the Essure worked very well, hah!

[–]wolfpupower 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I am pursuing sterilization but when I went to pp it was a weird response. I asked for a referral to a place that could do it and was told the appointment would be made. A month later I am ghosted with no call backs, emails or follow up. Like you I have a contract for benefits so once it is up it will be more expensive. I am more pissed off that they couldn't tell me in person to go to another doctor instead of ignoring my calls.

[–]acb1971 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I've been sterilized. If your Doctor is willing, get your tubes removed. Apparently, most ovarian cancer originates in the tubes (from what I gathered from my gyn) It wasn't bad pain wise., minor scars (5 stitches)

[–]honorific 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Good for you! I have not personally taken the step to tie my tubes/be sterilized, but my partner has, and it's great. We don't have to worry about having a baby. We fantasize a little bit about foster babies, but for the most part are very happy with our independence and extra $$$.