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Why am I such a useless coward? (self.MGTOW)

troubledsoul123 が 投稿

Hey guys. Just wanna rant about my generally cowardly behavior. I am someone who has social anxiety and as such, i can't actually make friends very well. The few "friends" i have at work are fucking assholes and always make me the butt of their jokes whenever we hangout. This is hence why i try to avoid confrontations and arguments with people whenever possible to make my life in my work/school easier. However there are certain times where i couldn't bear others' insults towards me, and almost wanted to burst, but more often then not i still clenched my fists and grinded my teeth. Even if i managed to get an outburst on a few rare occasions, i chickened out for fear of consequences and apologized to the person after that for losing control of my emotions. I am such a fucking wimp. But i can't stand the fear and anxiety of being bullied and ostracized should i stand up for myself. Should i change my attitude or remain a coward? I feel like this is not right being such a pussy...... Need some advice, thanks!

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[–]lonewolf-chicago 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Take a boxing class... not a boxing class at a really competitive place, a decent boxing school that allows you to train with people that might want to have an amateur fight someday, but they work. This is the kind of place you need.

It gets the frustration out, brother. I used to teach boxing for years and the immediate transformation that I would see (sometimes in the first class) was amazing.

People need to get their frustrations out. I'm serious, it helps so much. Not sure what city you live in, but I'd be happy to help you find a place.

I can't stress this enough! Again, not a place that will throw you in a ring and start throwing punches, a place that will allow you to take your frustrations out in a safe environment but they also teach decent technique.

[–]sadbasturd99 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I stood up to and defeated most of the bullies I met in my life. A few beat me up, not bad just kid stuff. I was super satisfying but....I am 42 now and I am fat and repulsive. It is usually once or twice a week or more someone makes comments about losing weight, about going for a walk, about diet, about drinking water, etc etc etc ad nauseum. I am supposed to take this is a compliment that they care, but I don't really think they care about me. I think they are just fucking assholes who care about themselves and not having to look at someone who disgusts them. So my point is that things come up over and over again in life.

My point is that you will have to deal with shitheads for the rest of your life. The closest thing I have found to what seems like an answer is ACT, acceptance commitment therapy. It has techniques (none of which I have mastered) that allows you to deal well with these horrible emotions. Good luck have fun.

[–]Zombocom1911 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

The main problem is, you give a shit about people and what they think of you. Cut every living thing out of your life that rubs you the wrong way with absolute impunity. You are the star of your life story - not them.

[–]Myfingersdontwork 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Get fit and learn a defensive fighting technique. This will give you the confidence to answer back to people and not put up with their shit.