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[–]Willow-girl [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Block him! Get busy with your own life and self-improvement. Get good friends around you for support. Let time work its magic! A study found that after people experience a traumatic life event, it takes about three months for them to return to their 'baseline happiness.' I have found this to be true, myself. So expect to feel like shit for awhile, but know that it will pass.

Give yourself a pat on the back for recognizing that something was 'off' in this relationship and acknowledging reality instead of going into denial mode. You, young lady, have good instincts! You will be fine. Remember what my friend Ardie always says: "Men are like buses. If you miss one, don't worry -- another one will be along in a little while."

[–]Kara_El [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

He's still too busy having fun to respect you and that's obviously to your detriment. He's 20, so that's unlikely to change for a while. Maybe he's truly remorseful, maybe not. You can't control that. You can control how much more of your youth you give a cheating jerk, though. Take your mind off things with a hobby that betters yourself. Go to the gym or learn to cook. Don't go Bridget Jones and gain 40 pounds, because you'll never be younger or more attractive to a man who IS ready to commit. Spend a little time alone and shoot for someone a little older next time, who's done sowing his wild oats.

I'm sorry you're hurting. Use this time for growth, though, not to start a three year journey of mistreatment in a toxic relationship, for which you'll now only be able to blame yourself.

[–]Woahshi [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

His answer was "I didnt do anything wrong we can look at every chat together I'll explain it, its "self-development" (he's a RedPill guy by the way).

Sounds like a real winner. If he's willing to rationalize that as "self-development" (see, guys hamster too), can you imagine what else he may have done and felt no guilt in doing?

What should I respond?

Nothing. Cut off all contact. Easy.

he has got lots of Alpha traits but also Beta traits.

Judging by the post it sounds like his Beta traits significantly outnumber his Alpha traits.

Just move on - dude's a loser. Find a better guy.