Just found this, and I must say it fits with everything that I have felt for years! A little about me. I am a 43 year old newly divorced man of 20+ years! I have three kids and an alimony payment. I was the typical white knight! I always was the one who worked. She never did. For 20+ years. She just stayed home and took excellent care of my kids. Intimacy between us was non existent from early on. And after 15 years I went looking for something elsewhere. (Yes, I should have left but didn't). I never did find it but, was caught by that stupid Ashley Madison bull crap. Regardless, it's over between us. Now, I have moved on and started a new business that is my entire focus. I felt the need to "date" just to see what was out there and was quickly ambushed by this overwhelming bullshit. I dated a few but, get so completely bored with any of them. They all have this need and throw guilt upon you if you can't see them, or you want to do something else. I figured I was just being an insensitive asshole. But, now I see that just comes from years of being married to an over controlling woman who belittled me if I didn't make enough money to buy her the car she wanted or if we couldn't afford to take family vacations. Even though I work close to 70-80 hrs a week. And I still ended up broke! With her student loan debt, because she wanted to be a photographer! Which, she is now, but makes no real income. If she could get paid for Facebook or Pinterest, then we could talk! Yes, I still have urges for sex and intimacy. Just not the baggage that comes with it. And I am about to end a dating relationship because it's just getting to be ridiculous! I find no joy in it and usually am annoyed by it! All I know is that I am happier alone. No hassles! I get to spend time with my kids on my terms. I am looking forward to being alone and traveling across the country in my "tiny house". Which I am building myself. Regardless, just know that I believe in what this stands for. And that I am much happier. And anyone who thinks they need someone for validation is total bullshit! And that's what I believe most people need a relationship for! To help you with your own self doubt. Someone to stroke that ego. Aside from lust, my only true love is for my kids who I would move the earth for! Stay strong and know it's possible to live live to the fullest. Have good friends to share those experiences with.