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[–]witchy2628 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

Hey- I dated a guy with aspergers for a year. You'll find the right person, just be genuine and nice.

[–]LittleWindowpane[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I need to be more genuine and nicer than the average guy as I am much worse at lying and sometimes creep people out without meaning too. I finally have a few female friends, but I have no idea how to make it known that I am interested in someone without creeping her out and getting a reputation as the "weird creeper". Once, I asked an attractive women for her phone number. She was White; I'm not. She gave me some bullshit about not having a phone (I saw it) then spread a rumor about me being a pedophile.

I gave up after that: I figure people expect me to die alone.

[–]WestsideMoonWalkerKing of the Chadettes 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

Are there parts of your personality that you regularly suppress? Sometimes, when I wanted to fit in, I would suppress my really derpy and silly side and that made me come off as much more awkward. Obviously that might not be true for you, but that was something I experienced.

[–]LittleWindowpane[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

Well, I wish that I could express the desire to have romantic relationships without being seen as creepy. I gave up on that at 19 as the social skills simply are not there. After I accepted that I was dying alone, my interactions with women got a hell of a lot better. I had female friends. People assumed that I was gay or secretive, rather than some kind of predator or creep. Other men reacted to me in a more positive manner.

Is there any reason why women respond to me better when I present myself as asexual? I identify as demisexual-a woman with a strong, blunt personality's my cup of tea! I still fear that I will die alone and do not know how to cope with this-there's no societal support out there for those of us that go through life never having a romantic relationship.

[–]WestsideMoonWalkerKing of the Chadettes 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Honestly, and this is just my guess, the reason your interactions got better is because you are probably not pressing like you used to. Being relaxed and at ease, and not seeming like you want something from them (in general) makes the other person feel much more positively about you.

If you are suppressing various components of your personality because of pre-conceived notions of attractiveness, it probably comes off as rather awkward, much worse than just letting go, even if you are naturally awkward.

In general with relationships, it's much harder to form a happy, healthy relationship if you are desperate for a relationship, validation, or the like.

[–]EvyEarthling 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

It might be that women are just more comfortable around you when you aren't hitting on them.